My 6 year old son is destroying my life or at least trying.

Question

My son is contantly telling his mother or people assicioated with his mother lies about me and my family. Recently he said that he witnessed my Fiancee slapping me and cursing me which did not happen. And most recent he said that he seen me watching Porno on TV which is a complete lie. The thing is is that his mother usually believes him and takes action such as calling Child Protection Services on me. This happens over and over. What am I to do?? How do you punish for these lies that can destroy me?? My son has ADHD and has went through some counsel, but Jesus, what do I do>?

Answer 1

ADHD has nothing to do with lying, i have it and i =m a very honest person so dont blame that. u need to talk with ur son and ask him if he understands if he keeps telling lies he wont be able to see u and that u would really not want that to happen. he may be acting out bc ur getting married, i used to hate my moms boyfriends, i didnt tell lies but i was really not nice to them. talk to him hes 6, not 2, he can talk about what hes feeling and why hes doing these things

Answer 2

Based on some of the other issues you've already faced, I would say your son may be getting his lies from the mother to get you into trouble. Have mentioned before seeing welts on him from where the mother (or her boyfriend) hit him. This is when you take him to the doctor and voice your concern over the physical abuse he's under. With luck, you'll get custody. Even if you don't, you leave a paper trail of evidence.

As for this specific issue, you may want to sit down and talk to your son about what might happen if someone believes his lies, and why its important to tell the truth.

good luck

Answer 3

Good luck?

This is the reason i always wear protection and never want kids.

Answer 4

I don't know if I believe you.

Why would a 6 year old lie about you watching porno?  How does a 6 year old know ANYTHING about porno??  It's learned behavior, that's how.

And him saying he saw your fiance' slapping your face and cussing you out is probably true too.  Why would a 6 year old make up such a fantastic lie??  I don't think he did - he saw/learned this behavior from somewhere.

And if it really isn't true, you need to start asking his mother just what in the h**l is going on in her house.  Instead of whining and complaining that a 6 year old is "destroying your life", DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

You are his father, right??  You're the adult, right??

Start acting like it.

Answer 5

There must be some truth to what your son says.  I would have a hard time believing that  a 6 year old could come up with all of this stuff without seeing it somewhere.

Answer 6

Hes getting it from somewhere. If not you then somewhere else. Kids that little dont just make stuff like that up. If your child isnt lying you should really re-evaluate your self and your relationship with your son. If he really IS making it up you had better keep your eyes wide open and figure out where hes getting it from. ADHD has nothing to do with it. You DO NOT punish him for these "lies". If you are honest you find out where he is getting such c**p.

Answer 7

Check into family counseling.  Hopefully you can get your ex-wife involved in it also.  Even though the two of you are divorced, you will always be your son's parents and it is a lot healthier for him if you can be a team and not against each other.  Once you're on the same side, your son can't play you against each other.  Hopefully through family counseling you can find out why he's telling these lies.  Good Luck!

Answer 8

This sounds hard especially cuz he is a kid. Maybe he is not getting any attention over there with his mom and he feels this is the only way he can. I suggest a video camera when hes around, sorta like a nanny-cam. This can be your proof. Maybe if you sit down and talk to him things can change. you can ground him or sit him in time out for his behavior. Just because he has AHDH is NOT an excuse for this boy to get what he wants. Lay the law down and follow through. Good luck.  

Answer 9

My advice from what I just read above is that you have a Fiance. Now I don't know anything about when you and your sons mother got a divorce but it seems to me that maybe your son is a little upset. At this age a lot of parents where I live are still married and their kids love to talk about what them and their parents did, maybe he's not ready for you to move on to another woman. Often kids lie about things for attention as well, even though your son may be acting out, I think you need to focus on him more than anything, cause that's what I think he needs right now.