My 7 year old refuses to attend school, even to the extend of lying?

Question

I'm a busy mother trying to juggle work and sending my kids to school (2 of them). I ain't got much time with them as I hold two jobs and work throughout the week. Hated it...but we ain't rich. Lately, my son refuses to attend school, have to drag him out of the car....only to receive a call from school that he refuses to go into class. Please help...tried coaxing, scolding...but to no avail

Answer 1

It sounds like he is being bullied, thats the only thing that I can think of, if you have another school in your area try sending him to that one instead, He doesnt sound too happy at all. It only gets worse with age.

Try asking his teachers how he is in class and how he interacts with other class members! Good Luck :)

Answer 2

Is there a school counselor?  Have you talked to the kid's teachers?  Does he have a learning disorder? Is he being bullied?  Talk to the school to see what resources are available to help.

You need to work on this issue now, it will only get worse.

Answer 3

I used to do the same, first my mom took me to the polic station and got the polic to tell me what happens if you dont go to shcool, when I still didnt go she started taking me to class and sitting in my class with me.

Answer 4

I believe in positive reinforcement.  Only give attention to him when he's doing something good...everytime...all the time.  Maybe it is a bad teacher, who never took a child psychology class.  Kids do end up believing it if people tell themj they are bad all the time.

Answer 5

Maybe u should spend a mother son weekend with him..

Answer 6

Congrats for being independent!

Anyway, if he`s not wanting to go to school there might be a social problem, check it out with his teachers and the parents of his friends. If he`s just being too lazy, you'll need to discipline him more. Try setting up a new system of punishment (I'm a 12 year old, and I know threatening/lashing out at your children will NOT work). For example> everytime your child misbehaves, you will ban him of certain privileges (TV, Computer), or shorten them. If he persists, ban it completely, forever, until he earns the privilege back (if you're going to keep a toy/game from him, keep it locked up as well, when I was seven, I could find anything hidden).

Coaxing won't work, scolding worsens things, it gets both of you angrier. Just act normal, but deny him his favourite things.

Answer 7

try talking to him there might be something wrong at school -more than less there is. worse comes to worse you could switch him to a different class (there could be a bully or mean teacher)

Answer 8

Uh, have you tried maybe asking him WHY he won't go?  Kids usually don't refuse repeatedly without a reason.  No matter how busy you are you need to communicate with your son and find out what the problem is and try to work with him to solve that problem.  Coaxing and scolding aren't going to get you anywhere, especially if it's something like bullying or problems with a teacher or a learning disability.

Answer 9

You definitely need to find out why your son is refusing to go into the school.  He might hate the teacher, he might be being picked on.  Or he might simply be missing you.

My daughter cried every day, until I hit on the idea of a star chart.  She needed 30 stars and then she could choose the Barbie doll of her dreams.

The tears ran down her cheeks, but not a sound did she make.  Within two weeks she'd got out of the habit of crying and we never looked back.

Sometimes kids just miss their mums.  But do a bit of investigating and make sure your child is happy enough inside the classroom.

Answer 10

hi

I know you love urson so much but every kid needs to

mother and ur kid need to peace. you & ur kid go

out and walk and talk hand to hand even 1mi in the

evening . he dont want truth to so beacause his mother

dont pay attention enough . mother is source love

do sth that ur son feel comforting so he thinke his mother

think about him and feel .... encouragment .

I know u know : u are mother ....be urself mother nothig else ....yes

Answer 11

Do not parent your children from a standpoint of feeling guilty about having to work. Many mothers have to work.  Do find out what is going on with your child and why he does not want to go to school. Perhaps you can set up a meeting with his teacher and/or guidance counselor for after work. If he will not tell you what is going on, maybe they will have some insights.

Answer 12

Where was the discipline when he was a toddler?  Sounds as if you gave into him when he would throw tantrums, so that put him in control and he is still in control.  You're going to have to figure out a way to give up on of your jobs and spend the time disciplining your children.

Answer 13

hi ow are you? well what you need to do is go to her school and see whats going on... i didn't like going to school cause people would bully or even pick on me all day... the teachers would nothing.. no one... so have some1 from your family to sit in with her... and make sure she likes her clothes... not saying spend alot of cash.. but just make sure she likes the way she look... luv Tru Goddess

Answer 14

I would sit down and talk to him - sounds like he needs your attention. Maybe take him to a jungle jim and then afterwards go for a coffee and whatever he likes to eat and drink. Just chat to him in a positive / fun environment.

There's an underlying reason here and you need to find out what that is. Kids can be quite complex in their reasoning.

Stop blaming yourself for not having previously spent time with him. That's gone now. Move on, but try and allocate a set time every week that you can give him your undivided attention. This is a warning for you because you can still resolve this, but if you don't give him attention from now on, things will only get gradually worse.

And one last thing. Tell him you love him and that you are proud of him. Always affrim your love for him and make sure he has got that message. Love is the most powerful tool that you have, but needs to be communicated in a way that he understands.

Answer 15

try sitting down with your kid and ask him why he doesnt want to go to school (maybe he has a bully?) and tell him exactly why he needs to go to school and that you (mommy) will be sooo happy it if he goes to school and tries to enjoy it.

and maybe ask teachers to keep an eye on him and help support him if hes having problems.

good luck.