My 4yr old is going to Pre-K but the neighbors son is to. He has ADHD? What should a parent do?

Question

My child is excited to go to school, but the little boy a couple houses down is going to be in school in the same class. He has ADHD. He is also Violent I am afraid he will disrupt her and other children's learning. What I want to know is Will the school do anything if they can't really handle him. And his parents are on different ends of the stick with helping him. I want all kids to get to school but how do we handle this.

Answer 1

My aunt does a lot of work with kids that have ADHD. The school will probably assign a special education teacher to him so that there is always some there to help him and to make sure that he is behaving, similar to what my aunt does. If a child is disruptive they will make him sit in the office/principals/counselors office if the child acts out of control. Some teachers treat kids with such diseases badly which can also effect the neighbor's child's education. If you are that worried my aunt would recommend that you try and switch teachers if possible if you are not comfortable with your child being around him. If you don't change his teacher than I would asked you child every day how things are going and make sure that he feels safe at school. If he doesn't than you need to go talk to the teacher/principal about the situation. Symptoms include not want to go to school or cries every morning when you drop him off. Good Luck.  

Answer 2

Well, if you don't want your child in an education system that is open to all you will have to pay for a private school.

Also, you have to face that you are simply not going to know how the school is handling it. You have no right to know. Would you want all the other parents to be told how the school handles your child's behaviour issues? Because she will have them. No child is perfect, not mine and not yours. You can ask the school what their policy is in general, but there's no way they'll tell you how they are handling a specific child - nor should they.

Answer 3

Unfortunately, you cannot shield your child from children who have ADHD or other conditions. If you have a good teacher, they will find ways to work around his behavior. There are things that teachers do to somewhat control children's behaviors and get them help if they need it. I have had children in my classes be violent AND aggressive and not once have I had a parent blame the child or me for any of it. From my understanding, there will be an assistant in the classroom, so that will help with him hitting the other children-there will be 2 adults. remember, your daughter will not be the only one in that class. Also, children are much more intuitive than we think. She will learn who to be friends with, wh to stay away from, who she likes and does not like.  

Answer 4

Umm a lot of kids have ADHD. You are being pretty closed minded about this. If he disrupted too much, they would put him in a seperate class. Hopefully he is on medication and its not your job to worry about it. Its his parents, and his teachers job.

Answer 5

You can ask the teacher if she documents a child's misbehavior.  If she does, then she should be able to kick him out of the school if he is unmanageable.  Let the teacher know your concerns and ask her what consequences there are for his misbehavior.  If she has been teaching for awhile then she's probably deal with behavior problems before and can deal with it.  

Also, if you're able to then occasionally volunteer to help out in the class room so you can watch for yourself what goes on.  

Remember that the best way to know if this is a problem or not is to ask your daughter what she thinks of preschool.  If she doesn't have a problem with him, then neither should you.

Answer 6

Home school your precious lil angel. Sorry, but you have many years of this to go! This question is really offensive by the way.

Answer 7

Has the child been diagnosed with ADHD?  If so, the school will work with the doctor to help report what the doctor needs from the school.  Behavior plans will be put into place and carried out.

From your end, you'll need to help your daughter learn how to work with difficult people and help her to understand that we still treat people with difficulties with respect and try to help them feel better.

Sounds like a great learning opportunity for both him and your daughter.  

Matt

Answer 8

I don't really think it's your problem to handle. His parents will soon find out if a preschool setting is best for their son. The child has to go to school to learn, right? If he gets too out of hand, like if he is violent towards the other children, or teacher, he disrupts class and the teacher can't control him, then the school's director should make a decision. Having ADHD doesn't mean he can't enjoy school like everyone else, he just might need a different approach.