My 6 year old wets and poops himself because 'HE DOESNT FEEL IT COMMING OUT'?

Question

He has Asperger's Syndrome but I really don't think that is the issue...He just says that "He doesn't feel when it is going to come out"...but he really does because he hops around all over the place to hold the urine in...He just says hes sorry.. we have done everything... take away his video games toys etc everything..sometimes he just yells and says MOMMA I DID A DUNK IN THE TOILET! In the moring he goes to the toilet.. and some times during the day..During school he wears pull on sports pants and jeans because he has trouble with buttons.. and he goes fine in school...Im just sostressed out & worried because kindergarten was half day and first grade starts soon which is full day...thanks!!!

Answer 1

I Understand how you feel anouther family member of mine went throught the same thing also as Aspergers Syndrome, What i did was reward program, First off explain  that the importance of going to the tolite means, Then explain a great reward system your child might like put up a chart showing when he goes to the tolite and at the end of the week .Show  the reward to him so he knows you have it in advance, But don,t let him have it untill the week ends and the consistance of going to the tolite,( Remember paitance ), Belive me i know how hard it is, it take time,

And maybe find sports pants with just the elastic in them as as firm fit to get off and on, Let his school teacher know if you go with the rewards program, so let your child know that they also will let you know about how great he was going to the tolite at school, When he uses the tolite make a big deal of it to him how proud clap cheer ect ect.....

I Hope this help in someway,

As this is what i did and hey presto in 3mths he got the hang off it,

Cheers

Answer 2

You said you took away video games and stuff, have you also tried rewarding? go a whole day without potty accidancts and get a reward or something?

Answer 3

not to be mean to him but let him clean the mess upa few times and see how it changes.

Answer 4

Talk to his pediatrician and make sure something more serious isn't going on BUT, I had a similar issue with my son and I found that he was just too busy playing and didn't want to be bothered with going to the bathroom.  And he would hold it so long that it would leak out without him even realizing.

He eventually outgrew it.

One thing that helped was getting him involved with the clean up.  If he had to wash his underpants, he was more motivated to avoid the whole ordeal.

Answer 5

talk with the doctor first to rule out medical. When he does this do you help him get changed? If so then stop helping. He has to clean himself, wash out the clothes and redress. This will help him stop doing it if it is behavioural

Answer 6

Trust me.  When he poops or pees in his pants at school and other kids laugh, he'll figure it out pretty quick.  He won't like being singled out in that way.  His teachers won't like it either and they'll make there disapproval known to him.  He may need another adult(s) other than his parents to get this message across to him.  So..... unless there is physical reason he can't control his bowels or bladder, there is no reason other than he knows he can get away with it at home.   h**l, I'd put him back in diapers if thats what it took.  He won't like that either!!  As harsh as this may seem, a little public humliation will turn this around.

Answer 7

We have a lot in common.  My six-year-old is an Aspie, too, and has "poopie problems" as we call it. ;c)

I can understand your stress, especially with school coming up.  

It's only very recently that mine has learned to p**p in the potty and he still has accidents on a semi-regular basis.  

With any of his struggles, I just try to remember that he will get it eventually.  There are some things he just has to figure out for himself and that is going to take a little more time than it might for others.

Best of luck!

Answer 8

well dont punish him for it. tell him nicely that its not polite and its okay to go in the toilet and pooping in his pants isnt good for him.

Answer 9

its a common issue its called encopresis....basically the gist is that he is holding in his p**p or did at some point and the muscles are stretched out until he cant feel it anymore and so some slids out b/c it cant fit in anymore.  it isnt his fault and he is telling the truth.  my daughter is 4 1/2 and had the same problem.  we tried fiber but she doesnt drink alot which can then make the issue worse, prunes she wouldnt eat. finally we tried miralax and she is fine now.  we are down to 1/2 a dose daily and she goes everyday, still larger poops but soft and she never complains.  try miralax and talk to his doctor.  good luck