My 7 year old boy is very angry at times and then very good sweet and sensitive too???????

Question

i have 2 boys, one is 4 and other is 7. They fight very often and is usually my 7 year old just antaganising my 4 year old. The 4 year old just gets so tired of it that he usually halls of a wacks him, then 7 yr old crying, acting the victim cuz 4 yr old hit him, when really he started all of this. I can handle the situation when im home with them, as i usually split them up into 2 different corners or different chairs on other end of the rooms. When i have a babysitter is when i have the problem. I am a single mom and only have a babysitter when i work. I get constant phone calls at work from the sitter or my 7 yr old son that things are crazy. They usually involve my son being very disrespectful toward them or beating up his brother. Being disrespectful being when they ask him to do or not do something he becomes very angry telling them to shut up, your not my boss, i dont have to listen to you, or throwing things, or tipping the garbage over and refuses to do what they ask. When they call me and i tell him im on my way home he usually runs to the corner and sits there until i arrive. i dont know what the problem is and am getting so frustrated with this. When i get home everyone is so upset and he has just started playing flag football so i usually get dinner quick and head off to his practice with him and his brother. I have thought of telling him that he will miss practice as a punishment but then i dont do that in fear that he will miss them and either fall behind with it or be kicked off the team. Please help me......anyone with advise!!!! thank you in advance

Answer 1

maybe he has bi-polar disorder

Answer 2

your son may be Bi=polar, but it really sounds like he had A.D.H.D. and there is medication he can be put on to equal out his ups +downs! {ATTENTION DEFICIENT HYPERACTIVE DISORDER},  that simply means your child has too much hyperactiveness, for him to be able to sit for any length of time, he can not concentrate and that will drive him crazy, because he doesn't know why, it can be controlled with medication, and  he gets into his teen-age years he'll grow out of it,go to your doctor and ask him to check your son for ADHD, and you also could get him at the same time for bipolar but mam I don't he has Bi-Polar disorder(that simply means he has too many ups& downs and can not control his bursts of being mad, being happy, being sad, ADHD is My middle son had ADHD, but now he's 24 yrs.old, and is ok>Your son will be ok too! Good Luck!

Answer 3

sounds like this little lad is wanting more of your attention. not that you dont give him any, but some kids this age just want and need more.

could you possibly put some time aside for him a couple of times a week, just for the two of you? maybe when the younger one goes to bed. play a fav game, or watch a movie together. this might show him how much you value him as an individual, and how important he is to you. be prepared to keep specific days/eves for this though to make it into a routine.

i cant help wondering if you need a new babysitter. she/he sounds as if they cant cope very well with the tantrums.