My 6 year old is lying bad?

Question

We have 6 kids in our house. My 3 and my 3 step kids. I 6 year old. My youngest has been lying and it is getting out og control. He will lie and say that he didn't do something. Simple things like did you put your bike away. He will say yes and when we say no you didn't he will say oh I forgot. He lies at school and I don't know when to trust him and when not to anymore. It is hurting my relationship cause I keep beleiving him and his step dad will ground him to his room for 3 days and I let him out cause I think it is to much. I don't know what to do anymore. He throw his favorite gameboy game in the pool said he didn't do it that someone else did. So cory gronded him for a week. I didn't think that he would do that this is his favorite game. and he kept saming he did and crying he didn't that his friend did. Cory and i fought over it He said he say zac. Then this morning when i was talking to zac he said his friend told him to. so he is grounded still. what do I do to get him to sto

Answer 1

I think this child does have problems.

I too had six children and I know how hard it can be.

Try and give this child a little more of your time, I think he seems to be seeking attention, and of cause always praise good behaviour, with a little time and understanding he will grow away from this soon.

Good Luck to you :: )

Answer 2

my son went through a "truth impaired" phase.  we took every opportunity to stress that integrity was one of our most important family values.  we chose read-aloud books that had that theme; praised him when he was honest, especially when he was honest about something hard, like something he'd be in trouble for; praised others for being honest when he was listening; and had separate predictable consequences for being untruthful as well as for whatever offense he was being untruthful about.

it took a few weeks, but it worked, and now a year or more later he's still a really honest kid.

Answer 3

BEAT HIM!

GO TO THE COUNSLER!

Answer 4

Talk to him about it. Tell him that lying is the wrong thing to do, and then maybe reward him for telling the truth.

Answer 5

put soap in his mouth! my mom did that to me , i didn't lie any more. when i was i that white lie stage  just a little dab of soap will fix the problem..... then he will go from let me lie so i don't get i trouble to i don't want soap in my mouth, i'll tell the truth..

Answer 6

well obviously what you and your hubby are doing is not working...so you need to find something different to do...like talk to him about lying...reward him small simple things when he is truthful, praise him when he is truthful, when he is untruthful...make sure you let him know you are disappointed in him for lying, and take away something that is very important to him...or a privilege he enjoys, and tell him he cannot have it back until you see improvement.

Answer 7

well when u know he is lying just say y are u lying to me if he says hes not say realy or just put him in timeout every time he lies

Answer 8

I wouldn't worry to much, he will grow out of it. I have watched Documentaries on thing like this and they think that a person has a High IQ when they lie when their younger. Simply i think he realises, if he lies he will  not get in trouble or he wont have to do something

Answer 9

I would say when he lies maybe ground him to his room for a day but the game thing was a little much.

Answer 10

He won't grow out of it.It all starts when he lies for the 1st time and he sees he got away with it.Then he starts doing it more and more.Do your parents think he's innocent and stuff?Mabye that's how it started.While he's growing up he might get away with all his lyes and what happens from that point is he will lye more often and become really good at it.If your parents do something to him like put spice in his mouth or ground him bad the next,or third,or maybe fifth time he will say in his mind oh i better not lye cause i don't went this to happen to me again.But i am very sure is that it's not good for a little bot to start lying alot and get used to it at a young age

Answer 11

Start by believing nothing that he says.  Speak to him.  When he tries to convince you of something, say, "Why should I believe you?  You've lied to me before.  How do I know you're telling the truth?"  Emphasize the positive.  Focus your attention on truth telling, and reward it positively.  For instance when passing out cookies I have looked at someone and said, "I can't remember.  Did I already give you a cookie?"  

Truthful answer, "Yes, you did."

My reply, "Well, thanks for telling the truth.  Since you told me the truth you may have a second cookie."

Play against the games that reward lying.  Reward truth telling.

Right now he may think one of two things:  

"If I lie I will postpone the trouble"

or

"If I lie they will pay more attention to me and try to get the truth out of me."

You must prevent lying from paying him any dividends.  Make truth pay dividends instead.

Answer 12

well to be honest,i think that your son is lieying to get your attention because maybe he feels that his step dad is getting all your attention and since you said that you have step kids perhaps he feels unconfortable.This is a phase that he is going through but it also could mean that he wants you and his step dad to brake up and they could do anything trust me i did the same when i was small cause i didnt like my step dad and i wanted him to get sick of me  and move out or for my mom to throw him out..he is only 6 yrs old and punishing him with out getting an answer to why he lie is not the proper way to do it.sit down with him and ask him why he lies and try to make him talk to you,show him love..he will continued lieying until his step dad stops punishing him..why not ask him why he is doing this..he is only 6 yrs old and this is the time that usually kids his age do incredible things just to get attention even if it has to be about lieying or braking things around the house.dont let him feel left out from the others -he is not a bad kid like his step dad sees him-he is your baby-work with him and help his issues.take a day and go out with your son and spend some quality time with him alone.perhaps there is too many kids in the house and he is screaming for help and to be with his mommy-Good Luck

Answer 13

I have 4 kids and my 5 year old started this.....we are a blended family as well! It sounds like he is just needing more attention he is lacking something! a bond! Try taking him on special outings for just him and give  him al ittle more attention for the next 2 weeks ... see how his attitiude and lying is affected! I bet he does a turn around! and grounding a 6 year old like that IS CHILD ABUSE! tht needs to stop and that could be making the problem WORSE!!!!  NO tV or no bike  for the rest of the day is ok or time out  FOR ^ minutes to think about it is OK!  

Let this situstion slide... tell him look you are not telling me the truth and we are gonna start fresh! you are allowed out but hings are gonna change You need to talk to me more and I NEED TO LISTEN to YOU more!

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 14

There tends to be a phase in childhood in which you feel that you are entitled to lie because you want to blame something that you really did on someone else.

Also, children tend to grow out of that phase. I do recommend that you speak to your child and explain what is correct and incorrect. Make sure that your child knows that lying is bad.

If your child continues to lie, I would have slight punishments, such as taking away a toy, or making him/her sit in a 'naughty' seat.

Either way, make it extremely evident to your child that lying is inappropriate and absolutely not okay.

Answer 15

This happens when kids are trying to find their feet but as a parent its a worry andsomething that we all need to be vigilant about.

I went down the road of giving a smack and then would feel terrible after (much more than my son!) so I stopped that for both of our sakes.

Now we take away something of great importance to him, which right now is his Nintendo DS Lite.  That really seems to hit the spot with him and the tears really start to flow.

We sit down with him and explain in the simplest language what trust is all about and how trust is something that all Mummy's and Daddy's want to have for their children but if that trust is continually broken, we just can't believe them any more.  We give examples relevant ourson of where he needed to be trusted but how he would feel if Mummy and Daddy didn't believe him.

Its a long slow process and not something that changes over night but with positive reinforcement, you will raise a healthy, happy and honest child.

Good luck!

Answer 16

Put him over your knee..

Answer 17

Lies are something we have never tolerated in our house. It's one of the worst offenses and it boils down to this - when my kids are old enough, I had better not be lied to about where they are, what they are doing or who they are with. Also - they have to be accountable for wrongs they have committed. If one broke something valuable, I want them to own up to it and do so right away. How can they live life as adults if they can't say sorry immediately for wrongs they've done and admit it was their fault???

One thing that worked for us - with my most stubborn - when she lied and I knew she was lying, we had a very intense discussion about it. I told her she would be in so much more trouble if she continued to lie. She was crying and eventually fessed up. Then she asked, "Am I going to get spanked for this?"  - I smiled at her and said, "No, of course not!" She hugged me and as soon as she turned to walk away, I gave her a really good spank. She yelled, "You said you weren't going to do that!" I smiled and asked, "How does it feel to be lied to? That is exactly how I felt when you lied to me!" - she has never lied since.

We have spanked when it was the end of the line for discipline - you have to decide if that's right for you. Giving the liar a dose of their own medicine works though - it's worth a shot. I couldn't put up with what you're going through and if it doesn't get fixed, it will get worse. He is looking for some kind of attention - but this cannot be how he gets it. You need to frustrate him.

Best Wishes!

Answer 18

well the issue is u have really bad typo :]



on another note :

He is just a little boy so u need to lay down the law and tell him

to quit it out ..show him who is boss.. also sit down and talk to his step dad and tell him you cant baby him because then he is going to think he is still a baby and he is going to get away with it again..and again ..and again because he knows if he gets grounded his step dad is going to let him out.

u need to also tell him that its not funny to lie i think u and his step dad need to beat him if he dosnt listen and if ur husband or boy friend thinks its to harsh then

when he isnt there u set the little boy straight.

well gl :]

Answer 19

Why are you punishing your boy when you are the one that put him in this impossible situation?  And it's not getting any better, as your cory keeps disciplining him and you partly go along with it.

Neither of you should discipline the other's child.  Your kids are messed up enough losing their father (whether for good or bad reason) and bringing in some other guy to punish them doesn't help.  It's easy enough for you to get another guy, but they can't get another father.  Look at it from their point of view.

Maybe if you get some family counseling you can create some semblance of stability for the children.

Answer 20

I go through this, my little cousin lies all the time. And you can tell, cuz she exaggerates it sooooo much. I never beleive her when she says she got all A's on her report card, mostly because she isn't a good  student. But that was when she was like 6 too. She's 9 now and is growing out of it, but she still lies.