My 8 year old getting into Physical and verbal fights with boys on his bus?

Question

My son Jacob is 8 years old and there are some bullies on his bus.When the driver wasn't looking,the boy behind him who is a bully grabbed his lunch and opened the window and threw it out.My son got very upset,and he is at school now and i am very worried because those boys are in his class.I want to just pick him up from school and know that he's safe.The boys also throw rocks at him,punch him,and i told my son to say something back and he's like "Mommy,you want me to say a cuss"?.The boys called him a ******,and my son said "You guys are plain losers and have no right to make fun of me" and then this boy that is my sons' best friend punched all 4 bullies in the face and they got into a HUGE fight.So i went outside and took my son inside and then one of the bullies said:"Aww,Look guys! Jakey poo's mommy is getting him'' and they all laughed except for my sons friend.I talked to their mothers,and they said "It's not my fault your sons a loser" and made my son cry right in front of her

Answer 1

You and your husband need to have a meeting with school officials, the boys' parents, the bus driver and anyone else you can drag in there with you.  Bullying is a very serious problem in schools these days.  If your son is not provoking them, then he does not deserve this.  Kids go to school to learn, no to be filled with stress and nerves.  If the parents won't help stop the bullying, then get the police involved.  You might also want to think about getting caller ID if you don't already have it and ignore the phone calls from the bullies.  Demand that your son be in different classes and be able to sit far away from the bullies on the bus.  Is it possible for you to take him to school instead of riding the bus?  That might help too.  Good luck!

If you spoke to the principal and he said it would stop and it hasn't, then call him back and ask why it hasn't stopped.  If you are not satisfied with his response, then take the matter to the superintendent.  Don't give up!  Be diligent and keep on it.  They have to do something.  Like I said earlier... get the police involved!

Answer 2

go to the school now..demand a meeting between the parents of each kid involved and then a meeting with all four boys..you can start treatening the sue word...because they are creating an environment that is setting violence up as the end...tell them you are not going to stop...you will go to the school board and any where else you need to go to get it to stop and the boys doing it punished right along with their parents...you have to stop this..why should any child have to put up with bullies..history has taught us bullying by children has a dangerous end

Answer 3

i would really be proud of your son and his friend i dont belive in violence but i do belive in not letting people into my personal space and protecting them self. I would try not to show the bad boys your protective side but be there for your boy and his friend talk to the friends parents look into afterschool activities where the boys can make more friends bullies dont usually pick on a whole pack but will single one out if they cant they stop many states have laws or rules to help situation like this from happening talk to school inform them you will be talking to police as well as a lawyer if the school can not proplerly keep your child safe as it is their job to ensure all children get proper education. check with your state. talk to teacher see if it is something she saw.

Answer 4

wow your school/neighborhood sucks....that is not even on the radar at my 9 yo's school....they rule with an iron fist.

Answer 5

Complain again and call the bus company as well and complain about the driver.  The driver is the only adult on the bus and needs to make sure these things do not happen.  Apparently he is not doing his job.

Answer 6

I say the same thing the other parents have to say take to the school and address the issue as soon as possible. Then take your son to some karate classes. I had a similar situation on my hand with my son being bully at school and on the bus. I put him in karate and his attitude change completely he is doing a lot better, making friends a lot easier, stand up for himself when he need to and really a better student. I suggest  karate would be great, for him speaking from my experience by the way my son is going to be 7 in a few months.

Answer 7

I am sure I'll get thumbs down for this but honestly I am just not buying this. I was buyingit up until you said that the friend punched all the boys in the face and their moms all said it's not their fault your son is a loser.  could see one mom being rude enough to say that but all of them? Sorry if I'm wrong but your story doesn't sit right with me and I am usually a pretty good judge of what is real and what is egagerated.

Not to mention if this were real then what kind of mother would continue putting her 8 yr old son on the bus with that going on? My youngest is 8 and I would never  expect him t deal with that type of bullying alone so  think your story is far fetched.

Answer 8

There's a few things I would do in your situation:

-File a complaint with the school board since the problem is still persisting

-Call the police next time the boys start assaulting your son, or the next time they call your house.  They are not to young to get in trouble legally for assault and harassment.

-As a last resort, I would transfer your son to another school.

Make sure son knows that it's not him, it's them.  They're self-conscious morons who make themselves feel better by making him feel bad.  They obviously learned that behavior from their parents.

And make sure he knows how lucky he is to have a friend who sticks next to him through all of it.