My 7 yr old heard of masturbating on th Transformers movie and has asked what it is. What do I say?

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My 7 yr old heard of masturbating on th Transformers movie and has asked what it is. What do I say?

Answer 1

"I'll tell you when you're older."

Then, distract your child with something.

Answer 2

tell him that it is something that adults do and that he'll understand better when he's older (do NOT tell him that it's inappropriate or dirty or anything like that because it's NOT. You don't want to scare him from doing something that's normal when he's older)

Answer 3

The best thing to do would be to give a simple explanation like: "Its when people touch their own private parts/genitals/whatever in order to make themselves feel good." But you should also explain that, while there's nothing wrong with it, it is something that people do in private and that its not okay to do it in public places like school.

If you lie to your child about it, or even worse tell them that its bad, you'll be helping them along in developing all kinds of sexual hangups down the road.

Answer 4

That's a tough one, because you don't want to lie to him, you don't want him to resort to finding out from a friend or someone who isn't a mature adult, and you don't really - honestly - want him to know at all.

I'd say be honest with him - that's probably all you can do.  Tell him that its not a good thing but that it is something most people do. Tell him why it's wrong: because it can become an addiction and lead people to withdraw from relationships and people - kind of like a drug addiction. Tell him its dangerous and not "cool," and usually reflects that someone is insecure and unhappy.  

If you're honest and frame it in terms of how dangerous it can become then hopefully he'll not be interested in it later on. And if you build into his mind the idea that masturbation is a symbol of unhappiness and loneliness, maybe he won't ever resort to it in his own life.



I don't think you should lie to him or cutesy it up or calling it "tickling" or something like that.  Kids have a pretty good bullshitometer, and can tell when they're not getting the whole truth. That will destroy trust and probably make him unhappy when he figures it out later on.

But godspeed and good luck to you.  Be honest, be firm, and tell him its stupid and disgusting and usually means people hate themselves.

Answer 5

well you are obligated to tell him scince you hould have watched it before him to see if there were innopropriate things in there like that. however while he may not understand you need to tell him or he might ask someone else and tell him not to repeat it.

Answer 6

hmmmmmmmm tell him its something you'll understand later on or just say its to hit your  leader with a bat, and its called "master-bating"

Answer 7

Wow. What transformers movie did your kid see?

Say some people touch their private parts when they are alone to make them feel good. You will understand when you are older.

And let that be the end of it. I think it would be a mistake to provide too much info at this point.

Answer 8

I would explain it to him maybe not in the whole descriptive way but not like fairy taleish like some adults explain how a baby is born. Say something like when a boy likes a girl... or something like that

Answer 9

Tell him/her its champion fishing. Master-baiting is where very good fishers fish.

And anyway why did him/her watch that movie anyway? Isnt it like PG13?

Answer 10

Tell him about it. Say something that he would understand, though. Like "it feels good to grown ups when they do it" etc etc. Tell him theres nothing wrong, its natural, blah blah blah

Answer 11

I would explain what it is in the least descriptive way. Just let them know it is when people touch their private parts when they are much much older.

Believe it or not, it's a very natural thing for kids, and they often don't know what they are doing, but they do it regardless.

Answer 12

I would tell him its when someone touches themselves down there. But he should not do so. Tell him he is not old enough to understand this yet. When he is a grown up he will know. Tell him just not to wonder about it that it should not have been on the movie.

Answer 13

I have a 7 yr old and I would tell him the truth.  That it is touching your privates

Answer 14

just say...il explain when ya a bit older and dont go repeating this word as youl get into trouble.

Answer 15

OMG no wonder why there are so many people in the world with sexual disfuntion! I can't believe the amount of people saying to make up a lie or not tell the kid anything.

Stuff like that usually goes over the little ones heads and I don't know why they felt the need to add that comment which was made by the mother to her son when he wouldn't let them in his room and when she finally got in she said to him "were you masterbating?". The movie was rated PG 13 though.

Answer 16

Hello 7 is too young to know just tell him that you aren't sure and hopefully he will forget. Sad part is that children's movies shouldn't  have things like that in them.

Answer 17

My parents always told me that I was too young and I'd find out when I was older.  That should work.

Answer 18

Well... You could just NOT tell them, Or you could make something up.. Just make sure they don't ask when your out in town or anything lol

Or you could just tell them what it means (just a little bit of it.)  i mean they're going to find out one day right?

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Answer 19

You should say  that it's a dance move that people learn as they grow older and that he shouldn't be said to thers.

Answer 20

Tell him the truth.  If they ask, just give a short basic answer like, that's when people play with their privates.  If you say "you don't need to know" or "you'll find out when you're older, they'll ask their friends and get all kinds of wicked answers.

Once kids, even babies notice they have something interesting down there, they play with it.  So it's not really anything new.

And wtf are they talking about that for in a kids movie??

Answer 21

well that a tuff problem.

see i was 17 when the movie came out so i already knew all about that stuff and the way sam's parents talked about it they acted like it was no big deal.

just tell your son that he will figure it out in time.

tell him not to worrie about such matters at his age.

Answer 22

tell him it's something that older boys and girls do

hmm, i've seen that movie a million times and i can't think of when it says anything about it.

Answer 23

ohhhhhhhhh no that is terrible,what in the world did they say about masterbating,I swear this world is messed up,they are purposely corrupting kids minds.I am so sorry ,I don't want to tell you to lie to him,and I don't want you to tell him the truth either at 7,your in a hard position.I am so sorry,you said the movie was tranformers good never will my kids see that,my kids barely watch TV but the movies where I live show free movies on Tue,Wed and we go and one day that might be a movie.This is heart breaking to me.

Answer 24

Well, tell him/her that it is an innapropriate thing that people (older people) do. If he/she asks what happens when masturbating say that they are a bit too young to know and promise him/her that they will find out at (*certain age*) and that if they don't find out by that (*certain age*) then you will tell him/her. Then say "no further questions" and get up to leave. If they ask again say "When you are a lot older you'll find out." and then do leave. HOPE THIS HELPS! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 25

Just change the subject. A 7-year-old will be thinking of something else in less than a minute. Then when it's an age appropriate time later, you can tell him.

Answer 26

"You're a naughty child, and if you ever say the 'm' word again, I'll smack your mouth off."

Just kidding. No good answer.

Answer 27

You Should tell him what it is and how its wrong in god's eye and how it brings reproach on anybody that does that

Answer 28

I would tell him/her its a secret and that when their older they will find out but otherwise try ignoring them every time they ask or change the subject to something else!

good luck

Answer 29

Are you referring to the Transformers movie that was rated PG-13? If so, why was he watching it at 7 years old? This is why they rate movies.

Answer 30

Just say oh its nothing. My son has heard people say stuff that is too little for him to knovv or understand so vvhen they ask just tell them that they are too young to knovv.

Answer 31

what can the truth hurt? s/he's going to find out anyway.