My 6 year old Boy will not train!?

Question

My 6 year old keeps on having accidents at school, today he has gone in his pants 2 times . What is the problem? Is this some form of Ausbergers? He also has other symptems. He's not stupid, he is a very intelligent child.

Answer 1

I worked in a preschool for many years and the biggest tip I can give is to make the child clean themselves up. Make them change their own clothes and wipe down whatever mess they've made. Especially at 6, your son is old enough to do this. In many cases, this has been the extra push that the child (especially boys) needed. 6 is a bit old for accidents though, have you spoken to your child's dr.? It's worth making an appointment to make sure that the issue isn't a medical one. As far as Aspergers, I've never heard of this as a sign or symptom.

Answer 2

Well no wonder, if you're going to treat a child like a dog you're going to get a child who acts like a dog...you TRAIN a dog...not a child.

Answer 3

I had 2 in kindergarten at the same time. At this age they are more interested in playing with their friends and having fun than worrying about going to the bathroom. They grew out of it but even at eight, one of them still would rather hold it than to miss anything. Especially at school.

If he is showing other symptoms, it wouldn't hurt to take him to a psychologist. Even though I don't consider his "accidents" as a symptom, he was showing other signs of possible ADHD. I took him to my local mental health services and it turns out he does have it.

Trust your instincts. Only you know your child.

Answer 4

well... have u told him to use the bathroom?

Put ur 6 year old on the toilet and tell him "you have to use this when u need to go to the bathroom ok?" and then give him a cookie. Everytime u see him go to the bathroom on the toilet give him a treat. It helps, even tho it may look like ur child is a dog. But perhaps ur child does not want to go to the bathroom in a public area. Just tell ur son to hold it in until he gets home, I can go from 7AM to 2PM w/o having to use the bathroom, so I never have to use it in high school.

Answer 5

I would see a urologist this could be a medical problem.  Sooner rather than later the social affects of this could be life altering.

Answer 6

you train dogs not children

Answer 7

What other symptoms?  Talk to your Doctor about this. Your son  might need to have a check-up.  Is he getting along well in school?  Does he like the other kids and so forth?  It could be something as simple as he is feeling a little stressed.  i wouldn't worry about it but I would talk to my Doctor and get him into have a check-up.  Hope I helped.  Mom of two.

Answer 8

First I have to say that making the child clean up their own mess at that age might border on child neglect and cruelty.  You cannot expect a six year old to have that level of responsibility.

(based on what another user said).

There are some possible problems that this could indicate:

- Bladder problem (which I had at that exact age)

- Hes being abused or bullied (peeing pants is a big sign of an emotional problem)

- His teacher is mean or neglectful

It could also be that he is just six and not interested in going to the bathroom.  Although I would talk to a doctor to be on the safe side and if nothing is physically wrong perhaps prompt him to talk to you about what else might be going on.

Good luck.  Sending positive thoughts your way.

Answer 9

First of all Carly, the Bible says " Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6 If we train our children they will do well. So yes, you do train your child!!

There might be something going on at school and he is just not making it to the bathroom. Does his teacher not allow him to go if he has to go? My friends son wet his pants because theteacher told him no and he held it for over an houe and still he wasn't allowed to go. He wet himself and no one even called his mom or dad or me. I like a block from the school.

Just have a heart to heart with him, let him know he isn't in trouble. Just talk to him.

Good luck!