My 7 year old dances suggestively?

Question

I have a really odd question. My 7 year old daughter dances very well...too well. How can I talk with her about this without it coming across wrong. I don't want to make her self conscious, but I dont want her dancing like a stripper. I can't explain it too her about it being "unsafe", because I don't want to tell her more than she ought to know for her age. It makes people uncomfortable because her dances seem suggestive. I don't know where she learned to dance like this either. Does anyone have any advice on how to approach this?

Answer 1

You need to find out where she is learning it from. If she has her own T.V. try putting a parental lock on the music channels. I have seen the way people dance on MTV and it really is not appropriate. Also I would try teaching her a (better) way to dance. Maybe you could put her in dance classes to help her find a more appropriate way to dance.

good luck

Answer 2

ooooooo mumumumumumumu!!! you have a SWTB daughter! thats bad

Answer 3

She's lucky- I'm fourteen and I can't get my body to move naturally. I look so stiff dancing. It's so embarrassing lol.

Love Haleigh<3

Answer 4

Take her on a mommy-daughter meal.  Talk to her about how much you like her dancing, but ask her where she learned it.  Family?  Friends?  TV?  Music videos?  Then talk about ages, how a 12 year old or a 18 year old is going to dance differently than a 7 year old, and that part of that has to do with being old enough to date.  Talk about how some parts of the body are special and should not be shown off.  Watch people dancing and show her how some moves show off the dancer's butt.  Her butt is a place covered by her undies and so is a place that other people shouldn't touch.  SO... dancing that shows it off isn't very good, right?  

Then try to get her into a dance class that will help her learn dance moves that you find more appropriate.  She'll have to learn how to dance where it doesn't show things off, and yeah that will make her self conscious for a little while.  

Also... talk to her about predators.  You may not want to go into a lot of details, but just "these are areas that are off-limits to everyone" and such.  You can incorporate "don't dance in ways that show off those areas to people" rules.

Answer 5

she proabably learn from tv....you should teach her how to dance yourself!

Answer 6

Yes, you can explain it to her.

There really isn't a reason why you can't tell her that's a not-so-great thing to do. She needs to know the dangers of the world and if she doesn't, she can get hurt.

And she learned it, most likely, from all the "Kid's" shows on Disney and stuff with all of this c**p about how you have to be beautiful and perfect and dance all weird so people will like you.

Answer 7

I would say get her some dance lessons. From what you're saying she definitely has talent. Let her develop that talent in a more positive way. Sign her up for Ballet or Salsa dancing. Just get her in some sort of official and controlled dance class and things should be fine.  

Answer 8

If I were you, I would enroll her in ballet classes. It sounds like she really likes dancing, just not the appropriate kind.

If you see her dancing like that again, say "Sweetie, we don't dance like that," and show her a more appropriate way to dance.

Also monitor her tv watching. She may have picked it up from tv. Even the Disney Channel shows are showing some... not-great stuff.

Ballet will be a good way for her to get out her dancing but in a better way. I think my aunt did this with my cousin and it worked.

Good luck, hope this all helps!

:)

Answer 9

She probably sees from the t.v.

U should sign her up for dance class

Answer 10

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Answer 11

I don't know. But I think you should take her to a dance class.

Answer 12

She probably learned to dance this way from TV.  Take a look at some of those Disney and Nick shows and you will see what I mean.

Just tell her that some things in life are meant for older people to do, such as driving, dancing in certain ways, staying up late, etc.

Answer 13

omg this is too funny hahahah

Answer 14

You could just explain it to her that it's not appropriate to dance like that or possibly enroll her in real dance classes so she can learn other dance moves...be careful where you choose to go for dance, because some places still have little girls dance suggestively.  

You could also monitor what she watches on TV, she might be picking up tips without you noticing.

Answer 15

Monitor her. See where she gets the dance from

Hope This Helped

Answer 16

Find out where she gets it and put a stop to her seeing whoever she's learned it from.  Tell her the suggestive dances stop now, or you'll spank her next time.

Edit: If she's learned it from TV, time for the TV to go.  I do encourage you to enroll her in dance classes, gymnastics, etc.

Answer 17

help her by giving her dance lessons she has a natural talent that needs to be corralled (controlled)   She may have seen something on tv my granddaufgter saw something when her Mom was just chanel surfing.  

Answer 18

Ask her who taught her to dance.  It is important you find this out.  A 7 year old should not be seeing things that teach her how to dance suggestively, or being prompted by anyone to do this.  Then teach her other ways to dance.  Don't let her see things like MTV and other media that depict woman as nothing more than sexual objects.  I know as the parent of a teenage girl it is getting harder and harder to keep this garbage away from them, but try your best.

Answer 19

TV!  

Answer 20

You should keep an eye on what your 7 yr old is watching on t.v and the internet. Odds are, she's getting it from music videos. You can control what she is watching as there are always alternatives...If she is watching music videos, buy her the cd's instead and put a parent watch thing on your computer and delete music channels on your television.

Also, I would just tell her that the way she is dancing is inappropriate because it sends the wrong message. That it would make people look at her in a bad way.

Look online for other styles of dance that she could try or like others said, put her in dancing lessons if she likes to dance.

This way you are not just being negative, and giving her something positive and inspirational to work with.