My 6 year old son doesn't want to go to school anymore :(?

Question

My son is in Kindergarden he was doing fine, however then he got sick and didn't go to school for 4 days, he stayed one day with his sitter, then me and my fiancee, the next day with me and then with my mom. Thursday he had to go back and he told me that he had cried in the lunch room and didn't want to go back to school, I tried asking him different questions, he just says the people in the lunch room are too loud and that he just wants to stay home with us I tell him that it's important to go to school but he doesn't want to hear it, he says that he'll come with me to work or stay with my fiancee,etc. he just doesn't want to go, on Friday he cried again and told me about it, and this morning as he was eating breakfast again he started crying. I asked him if there was any kids teasing him or being mean and he says no. I'm thinking it may just be because he didn't go to school for 4 days.

Is there anything you think I should ask him? My fiancee spoke to his teacher about it today.

Answer 1

thats such a shame. i really hope that he isnt being bullied or harrased by other children. Maybe read him a nice book about school and all the things that u can do. If he's still at home, treat him like hes at school and dont let him play and relax. Make him do schoolwork type things and be strict on him...that should have him running back to school, i hope.

Keep talking to teachers and perhaps take him along to a meeting with urself and teacher and see wot he says. I hope it gets better soon.

Answer 2

have u thought of a home tutor???

Answer 3

My daughter went though a time where she didn't want to go to school too.  then i had a long talk with the teacher and found out that my daughter was going to the nurse every other day also, and around the same time.  My daughter wanted to stay home because when she is sick i let her watch TV all day and i weight on her hand and foot...so i stoped that quick, when she is sick she has to stay in bed all day no TV and i know it sounds ruff but it worked.  now she wants to go to school.  but also in talking to the teacher i found that she was having a really hard time paying attention in school and never finished her work and always wanted to go to the nurse during reading time... well to make a long story short we had her tested for ADD and now she is on conserta  which has helped so much, she is doing all her work, wants to go to school,  grades are going up, hasn't been to the nurse in a while, and her confidence level has gone through the roof.  So, with your son it could be any number of things, may be hearing may be kids picking on him or something else...Make sure you talk to his teacher and tell her your concerns and maybe ask her to keep an eye on him during lunch.....GL

Answer 4

well maybe he is being bullied by some one you should talk to him and see what is really going on or have a parent/teacher conference to see if there is something he is not telling you

Answer 5

Alright, I recommend the drill sergeant approach. I know its rough when the apple of your eye is tugging at your heartstrings, but the reality is...he's 6, youre not. Its realtively the same as grocerystore tantrums over candy. It wont ruin your relationship with him to be firm. This too will pass. I believe youre right...4 days out of school, Id have probably shot for a lifetime too, had I had my mommy wrapped around my finger. On the offchance that there is bullying going on, have the teacher keep a sly eye on peer interaction. Afterall, nobody wants to confess to their parents that theyre having trouble.

Answer 6

i have a 6 yr old who hated school too.. i had a long talk with the teacher and apparently the teacher had put such a focus on him cause my son as playing shy in class.. TOO shy.. the treacher would alert the students to call on her if my son would smile to praise him  but that in turn made him more introvert in class.. the teacher meant well but it got to the point were he wanted to stay home or switch classes..and very down on himself.. my son is sensitive  but slowly growing out of it.. try to figure out whats going on in the class room.  there might be kids teasing him and he wont admit. mayb he needs a little more attention than the rest... there are some amazing teachers who can catch up wtih some kids personalities and work with them.. my kids are kids of divorced parents and with my 9yrold boy who is very different than the little one same situation happened.. the teacher was very new,,first year teaching and he did not enjoy school at all.. the school told me that he sholuld go to a psychiatrist beacuse he was not dealing with the divorce right.. i took him because  i am afraid of the schools labeling my kids,, the psychiatrist said.. that he had no problems and that the teachers needed to deal with him differently because he was bright and bored.... now on 4th grade he has a teacher that has allowed him to blossom,....  he has less pressure and the change has been sognificant...dont give up.. explore EVERYTHIN!!  it could be your family situation , it could be school, teachers.... he will do so well as long as he knows you are on his side..   much luck to you.. i know exactly what you are going thru. would love to know what the out come wil be..

Answer 7

If my kid said school was "too loud", I would have her ears checked.  Maybe her ears are too sensitive.  

At this age, it may siimply be separation anxiety.  Kids don't want to leave their parents.  Staying at home they are comfortable, secure and have all their stuff.  Maybe your boy just needs to make a good friend or have a teacher doat on him a little extra.  Ask the teacher to give him a special job, one that no other kid has.  She could call him her special helper, which will give him a sense of mission and purpose which could empower him to want to go to school.

Answer 8

I went through that with my 6 year old kindergartner son after a long bout of sickness compounded with a couple snow days. Add the weekend and a holiday it added up to like 7 days off in a row.

He cried when I told him he had to go back, and then cried for the next two mornings getting him ready for school. I know it hurts your heart, but it sounds like you've covered all the logical reasons. Now you just have to work through the tears and just get him into school every morning.

Maybe at bedtime tell him he's going to school tomorrow and tell him he needs to help mommy out by not fighting you about it in the morning. I find that getting my son "primed" about things he doesn't want to do smoothes things out a bit better when the time comes.

Best of luck. I know it rips your heart out.