My 8 year old son still wakes up in a wet pullup every morning;he wants to go to a sleepvoer?

Question

What am I supposed to do?

Answer 1

Let him go it is no big deal. I know this is kinda embarrasing to admitt but I am 13 now and I use to wet the bed until I was about 11 or 12 and even then I still had an occasional accident. Well I have been going over to different people houses and spending the night since I was like 5 so I say let him go.  Now you might wanna warn the parents or sit your son down and tell him that he needs to try not to wet himself and that if he does then he need to be given an extra pull up and told to change himself. Now when I went over to people houses I never wet myself because I was afraid of what people would think about me if I did so yeah that is a good motivator.....lol....jk...but really I think that you should just let him go but give him an extra pull up or two to take with him.

Answer 2

let him go but tell the mother his situation or tell him what to do in the morning; concerning changing himself and what not.

Answer 3

Hmm... This is a tough one, maybe you should teach him to go to the bathroom before bed, or have him wear a big kids diaper.

Sorry about the diaper, just trying to help.

Answer 4

Make sure he uses the bathroom before he leaves and before night time. It doesn't matter because no one will see and he can just keep this private.

Answer 5

if he is 8, he shouldn't be in pullups. HE NEEDS TO GET TO A DOC. no joke. OR

let him go to the party, embarass himself, then he won't wear pullups.

Answer 6

Get him the good nite underwear, also tell the parent at the sleepover about the problem, tell the parent to remind him to use the bathroom before he goes to sleep and to wake him up before the others to see if he did it and so that the problem is taking care of before any of the other sleepover friends wake up

HOPE I HELPED

Answer 7

Have you talked to an allergist? This is one thing food allergies can cause.

I would talk to my son....my son has severe food allergies. He would go to birthday parties where he could not eat the pizza and cake, and when he was around 8 he wanted to go so much, that I would talk to the parent, and talk to my son. We worked out a strategy, and helped him reveal/keep private what he wanted....but he still had trouble feeling so different. He would do just fine at the party, then come home and have a temper tantrum afterward, every time!! Took me a while to realize that it stressed him out. But he did enjoy the socializing.

Talk to him about how he will handle it...how many kids will he know? How many are good friends vs. acquaintances? And just support him or else the alternative to hold on for fear of him being hurt, and that will hurt too....no easy way through this, so just work it out together and see how it goes. Be sure to talk afterward! Especially about being proud of him for trying and what was fun!!

Answer 8

get the goodnights underwears

Answer 9

let him go and tell the boy's parents and the boy himself,see if you could make an agreement that if anyone makes fun of him,they'll be put into diapers too

Answer 10

My sister has the same problem. She is currently 11 years old (12 in October) and she wears pullups. Her friends know about them.

Answer 11

Be sure that he takes plenty of extra pullups, and if your comfotable enough tell the parents of the other child about your son's condition so they are aware and can help him if he needs it.

Answer 12

He's 8 and still wetting the bed? My friends sister had the same problem, turned out she had kidney stones or something. I would take him to a doctor first....and as long as his clothes don't get wet I would send him to the sleep over with the pull ups.

Answer 13

Good Nights are best for this age, they are more like underwear and will protect him and the bed. Try to cut off his drinking a about 6pm and no carbonated drinks at dinner. Tell him to make sure to go before bed. Good luck. If he continues you may need to take him to the doctor because there are things that can help!

Answer 14

get extra undies to put in his bag so when he does wet himself he has an extra pair

Answer 15

get like those goodnights underwears or something?

Answer 16

let him go but teach him how to change himself. you should really try hard to let him go cuz then he will be happy and you will have a night on ur own. another thing is to tell him to go to the bathroom right before he goes to sleep, if he does.

Answer 17

dont let him embarass himself

Answer 18

Doctor consultation needed immediately.

Answer 19

i would let him go. Don't keep him from having fun, besides the embarrassment will probably help him.

Answer 20

I Wouldn't Let Him Go. And Explain The Reason For Your Answer Sooner Or Later He Will Learn To Not Wet The Bed.

Answer 21

goodnights underwears maybe

Answer 22

If you personally know the mom who is hosting the sleepover, you may want to talk to her about the situation. She may be able to help your son and makes things a lot easier on him.

I am not sure of your son's situation and why he still needs to wear GoodNights/Pull-Ups at night. My daughter is a very sound sleeper and wouldn't wake up to go to the bathroom when she was younger. When she started Kindergarten she was still wearing them until we realized it was dry each morning. After she started wearing underwear to bed there were accidents, most kids have them. I tried to limit her liquid intake before bedtime. I would also get her up to go to the bathroom right before i went to bed. She is such a sound sleeper she wouldn't even remember and would climb right back into bed. Now she is 8 (almost 9) and wakes herself up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom.

Answer 23

he if really wants to go, let him. just bring extra pull ups :)

Answer 24

Tell him you will have to both work on nighttime toilet training first. Don't set him up for a fall.

Answer 25

Hi. I have 2- 8 yr olds. Both of whom still wet the bed. Good-nights are the best thing since sliced bread in my opinion.

As far as sleepovers, you would be surprised at how much control your baby has when he's not at home. Let him go.

And if you are still worried, you can always call the other child's mom and disclose the information to her so she can help avoid embarrassment. She might even tell you he's not alone in this situation.

And to take further precautionary steps, do not allow him to drink soda or anything with caffeine it it. Caffeine is considered a diuretic which means, he'll pee more often.

I hope this helps, I know how it feels to worry about your son's well being, yet at the same time want to let him have some fun and perhaps have a little of your own.

Answer 26

have him wear some onf the new goodnites waterproof boxer shorts......they work just like the normal goodnites or a pull-up....they are just designed like boxers so no-one will notice he wets.

if that doesn't work out maybe talk to the kid he is spending the night with's parents about the problem....

Answer 27

gett him one of those devices which wakes him up as soon as he needs the toilet..i saw it on tv,i dont know what theyre called though :( sorry.

Answer 28

Let him go. Eventually if  he see's he's the only one in a pull up it might encourage him not to wet himself any more. If he has bladder controll problems, that is a different story.

Answer 29

While agree getting a medical consult to check if there is a medical issue.. that is not all there is to it...

SHAME on all those who are saying let him embarass himself etc... how demented and sick....

Talk with him, and ask him why he thinks he's still having accidents.  If this has not been used as way to shame him before and you have generally had good open communication, he should not be shy or worried about talking in private with you....

Try to implement some stratagies such as no drining after 7 pm and going potty RIGHT before entering the bedroom....

I would hope you have a good trusting rapport with the mom at this proposed sleep over.  Give her a bag to keep SECRETLY FROM THE OTHER CHILDREN ATTENDING THE PARTY under the sink in the bathroom he will be using.  So that way when he wakes up he can access the materials he may need privately with NO ONES knowledge and then the mom can be sure to take the bathroom trash immediately out so there is no pull-up visible in it etc...

there is no reason anyone should have to know about this except the adults and your son... just have a plan, stick to it, and by no means use a word or phrase like "i don't want you to be embarassed".... use a phrase like "we will keep this private" or "this is private stuff and you will do great!"

I agree with using an alarm to wake him up at 4 hour intervals to expel his bladder....

you will be fine!

Answer 30

My little brother had this same problem, I would talk to him about it and see if he still wants to go, and if it's a pull up why doesn't he just change it in the bathroom in the morning? You could also let the parents know of the house he is going to, and tell him not to drink anything past a certain time.

Answer 31

My aunt and uncle have a six year old and for her, they made a calender that she can see.  For every night she didn't wet the bed she got a gold star.  She had to get a month of gold stars before she could have a sleep over.

This gives the child positive reenforcement for really focusing on getting up and going to the bathroom.  If you let him go to a sleep over, things could get bad and kids could make fun of him and it will go beyond the sleep over, it will be talked about at school and kids can be brutal.