My 7 year old twins: one is being bullied and it's physical?

Question

I am Mady and I have two twins a girl and a boy. They are named Brooke and Tyler. I am asking this on behalf of Brooke.In P.E today they were playing dodgeball, where when you get hit you run over to the other side and wait for a team mate to throw it to you to get back in. So Brooke got out and she was two feet away from where the back of the gym was (that's where the player's trow the ball to get you in)

And a girl called Summer threw the ball at her arm and laughed and stuck out her tongue when it pegged Brooke. She went to the nurse and then went up to th girl and said " Thank you for hitting me" to the answer of "You're so welcome, I hope you like it!" So Brooke walked away" Five minutes later Summer told on Brooke. She said "Brooke hit me and called me an idiot." So Brooke and her friends got in trouble and they are not allowed to participate if that game is being played. Later after school. One of the girls that saw it has a mother that yelled at Summer she said "I'm right, dum

Answer 1

you know what? you sound like a kid not a mum. Talk with the teacher about this

Answer 2

I have 2 children also.  I have found it's best to let the children try to work things out for themselves first.  Most times these things resolve themselves in a matter of days.  If the bullying continues, document each incident with detail and definately talk to the principal.  Be prepared to show him your documentation and pictures.

Answer 3

With 3 kids, now 19, 18 and 10 - I've learned the hard way that there are 2 sides to a story, and often 3 or 4 depending on how many kids are involved.  I've regretted getting in the middle of their arguements without the full story.  It is easy to over- react in wanting to protect our children from any harm.  

The reality is these children were playing dodge ball and, although it wasn't  nice for a girl to throw the ball at your daughter,  that is what kids do, and they also like sticking out tongues at that age.  

So..do we teach our kids to ignore behavior that they don't like - or do we teach them to speak up.  I find ignorning often resolves the problem, and it doesn't escalate.  When my child talked about the same kid doing the same thing to her, then speaking up became necessary.  Talking to the teacher first is a good way to start, as children leave out part of the story - especially if they are worried it will make them look bad.

Your daughter chose to speak up, yet didn't tell the girl how she felt or what she'd like to see changed.  Instead, she chose to "thank the girl".  This was probably perceived as sarcastic and the problem escalated from there.

As far as the other mom getting involved, she took things into her own hands, literally, by holding up your daughter's arm and yelling at another 7 year old child.  This mom bullied another child and dragged your daughter into it.  I realize she wanted to protect your child, but how is yelling at another child the right thing to do?

If it were me, I would invite all the mom's & girls over for a friendly gathering, and role play with the girls to come up with better ways to handle their problems.  Moms could act out different senarios first, kids like to see their parents being silly.  They'll get the idea and then can act it out themselves.

We have to teach our kids not to be bullies, and there are different types of bullying.  Leaving Summer out of the afternoon gathering at McKenzies's house is silent bullying.  How is another child feeling horrible making up for what happened earlier?  It isn't teaching Summer anything positive, so how is she to learn from her mistake.  And, how is your daughter to learn from hers.  It takes two to fight and two to get along.

A local school is trying out this new program where kids (they choose to be a part) wear reminder bracelets and try to get through a day without complaining.  Teachers are doing it also and the newspaper article said they are finding harder than they thought.  I am going to suggest our school do a variation on it with bullying.  I want my children to know that words, tone of voice and expressions matter.

Answer 4

Sounds like there is some bulling going on and if it got anymore physical than I would step in and call the school and try to work it out but sometimes you have to let the kids work it out on their own or it gets worse.

Answer 5

have a talk with the principle if this continues then talk to his /her parents!!!

Answer 6

Call the school and tell them you would like to meet with principal the instructor and the other girls parents.  This something that needs to be resolved.  It also sounds like the girl that instagated the whole thing's and her mom is a real snot nosers.   Good luck

Answer 7

ok this might imture but I would call Summers mom and cuss her out and tell her that her kid can stay the **** away from mime then I would go to the school and have talk with the teachers

Answer 8

Where in tor-nation did you get all those details? I've been around kids for many years and I am yet to meet a 7 year old that can recall an incident in such detail.

I think the whole thing is merely childish behaviour and you are becoming involved in that very behaviour.

Answer 9

That is really bad. Try talking to your daughters counselor at her school. They should talk to Summer about why she is being mean to your daughter. A lot of kids are meaner than they used to be mainly because their parents are scared of their own kids and spoil them. When I was in Elementary school, I saw a lot of kids getting bullied, it hurt so bad. You better fix this problem now or it will continue for the rest of your daughter's school year.Also contact Summers mom. Good Luck

Answer 10

Dose not sound like anything to me ,,just typical girl bickering

if another mom said something to your kid I suggest an @sswhoppin