My 7 year old seems very shy?

Question

My son is sweet smart and less than out going. he participates in boy scouts, and some sports, and all the girls seem to really like him. he has a few friends, but does seem to be intereasted in forming close relationships, he seems easily swayed by others opinions and this bothers me, he also has no intereast in girls (I'm not worried he's g*y, it just other bos his age all seem to flirt with the girls) whats up here? His little brother is very out going and has a diffrent crush every week and a best friend thats obvious.

Answer 1

i would be happy that he doesn't have crushes on girls! what the??? i have a nine year old and i'm darn happy that he isn't interested... its postponing the inevitable, but enjoy it, jeepers!  he is who he is. he's got a different personality than his brother, thats a good thing. i would not start comparing them to each other, that just really isn't fair. my son was and is often still very shy, there is nothing at all wrong with that. you'll have less issues with him more than likely. let him be who he is, as long as he isn't sitting in his room alone all day, then don't worry about it. sometimes it takes kids finding that perfect buddy to come out of their shell... he'll have a best friend, when he finds the right kid.

Answer 2

dont sweat it just keep him outside during the summer he will make friends and lern to be more out going

Answer 3

if he has some friends and seems happy, participates in some activities, is liked, and seems happy then you've got nothing whatsoever to worry about.

it's surprising sometimes how different kids can be ... even two kids in the same family.  but it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with either of them.

i would be concerned if he had no friends at all or seemed unhappy.  but it doesn't sound that way at all.  

(and most of the elementary aged boys i know are not interested whatsoever in flirting with the girls.  it's occurred to a few of the girls, but for most boys that comes quite a bit later.)

Answer 4

Geeeez he's 7 I hope he doesn't have any crushes on girls...Or well I'd be more then pleased...That's not what's important now. You should teach him to develop his own opinions....You could help him by just asking him what HE likes...What he wants to wear...How HE feels about certain things... Umm as far as friends go---Suggest he invite friends over... I can remember when I was 7 not having any "friends" or people i really clicked with in my class- They were always put in other classes...it could just be he hasn't met anyone he really has fun with? Being shy is okay. Lots of people are shy...Just make sure you help him develop self-esteem....7 is still young....He doesn't need close relationships yet....just a few playmates....Invite some friends over...socialize with other parents...Some children are just shy... it's normal.

Answer 5

The thing to be concerned about, it seems, is how easily he's swayed by others opinions. That could lead to him getting into trouble in school or elsewhere because of something someone told him or suggested he do/try. Try to encourage his independent thought by allowing him to make some decisions for himself and praising him for making good decisions. Confidence in himself will help him grow out of that.

Also, there's absolutely nothing wrong with being shy. There's nothing written that he has to be the life of the party. At 7, him having interest in girls or not, means nothing. Most little boys his age hates girls and if they don't, just see them as friends. On the flipside, I know little 8-9 year old boys that lift up girls skirts or try to feel them up. Don't rush your son to grow up before he's ready, you might regret the result. I have a 15yr old niece who still isn't into boys. She's not g*y, she's just an innocent little girl who actually acts like a kid. That's actually a rarity nowadays.

Lastly, you don't want to start comparing your kids. Children develop differently. Just because one of your kids do something doesn't mean the other one should to. Just because you have one kid who makes friends easily, it doesn't suggest that something is wrong with the other kid. In fact, your 7yr old might be wise enough to only want friends who will actually be friends rather than calling somebody a friend because they share the same class- but have no common interests.