My 8 year old daughters school nurse put boy underpants on her after she had an accident,what can be done.?

Question

my 8 year old had an accedent at school and the nurse refused to call me or my husband , and then made her put on a pair of boy underwear.When i went to her on it she saw no wrong, the principal did side with me and said she would have a meeting with her, i fell more should be done , what can i do about this...

Answer 1

Sorry, I believe the nurse was trying to help.  Today, many girls are wearing boxers to bed as P.J. bottoms in the summer.  It's not like girls don't voluntarily wear them.  What did you want the nurse to do, leave your daughter in wet underwear ?  Dry clothes are better than wet ones !  Send extra underwear to school with your daughter if she is going to continue having accidents, or ask what the doctor can do to help her avoid the problem.  The principal is trying to be understanding on the issue.  You should try to be understanding too.  You sound like you think the nurse set out to embarass your child.  I'm sure that the nurse was trying to help your child out of an embarassing situation, and that the boxers were the only extra thing that she had on hand.  Working with kids on a daily basis, she probably knows that many of the girls wear boxers on a regular basis.  Get over it !

Answer 2

I think you have done all you can do for now. In a few days call the principle back and make sure she has talked to the nurse.

Answer 3

Um.

I don't really see the problem either.

I think if your 8 y.o. is still having accidents, you should pack extra clothes for her. And, I don't think that an accident is a reason to call parents, especially if the nurse had an extra (clean) set of clothes to put on her...

I would be grateful that she didn't just let your daughter sit in her wet undies until the end of the day... Who cares if she's wearing boys' underwear. No biggie. Pick your battles...

Answer 4

Dosent seem like there are any other avenues u can take with the School Nurse............

If your daughter is prone to accidents maybe you could put a spare pare of underwear in a plastic bag in her school bag...For just in case

Answer 5

Big deal.  At  least your daughter was in dry clothes.

Answer 6

tell the school board  about it and  tell them to call you next time your kids has a problem

Answer 7

Okay this is slightly ridiculous.

Would you rather the nurse have let her go without underwear?????

Boys underwear girls underwear they do the same freaking thing.  (cover the private area)

Maybe you should start sending panties with your daughter if she is going to have accidents so the school does not need to go out and buy girl panties for your daughter.  They probably gave her what she had on hand.

Besides I wouldn't think this would be something you needed a call about.  If my kid gets scraped/cut or fights, steals or lies then I want a call but not when they are being cleaned up cause they had an accident.  

My daughter is in preschool she had an accident they had little boys underwear on her and some sweats i thanked them for cleaning her up washed there clothes and returned them.

The principal is also probably siding with you cause that is his job to make the parents happy.

My oldest son is also just finishing kindergarten.  If alls they had was girls underwear then I wouldn't care.  But if the reason he wet himself because the teacher didn't let him go there would be a problem there.  If it was his own fault oh well he needs to be more aware.

Answer 8

are you kidding??? They are underwear!!!Who cares if they are boy or girl? I would be more concerned that my 8 year old wet herself at school. As long as the underwear is clean that is all that matters. Maybe they were out of girls underwear. As it is school they probably do not stock underwear as you do not expect that age to be having accidents. I have a 9 year old girl and they put underwear on her at school i wouldn't care if they were boy or girl. I would just be hoping they got her away from the other kids before they noticed.

Answer 9

If you are really bother by this you could find out from the principal what the result of the meeting was and if that was you still feel that the situation has not been resolved you could go to the district office to report this situation and the resulting out come and that you feel that there this has not been resolved

Answer 10

I see no problem with this but if you do, I would, (as you have), voice your opinion to the principal. From now on I would pack a spare pair of undies for her in her school bag. This way if she has an accident, you know she is wearing her own clean girlie briefs.

As for the school nurse, I don't think she should be sacked or reprimanded in any way. It's not like she medicated your daughter without permission.

Answer 11

It is not a big deal. I wear men's clothes if I like them.

Answer 12

My 8 year old daughter wears the tight boys underwear "shorts"...to help prevent wedgies....even though it still doesn't really work.  It started out she wore them during sports..then she liked them so well, she wears them alot just anytime.  Of course, she chooses not to tell her friends.  Anyway, I wouldn't get too upset, if it's bothering your daughter, just explain to her that lots of girls wear boy underwear and to not feel embarrassed.  Hmmmm..I wonder how a dad would feel if they put panties on his son in the same case???

Answer 13

Are you serious? It's not like any of her classmates saw what she had on under her clothes. This is really ridiculous. And, I thought I was a "fickle" parent. You have me beat by a long shot. In this instance, a simple thank you would have departed from my lips to that of the school nurse. People never cease to amaze me in this world today. Like a number of other posters mentioned, at least she didn't allow her to go around wet all day. Then you would have had a reason to complain. But, something tells me you're the type of parent who doesn't know what to complain about. Sorry if I'm being too harsh, but how ungrateful you are.

Answer 14

Maybe there was no girl's underwear.

As for calling you..perhaps she just did not see the reason why to call you.Your daughter had an accident..and now she is in dry clothes.. What More needs to be done?

I do not really understand why you are upset. The nurse put your daughter in dry clothes. If anything..you should thank her .

Don't assume the worse in a person right away. The nurse could well of been trying to find your daughter something..but nothing fit. The school is not responsible for having a selection of extra clothes to fit every child.

Answer 15

get over it!  it was probably all she had to hand.

my son got sent home with pink socks when his got soaked.  no big deal.  wash them and send them back, along with a spare pair for your daughter for school to keep for her.

Answer 16

respond quicker to your daughter's needs in the future.  apologize to the school and your child.  take her to the pediatrician to rule out a medical cause for her enuresis.

Answer 17

sometimes schools are out of other things and you have to make do. she should have called your family but try to be understanding as well. sometimes its one of those things that just happens. dont overreact.

Answer 18

Perhaps go to the school attendant... I forget what they are called (I'm sorry!!!) The person that handles the schools in that county. I'm curious as to wear the boy underwear came from. I would be furious if something like that happened. I would want to know if my daughter is ok, if she's embarrased at all, does she want to talk through it or not. That would be rediculous! I'm sorry that happened!

Answer 19

Burn up her car. That's what my mom did when my art teacher ripped my shirt in the 3rd grade. She grabbed me by my shirt and pulled me across the room. The principal saw nothing wrong with it, that's when my mom got even.

Answer 20

well i don't think there is nothing more to be done...i personally don't see much wrong but since im not a mother and don't really know then i can't say but i think you, the principal , and the nurse should talk together and disscuss how you feel about the situation. good luck!!

Answer 21

call the school district and talk to the principal about it. If that was my child, Please, she would be sued by now. ;) SUE HER!!!   lolz