My 7yr.old causes alot of frustration in my marriage and my parenting!!?

Question

also have 2 yr.old and soon another newborn and when he is around it causes alot of people stress, he is alot of work! mentally and physically!

Answer 1

so all the problems you have in your life are because of your seven year old? your parenting is the problem....you are either screaming or ignoring him...your marriage partner should be trying to help make your house run smooth instead of laying blame on a seven year old..you are the adult...act like it

Answer 2

Is your 7yr old a boy? Sometimes boys need more attention than girls. Anyhow - just try sitting and talking or just sitting and listening to your little one. Try giving a hug for no reason - sometimes kids just want to know you care.

Answer 3

When a child's level of functioning is adversely affecting the family to the point of interfering with your health/functioning then it is time to head to the neurologist for medication (for him)

Answer 4

I would say this is your fault.  Dicipline your child and take authority.  Woman Up!

Answer 5

Are you for real....?

Children, all children are alot of work.  That is what they are.  They are all made different and they are alot of work in many different ways.

If you suffer from so much frustration from your oldest child..... why did you have another..... and still expecting another????

It's fine to vent frustration about something, but maybe you should take a better look at your marriage and your parenting skills instead.  Maybe those are the areas that need "work" not your 7 year old.

But it must be nice for you to alleviate all of the responsibilty by placing blame solely on your child.

Answer 6

I think that he might be jealous of the other children. Maybe you should take him out for a day and explain about you having a baby and how 'cool' it will be for him to be a big brother.Xx

Answer 7

Yes seven-year-olds are like that, but they are also curious, loving, funny, free-spirited, imaginative, and great little hug givers.

I am sure your son is not trying to make things difficult for you.  He is probably just being a normal seven-year-old.  

It sounds as though perhaps you are feeling a bit stretched thin right now, and the stress has caused you to view your son's normal behavior as negative.

I would suggest you carve out some "mommy" time, time for you to do something for yourself.  Parenting is the most difficult job in the world, and even the best of us need some time to recharge our batteries.

Also you and your husband would probably benefit from a weekly date night.  Do you have family. or close friends, nearby who can baby-sit for you so you have time to nurture each other?  If not, get creative, and make time after the kids go to bed.

God bless!

Answer 8

Seven year olds are a lot of work, and are at that stage where everything is your fault and they go on and on and on and on....

Spend time each day alone with them. Go for a walk, sit on the porch, etc.  Eat dinner as a family.  Don't yell, just speak to him quietly and on his level when he gets mad.

When you get mad, give yourself a time out.  Its NOT your child's fault.  Try to get some alone time for yourself as well. You deserve some stree-free time too.  Good luck!

Answer 9

So what's your question?

He's old enough to be in school. Is he having problems there? Maybe he just needs more understanding from his mom....we need more info so we can answer!

Answer 10

welcome to motherhood

Answer 11

Is this your second marriage? I would say he needs attention, try to do things with him that does not involve the other children.

Take him to a matinee movie

Answer 12

He's 7 years old his bound to be a lot of work.  Don't be surprised when in 5 years you're saying the same things about your 2 year old.  Obviously you're not prepared to be a parent.  I suggest parenting classes for you.

Answer 13

Is this a question?

Or just fustration..