My 7 year old was mastrubating at school??

Question

Okay, so if any one read my thing the other day, I was talking about how i found my 7 year old girl mastrubating.

Today, i get a note sent home with my child saying that she was mastrubating in class. I asked her if this was true and she said all she was doing was playing with her v****a and she said its fine cause people play with all parts of her body.

I told her that its something you can only do at home and in private and she starting getting mad and saying she can do what she wants.

What do i do?

Answer 1

Your the parent she is a child, act like one.  Its not a negotiation, and her saying she can do what ever she wants? Apparently you have been lacking in teaching her that she is a child and will do what you say.

She learned this from you.

Answer 2

I think you should just tell her thta "yes I know it does feel good but it just isn't something to be doing in school. Explain it to her like she isn't allowed to scream in school well she isn't allowed ot play with herself". Tell her it is okay to do but only when she gets home to her own bedroom.

Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

i think you should take her to a special doctor where both parents and the child meet the doctor and talk about it together and i think you should also ask her where did she learn how to do that and who teach you doing that. i think she had been sexually abuse by somebody else thats was a adult and i think the person did something bad to youre daugther when she was very young. that you might didnt knew about it. it can happen if  she saw or had been touched in wrong place and you should also check out if someone else at school been toughing her touching herself . she need to learn not to do that anymore. she is too young to know things alike that if she is only 7 year old and still a baby. if she beinging not good girl you need to do something about it youre adult and her mom, a parent and you need to spank her or put her room til she behavor herself . and if this probelm causeing more probelm for her . you can dedicate to move her to a another school or keep her at home til you find out what happen and who she knew how play herself. i think you also should take her to a doctor and have to check her if she was sexually abuse or raped by someone . its very important to do that so that next time it happens again you can protect youre own child from not to talk to strangers , dont go with someone else that mom and dad doesnt know, you also need to teach er her not to go some where else with anybody that you dont even know . if she or he loks like abad person run away and tell someone about it alike a teacher or mailman, a police . you also should teach her how to call 911 in case you and youre husand isnt around to see it. she can learn how to calll the police in case something bad goes wrong with her.

Answer 4

Well.. I am father  of 3 daughters and I  understand what you mean its very hard to have them listen to you specially with all the distraction around specially from T.V. There  might be something which has caused this. You have to look back  at home and see if anyone has everdone such thing in the house.  Neighbours if she visits them to play with other kids.  Kids learn lots of things from each other. Talk to people in school if in the school primary and middle school is not divided then there is big chance she has picked up from there. Try to control what she watched on T.V and internet  as well. Get someone who has influence on her to talk to her and make her life busy with something else. Maybe her mom or her teacher, she  surely has favorit teacher.

Anyway Good luck.

Answer 5

my opinion is that she is only seven tell her that its something grown ups can do when they are in privacy( like you already did) you said that "she said its fine cause people play with all parts of her body" well no one should be touching her, tell her to tell people to keep their hands to them selves. if it goes on for too much longer have her go to a psychologist and see whats going on also ask a doctor if every thing is ok.

good luck

Answer 6

She doesn't realize it.

She's just curious.

Tell her that she can do it at home in her room by herself all she wants, but if she does it at school she can't do it anymore.

it might be hard to get through to her at first, but you know what she likes most, toys and such.take it away,

do what works best for your child.

Answer 7

what do you mean---""she said it fine cause people play with all parts of her body""???

Answer 8

You sit her down and let her know that masturbating is okay but that it is private and that she needs to be respectful of others and not do it in class.

Answer 9

Ok, tell her "I understand your point, and in a perfect world, you could do as you please...but in the real one, if you do things like that in front of people they can take you away from me because they will think I'm not a good person.  I would never want to be away from you, because you are the best thing that ever happened in my life...and I'm sure you wouldn't want to be away from me either."

Answer 10

This is natural!! She notice that it feels good when she plays with herself.  Just keep talking to her and explain to her that it is not appropriate in public and people will get offended by her actions.  Maybe you need to set up a reward system for your child after school if she doesn't play with herself at school.

Answer 11

Find out who else is playing with her and who gave her this information.

Answer 12

Ok you need to make this crystal clear to her; when she's alone it's fine for her to rub herself, nothing wrong with that. However it's not acceptable for her to be doing this in public, it's not only embarassing but disgusting behaviour. When she does this in public disicpline her.

Answer 13

change your words and tell her it's NOT okay. furthermore, where's she getting these ideas from? whose been exposing your child to lewd behavior. moreover, your child shouldn't be touching herself at all. this will lead to problems down the road. set boundaries and closely monitor what your child is watching, not only on tv but by others, including yourself. take immediate action to correct the problem.

Answer 14

you will have to show her who is the boss.

Answer 15

First of all....how does she know about that being only 7?

Second of all u have to show her that ur the boss, and she must do what is told. If she already knows about that, does that mean she doesn't believe in Santa Claus, cuz if she knows stuff like that, then she's lost most of her innocence and that is just not right, none of that parenting is correct.

So after u tell her that ur the boss, set down punishments so she knows the consiquences!

Answer 16

This is natural. More than likely she figured it out on her own.  Boy seem to figure this out quicker.  I sent bath windup toys to my girlfriend and her 2yr. figured out it felt good on his p***s.  When I was younger I was a nanny for a 3yr and she liked bouncing on the edge of a chair.  You just need to tell her this is a private thing.  Let her know she will be disciplined if she is does this in public.