My 8 yr old son came home from school today upset and crying with blood on his shirt. a boy that he didnt know

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from another class tackled him on the playground and punched him in the face today, this boy is in the same grade, my son had never met or seen him before, my son is not a fighter, and sometimes i wish he would stand up for himself a little more, apparently my son was playing with his friends and classmates and the "bully" initionally had a problem with another lil boy whom was my sons friend, my son being a very loyal friend that he is to his lil buddies tries to stop the boy from attcking his friend and so this boy attacks him instead, i am very upset , its sooo fkin upsetting to see your child come home with blood on his lil shirt especially at the hands of "someone" rather than an accident, i first found out when my son came home from school , when he told me i was mortified that the school hadnt called me as soon as it happened however i eventually get a call from his teacher and she explains it all to me , she tells me that the boy was punnished, but didnt tell me how watwududo ?

Answer 1

OH! School BULLIES!!

GET BACK AT THEM!!

THE GOVERNMENT SHOULD DO SOMETHING ABOUT THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

take action and talk to the principal

Answer 3

what a horrible situation to be in, does your son want you to take it further? sometimes it can just make the situation worse, as in the bully could then make him a regular target and he would be more reluctant to open up to you in future. I would advise your son to stay out of the way of the bully from now on and if it happens again you should ask why you weren't called when it happened and what punishment was administered when they phone. i know it is hard to think on the spot when you hear news like this i am terrible at it.

Answer 4

congrats to your kid for standing up for his friend thats good work. take it to the school about not calling you your kids been attacked if they dont tell you give them a piece of your mind. for your kid dealing with bullies is hard, but you have to deal with it quickly you can end up in bad ways. the ways schools advocate dont seem to work. so try these, teach your kid his self worth(i know na dah) also remind him that these guys dont matter, i dont mean ignore them thats a bad choice, teach him to laugh(internally) at them it works. also if hes going to be physically abused have him learn a combat style id suggest boxing(nothing hardcore) its a style he can learn really quickly, its sadly the only choice against physical violence BUT if he fights he must win. im sorry to say schools dont really help.

Answer 5

Personally, me being who I am. I would pick my son up from school and follow that little SOB home and let someone else his size that I knew beat the c**p out of the little FKR.

I teach my kids to respect people and not do as mommy does but also to defend themselves and not to be bully.

My daughter had a male classmate get pissed with her and he told her that he was going to cut her throat. When she was done with the little a** someone had to pick him up off the floor.

Answer 6

I would give the teacher the benefit of the doubt that she said she would watch the situation closely.  If she fails to prevent it again, call up the principal or stop by the school and arrange a meeting with the principal and the teacher and say how your child is being bullied and physically abused.  Make sure that the other boy's parent know what their child has been doing.  And if things still fail to clear up, I bet a restraining order would put a final stop to things.  Hang in there, you have a brave little boy.  make sure that if your son is approached by this boy in a negative way, before things escalate, get an adult immediately.

Answer 7

i would talk to that students parents so that it wouldnt happen again maybe teach your son that it is okay to stand up and fight back if he is being bullyed...

its a very tough one because us as adults cant do much but i would know that i would want to punch that kid myself if he did that to my son ...anyways back to the subject if talking to his parents doesnt work try talking to the school princaple maybe they can help that kid out to teach him that bullying isnt the answer

Answer 8

That's why I homeschool my children. They get lots of interaction with peers with adults watching.

He's not the teacher's kid so she doesn't care as much as you do.

All children are immature. They cannot sustain their own lives without us. With that in mind, I won't send my children out to fend for themselves.

It may be easy for me to say because theres a large homeschooling community where I live.

Answer 9

My *** would be up in the principals office pissed off and screaming at the teachers.  NO one messes with my kid.  This is definitely something I would take up with the principal.

Answer 10

of to the principal is what I would be doing. Put in a complaint and ask what punishment is given in cases like this and ask why you were not contacted straight away and in future you must be

Answer 11

Ive had this happen to my child, he was attacked by a bunch of 12 graders who wanted to steal his shoes from him, so he grab the one that was on him and smacked his head into the cement once or twice to get up, and pretty much to get them off him, so then the guy gets up and smashes my son.

So Me, my wife, my mother in law went to the school, demanded to see the principle, we pretty much wanted to know the punishment, we wanted to know the name of the kid to tell the police. etc, we pretty much intimidated the principle because we were appealed at there actions. which were pretty much, wait 2hours after my son went to look for help and barely got it,  then they called me, 2 hours afterwards.

So pretty much we got the kid suspended for a week and we sent the police around to the kids house to scare the living **** out of him, so he never did it again. I suggest, pretty much if it happens again, u march up to that school and let them feel you wrath girl.

But i sincerly hope it works out for you. Also if its happened alot, mabye change schools

Answer 12

Oh, god, I dread the day something like this happens to my son.  I'm afraid I'll go ballistic.  But I'll give you the course of action I SHOULD take if I'm ever in your situation :)

I would go to the Principal first and ask to have a sit down with the school counselor, your child the little hooligan that hurt him and the child's parents.  From there I would find out what kind of home life this kid is coming from to get a grip on why he would act like that.

Answer 13

put him in karate and keep encouraging him to defend himself....assuring him you'd always stand behind him even if the school didn't. Also give him a BIG reward for standing up for his friend. He'll be a good man someday. You should be very proud.

Answer 14

i am not one to normally condone violence but you need to sit your son down and explain that while fighting is not the answer, he has every right to defend himself.  i have told both of my boys that.  they know that if they ever start a fight they are in big trouble but if someone hits them then they are to defend themselves.  

just let your son know that you love him and that its ok to defend himself.

Answer 15

i would march my *** to that school tomorrow and demand to speak to the principal and ask what kind of punishment that child got and if it is not to your satisfaction i would threaten to call the police or just do it. that is BS when we send are children to school they should be protected and they should have called you immediatly after the situation happend. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 16

Boys get into scuffles. As long as its not a reoccurring problem I wouldnt worry about it much. Its part of growing up.

Answer 17

Teach him the most imporrtant words! 'That is not OK!

Answer 18

Schools have a responsibility to take bullying very seriously and to deal with it promptly.

If the bully was punished, why does it matter how?

You could make an appointment to discuss your concerns with the head of the school, just so that s/he is aware of the situation.

Answer 19

In these situations sometimes no matter what you do,nothing gets done about it...the kid might get suspended or detention but that is about it....its not like someone is gonna punch him in his face(which sometimes I think should happen) My y daughters aren't in school yet but I know no one is gonna get away with punching my oldest at least...she kicks the c**p out of my ny husbands nephew when he is mean to her and he is 3 yrs older than her. But there is nothing wrong with your son not being a fighter...at least you know there is a slim chance you are gonna be getting a call from the Juvey Center...

Answer 20

my son use to be exactly like your son he use to never stand up for himself and i know exatcly how you feel it was horrible seeing your son so upset. i told him he must fight back so next someone picked on him he did and my son went a lil over board and beat the c**p out of him i was not proud but in a way i was now no one messes with my son. he is now 10 this incadent happend when he was 6/7