My 8 year old son can't hold his bladder all night...should I let him go to a sleepover?

Question

My 8 year old son can't hold his bladder all night...should I let him go to a sleepover?

Answer 1

Absolutely let him go! It would make him feel left out and insure about his issue other wise. Just send him with some Good nights. Just let the other parent know..I'm sure they would be very understanding and accommodating...no biggie.

Nothing to be embarrassed about. Did you know most kids grow faster than their bladder up to age 12. It is more common of a problem than people realize. I had this problem with one of my sons and I never made it a issue and he grew out of it.

Answer 2

Buy him some diapers or easy ups  and tell the mom if he needs to be change every hour of course tell the mom to buy some wipes

Answer 3

sure............go and buy him some of the new kind of pull ups and let him go.....his friends won't know that they are pull ups as they look like shorts.

get him an appointment at the childrens clinic or your family doctor. this is a common problem so don't make a big deal of it..........shame makes it a life time battle sometimes..........boys mature at different ages........it is an individual thing..

the doc can get him on some meds that help him control his bladder.  my neice has taken them for several years and now has total control all on her own.......it was an easy transformation and she was able to be a little girl while she was getting the control..................do it for your son.......you will see his personality and confidence change right before your eyes.................little kids are wonderful........................good luck to him and you. you sound like a great mom.

Answer 4

sure if you know the family well enough. I would send a pull up and let the mom know so she can discretely help your son change without anyone knowing.

Answer 5

please do not let him go he does not need to be embarrased because of a common thing like peeing in the bed at night

Answer 6

I understand this problem ..my son has the same thing that happens to him quite often...however. i am not one for doping up children but you can get pills for this certain thing..for sleepovers and such.  When my son goes for a sleepover i send him with his pills and tell the mom whats going on and also send him with his own sleeping bag. Just incase! ..even tho they have this problem they still want to do what other kids do without it ...let him go just take precautionary measures

Answer 7

Yes, but get him the sleep pants that look like real underwear. Aslo you need to make an appointment with his doctor to see if he has a medical problem Are you waking him up to use the bathroom before you go to bed at night? This might help and it will help train him to wake up when he has the urge to go.

Answer 8

I saw an ad on TV a couple of days ago about some sleep shorts with a built in liner in case of an accident. I think they were from Huggies or maybe Pampers? Anyhow, they're made for big kids who have a bit of trouble every once in a while. Try looking in the diaper section at your local store.

Answer 9

i would wait or go to the store and buy him the pull ups that look like boxer shorts

Answer 10

While you could get pull ups, (a good idea if nothing works), the question is what is the cause.  My son had the same issues.  Turns out the cause is food reactions, (not an allergy).  Tomato anything, some milk products, strange spices, acidic items...should be a no no after about 3 or 4 pm.  Make sure they do not drink much about 1 hour before bed.   This is what works for us.  If he has any of these at dinner time, and goes to bed at his normal time, he has an accident.  We kept sleepover to only those people who knew about his problem.  

When he has an accident, remember what he ate for dinner, and remove those items and see if it happens again.

My mother's suggestion is to get an alarm clock to wake him up at about 2 or 3 in the morning.  

Ask your son, give him the choice.  

By the way, there are also medical conditions that result in this, so if nothing works, ask the doctor.

Answer 11

It would 100% ddepend on the other boys at the sleepover.  

If there is any risk that this will cause him to be teased or embarrassed, then I probably wouldn't.    You can try the boxer short pull-ups, but there is no guarantee.  Besides, I have heard they are uncomfortable, look like paper shorts, and make a rustling noise.  Not as discreet as they advertise.

And personally, I wouldn't leave it up to my child either.  Kids at this age don't really understand the consequences of their actions and he may not fully understand what may come of it.  

You may know the kid who invited him, but you never know who else might be there.

Just make an excuse why he can't come this time, and invite the child that invited him over for a sleepover the following week.

Answer 12

yes, but get him used to pull ups or goodnights first. if he is uncomfortable using that, then let him sleep in a room closest to the bathroom tell the parent to use a bed protecter. If he refuses to all then let him grow out of it or feed him two hours away from his bedtime. he will have other sleep overs in his life.

Answer 13

Can't you get him some of those pull ups?