My 6 yr old son wished on a wishbone that his father would die, I am very upset about this. What should I do?

Question

My 6 yr old son wished on a wishbone that his father would die, I am very upset about this. What should I do?

Answer 1

Children are very sensitive to what is going on in the house. I just had an issue with my seven year old acting out so her father and I would fight and get a divorce. I was equally as mortified when she told me that as you were when your son said what he said.  At this age these are just words to children. They don't understand the hurt that they cause. If I were you I would sit him down and calmly ask him why he said what he said. He may not want to talk about why he is upset so try to over reasons why he may be upset with his father ie. "has daddy been yelling too much, do want to spend more time with daddy, how has daddy hurt your feelings?"  Good luck I know exactly how you feel.

Answer 2

Talk to him about Death and that he shouldn't wish it on anybody.  

But also remember he's young, and I remember when i was about that age i did the same thing, it's a little phase most kids go through.  

Try not to stress over it.

Answer 3

He's too young to grasp the concept of death.  Most kids that age, unless they've experienced it, have no idea of the finality of death.  Just make sure his dad (and you) spend quality time with  him.

Answer 4

That probably depends on why he wished this.  Is he spoiled and his father said "no" to something unreasonable he wanted?  Then you need to work on unspoiling him and giving him empathy for others.  Or, on the other end of the spectrum, is his father abusing him?  Then you would need to do something about the father and the abuse.

Answer 5

I would first explain to him that what he did was wrong, then ask him to apologize to his father and possibly take away his favorite toy for a day or 2 and/ or make him stand in the corner.The best thing to do is to talk to your child try to refrain from raising your voice even though it may be hard at times. I would also try and find out what made him act like that.. is there something that made him angry? If so try to teach him how to deal with anger in a better way, otherwise it will probably only get worse.

I would also try to get Daddy to explain to him how much he loves his son, no matter what he does and how that hurts his feelings.

I hope this helped you out.

Answer 6

First I would find out WHY he wants his father to die. If it's a silly reason (like dad won't let him have a toy from the toystore) then I would simply explain that that is very mean and that he is too young to know what "die" REALLY means (at 6 kids think death is temporary and can't grasp the full concept) and tell him that it hurts your feelings when he says mean things about daddy.

Then leave it at that.

He's a child and doesn't understand concepts of life and death as an adult does.

However if something is going on between him and his dad that is causing severe negative feelings, someone (a professional) may need to step in.

Answer 7

Talk to your son about it.

Answer 8

ask him why he wished that

Answer 9

What Katie W said,,, Plus,, it really is directed to what

context the child said it in,, If this child was matter of fact

and not animated when this comment was made,, you have

some issues that need to be addressed., By professionals.

U want to take the child away from the home, to a neutral

enviorment,, Don't elude to abuse, But just ask the child

to expand on what he ment,, when he made that wish,,, If

it comes out again in the same manner as before,, you have

problem and it needs to be addressed.

Answer 10

explain to him that we never wish anyone dead, no matter how upset we are with them.... and then find out why he has so much anger towards his father....

Answer 11

O wow...

How terrible...

Personally you should not go on the Internet to get advice on how to discipline your child

You should discipline him the best way that you think is best

Answer 12

Is there a reason for him to wish his father would die?