My 5 year old nephew poos his pants and I'm concerned.?

Question

I am worried for him i don't know why he's doing it for or if theres somthing wrong, and my sister doesn't seem to really care (she's on medication for stress and has two other kids)

and he only see's his dad on weekends

should i take him to see a doctor without my sisters pemission?

i love my nephew and i'm worried

[Seriouse answers only please]

Answer 1

If he has never been clean, I would push for a medical examination. This may be available through the school nurse, or you could have a word with his dad.

If he has only recently started doing this, first I would check that there isn't a simple explanation for example, if the poo is normal then he may be trying to hold it in due to not liking the toilet for some reason (e.g. may find it difficult to wipe, or may feel unsafe sitting on an adult size seat)

If the poo is runny and there is a lot he may have a food intolerance or stomach bug or something causing him to lose control. If there is only a little he may be constipated (a large poo blocks the intestines and only runny poo can get past).

I would go with making him clean himself up and dispose of his own underwear. Give him as little attention as possible during this time (give him simple instructions in a neutral tone). Don't shout or be sympathetic. That way, if he is attention seeking he won't get the attention he wants. If he is being lazy, he will soon learn that it is easier to use the toilet.

Answer 2

an old mom's trick...a 5 year old knows where the bathroom is...

give him a bucket to wash out his undies when he has an accident...he will not like doing his own laundry for the problem he is causing to himself....

Answer 3

just try to potty train him again.

i think thats the only way to stop it

Answer 4

I no your worried honey,But you cant do that,Its up to your sister its her child,Try talking to your sister see what she says,you sound like a good aunt but you have to let your sister deal with it ,good luck.

Answer 5

its nothing serious to worrie about really it could be just for attention or felling left out what with your sister having other children my advice is DON'T take him take him to your g.p with out your sisters concent it will only make matters worse i no from expreance i no its hard and frustrating but after all its your sisters child and she will ave to sort it herself

Answer 6

It sound like it could possibly be an attention seeking issue, but could also be worry, it doesn't sound like he has a very stable enironment, I would suggest asking a health visitor to call in and see them but ask her not to tell your sister you arranged it, you don't want to lose her trust.

Answer 7

you cant take him without her permission plus what is a doctor really gonna be able to do? his problem is more likely mental then physical. Try talking to him at a level he'll understand, the only person who knows why is your nephew himself!