My 7/yo son has ADHD, how can I calm him down when out of cnotrol?

Question

My 7/yo son has ADHD, how can I calm him down when out of cnotrol?

Answer 1

See I don't like these answers that say make him sit down. Talk to him about these outbursts before or after they happen. My son knows he has ADHD but we make it very clear that he still makes his own desicions from right and wrong.  Adderall, the medicine he takes, just helps him make these decisions a little better. When my son gets too bad he gets upsets and crys over little things and I suggest to him to go to his room and calm down. If it's nice out and hes just running wild have him do it in the back yard if possible. Depending on the neighborhood he can play unattended but still check on him, I sure do probably too much but you cant ever be sure and I live in a small town and still worry.

I really would like more info on the situation. Feel free to messege me thru answers and we can talk more on this subject.

Answer 2

give him a hug or a spnking  these diseases dont exist they are scam for medical field to sell drugs and are cop outs for lazy parents to not get off their butts to deal with an unruly child.the magical pill does not exist all of you dumdum are turning your childre into drug addicts and thats it i have dated women with supposen mental children as bipolar and adhd when they are noton their meds they are wonderful children but everytime they take they are out of control monsters and i have to call cops to put them in juvy to sober up from the drugs the lazy parents and doctors of these innocent children should be in prison for being drug suppliers to children

Answer 3

Actually (and I will swear by this) my mom would give my brother a cup of coffee. No lie. It has a reverse effect. You hould possibly ask his doctor about it. Worked wonders

Answer 4

My little girl has ADHD and just letting her clam down and then chatting about it .I notice one person said make them fear you that is a load of c**p!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. There is no real support for parents and families of children who have ADHD and its a very hard thing to deal with it affects every part of your life.Patience and love with guidance and you might get there in the end at lest I'm hoping my daughter has been given a lot of grief and is only 5.People are very mean to some things they don't understand.

Answer 5

You may need to walk away and let him come down on his own. (few minutes)  You could try some music that is calming?  I think patience is the key. Maybe try distracting him with a favorite toy or tv show?  You may have to be a little creative.

Answer 6

ADHD is a doctors way of saying you never disiplined your child right... and now they have a miracle drug that will stunt puberty, cause medical problems, make him a robot, and will immature him.

DO NOT USE THE mind control medications.... have you seen a child on that c**p? You could tell them to clean the toilet with their tongue and they would say 'yes, mother' and go do it.

Have consistency... do you hardly see him?  Make sure if he does something wrong.... you punish him accordingly.... but if he does something well reward him accordingly. In my opinion 'ADHD' can be treated the same nonmedical way that ODD is treated.

Set a video/TV time.... Thats a main issue w/ 'ADHD' two hours a day.

Say he gets a pink slip for acting out in school... everytime he cant have his video/TV time (dont yell) and keep it the same EVERYTIME... and stick to it.

If he gets an awesome report card... he can have dairyqueen... (dont have money  spending rewards often) If he cleans his room on his own... he can go to bed a half hour later on the weekend.

These are just suggestions.... but they work... you just have to stick to it... when you say no... you mean no... and if you lose your cool... so will he..... so when a punishment is set... it is set... and he could be jumping up and down screaming two feet in front of you... dont even look at him... go, make yourself some tea, a snack... dont acknowledge him at all.

Answer 7

My son is 8 and has adhd. He takes medication for it. DOes your son?

What I have learned and been told is if your child is over stimulated it can cause a child with adhd to start acting out of control. What i do is find something for him to do that involves him sitting or standing and working productivly on something he likes to do. Take him out of the situation that is causing the behavior at the moment.

Answer 8

I highly doubt the first answer. I used to be crazy when I was little and a kid that has ADHD will not calm down so easy if you just "sit him down quietly in a corner."

The best thing to do sometimes is to give in to him. Whatever he wants, give it to him. But if your kid is obedient enough then he should be able to at least have some sense. It'll be easier to give into him than you think, but who wants to see their kid roll around the floor in public and scream? Or play his own game. Be ignorant. It works with my brother.

Answer 9

You gotta make him fear you. ADHD is real, yes, but its a mental thing between adult and child. I know, one of my students has it, and his little a$$ plays on it so his parents can feel sorry for him. NOT! Your son is still impressionable, so let him no what will happen if he starts getting excited. On the flip side, the part they cant control, give him an "OR" option. He has 2 choice, get puished or NOT get punished. I'll leave the punishment options up 2 you. Just make sure its stern and effective.

Answer 10

give him some thing to do when he gets like that.  

my ADHD son likes to take things apart.  so what did we do?  we found old broken VCRs and DVD players and gave him a little s***w driver.  we told his siblings to leave him alone. that works pretty good.  something else that he can do to work out his frustrations, get him a punching bag.so when he feels like hiting somthing or someone he can hit the bag instead.

Answer 11

depends on the situation and the reason behind the outburst...

Usually its best to remove them from the irritant and sit down quietly with you.  I have my son sit down with me and I hug him, telling him its ok to feel the way he does.  I encourage him to talk about it and discuss his feelings and emotions and we work from there.

Sometimes its not that easy and he needs to be sent to him room to work it out on his own and we can disuss when he's not so irrational.

Answer 12

Makre sure to treat him in the same manner you would a "normal" child so he can grow up to be a responsible, independant young man who doesn't use ADHD as a crutch. Ignore the behavior, go in another room and shut the door. Let him kick and scream. Let him pout, but pay no attention to it. He isn't going to throw a tantrum all day if you give no feedback. When you punish, they see at as you getting angry, they can't see it the other way. And they like getting a reaction. Reward good behavior, only rewards you would give to him no matter what. The problem with ADHD is those kids get rewarded for things that are expected of other children, and life isn't like that. Kids his age who DON'T have ADHD act in this manner as well. Why should he be rewarded for this kind of behavior? That's so wrong. Children are not stupid and know how to manipulate. Laura- your brother sounds like a spoiled brat LOL. Why can't he just ask nicely, in a calm voice, "Mom, could you get me that box of old DVDs?" when he thinks he's starting to get upset,instead of throwing a tantrum to communicate? That's manipulation. And as an adult that so won't fly. When your kid goes to get a job and they throw a tantrum, you think that's gonna get them hired? The only reason he says sorry is because he got what he wanted. I'm not saying ADHD neccessarliy isn't real..I'm saying even parents of ADHD don't know the definition. It means they cannot pay attention as well as other people, and they have a hard time sitting still. It does NOT mean "Free pass to do whatever you want and talk back to your parents and then get a reward." All children do that, it has nothing to do with ADHD. ugh that's like my friend. Her son talks back to her and instead of ignoring him, she spoils him. Why don't you just give into your son's every demand and let him rule you because he has "ADHD"? I think it's selfish because you don't want to deal with him. You simply want him to calm down so he can't bother you. Why have kids then? You could talk about the behavior, kids with ADHD are not stupid.

Answer 13

well i have a brother with the same problem when he is going out of control and trys to hurt people we have to sit him down and talk to him and because were he gets so anrgy he starts to cry and after wards he hasnt relised what he has done so we just get him to **** down and talk to him to make sure that he is ok we also get him a favrouit drink of his and we give him the telvsion so he can sit down and relax witht eh t.v and then he comes through and says sorry to my sister to show that he is sorry for what he did but apart from that i recon your should try it out with your son because most boys like gettin what they wont and were my brother is sitting down chillin with his drink and with the t.v my mum has also takin him to a group that he has been fowarded to through his school so if you talk to his school they might be able to help him x

Answer 14

My son is almost 9 years old and has ADHD.  I do not agree with the ppl that say that doctors made it up.. It is a TRUE impairment.  When my son acts up, I do remove the irritant as well.  Unfortunately, timeouts don't work for him because while he is sitting there or standing there, he is constantly moving and when it's done, he doesn't remember why he was in time out.  SO - I remove him from the situation.  If he's playing with something, I take it away and explain to him why I'm taking it away.  I have him take deep breaths and we do something together.  Find something that he enjoys doing and let him do it..  I can actually give my son a piece of paper and a pen or pencil and he will draw quietly for 45 minutes to an hour.

I know this may not help you as all children are different as are all children with ADHD.  What works for me may not work for you.  Read the suggestions of all, and disregard those that tell you that ADHD is made up...

Answer 15

sweetone912

It all depends on specifically what is going on, and how your son is being treated for ADHD.

Can you describe the behavior more?  Can you give us an example of his behavior being out of control?

Rory

http://www.thetruthbehindadhd.com