My 7,5 year old has these violent anger outburst, how do I make him stay in time out when I can't catch him?

Question

They say not to spank your child but I do when I can catch him. Even if I did catch him how would I make him stay in a time out? I am his Grandma raising him, he is swift and fast and I am not. He has these violent anger issues, he weighs 80 lbs, wears a mens shoe size 6 and is as tall as my shoulders. He's huge for his age, how will I control him in a couple of years if I can't do it now? He thinks he runs the house and has authority issues, doesn't listen and tells me me stop talking when I try to discipline him. How can I get control now?

Answer 1

Try to change the environment at home to prevent experiences or situations that will lead to unnecessary stress, anger or frustration between you and him.

Do not take his anger personally. This will have direct influence on him. The angrier you are, the more anger he might have inside him too.

It is also important to remember that behavior can be very difficult to change and that it takes a lot of patience. Turning an aggressive child into a nonaggressive child will not happen overnight.

Answer 2

rime out doesn't work for all kids...didn't work for my middle one at all.  Find another punishment. Taking away toys/priveledges. Or (this is horrible, lol) when mine really acts out, my husband issues military style punishment...exercise.

Answer 3

Well YOU created the "Monster" by hitting him.  Hitting a child is not disciplining him.  Hitting a child is simply using physical violence and you are in essence teaching him that it's okay to hit when something doesn't go your way...So yeah he's going to pick up on that one day and start slapping YOU around.  Discipline is guidence, teaching, mentoring.  As far as getting control fo your grandson?  I doubt you ever will...especially as long as you continue to hit him.

Answer 4

The key to "control" has nothing to do with who is bigger and stronger and faster. It's about gaining respect and showing the child you are in charge.

Try taking away privilages such as TV, video games, toys, etc...Give one warning and then that's it, you have to be consistent and follow through without continuing to warn time after time or he will know he doesn't have limits. You have to feel confident and he has to see that confidence so he knows you mean it.

If you use time out, you have to just continue to put him back in the chair and use a timer so he'll know how much time is left to sit. Tell him if he doesn't stay sitting he will lose a privilage for each time he gets up. then stick to it!

Have heart felt talks with him about emotions and feelings and how you are trying to help him be happy. Try using rewards for good behavior as well...not bribery but reward charts are good to give them an incentive to behave.

Answer 5

Take him to see a psychologist

Answer 6

I say, go and see if you can get "Supernanny" on DVD.. It seems that is the constant issue in all her shows! She always seems to get the kids to obey time outs! Hey... maybe call and try to get on the show!! Couldnt hurt!

Answer 7

Read the book 1..2..3.. Magic.

Other than that, you don't need to catch him.  Ground him, take away special privileges.  It may get worse before it gets better but hold strong and he'll turn around.

Answer 8

My son had this promblem with his games. If he lost he started screaming got mad and even once brought a knife into my room and said if you dont buy me that game I kill u.I brought him to a doctor and now its like hes an all new kid.