My 8 yr old son spit in someone food at school!?

Question

They called me asked me if I could come pick him up. He said it was a dare from someother kid. I worry is this a sign of things to come. He seemed truely sorry was crying his eyes out and no one ever yelled at him. Next year will it get worse? How can I help him be less of a follower?

Answer 1

I'm sorry, but, that is just terrible and so humiliating to the other child.  Worry less about him being a follower and impress upon him the absolute cruelty of that act.  

He needs to figure out the admirable traits inside of him that he wants to bring out to the surface and become the kind of person others want to follow.  

I'm sorry to hear that this happened and I'm sure it's upsetting to you too, I wish you a good summer!

Answer 2

Enroll him in activities that enforce leadership, such as sports or even boy scouts.  He's young, and will (eventually) learn better, but discuss with him HOW this was wrong - even if it was a dare, WHO got in trouble? Him.  Don't yell, but make sure he knows you are disappointed and if it happens again, there MAY be consequences.  Boys will be boys.  Good luck.  Hope it gets better.

Remember the age-old parental adage... If everyone was jumping off a bridge, would you do it?

Answer 3

Its typicalof kids this age expecially boys!! Most kids are followers to some extent because they want to be accepted. Just talk to him about doing things he knows are wrong just because his friends tell him to..I had to do the same with my son. I asked him questions like You're friend stold you to do this but who ended up in trouble? Did you ever wonder why your friends don't want to do this thing themselves? And explain that someone who gets you in trouble on purpose is not your friend. he'll learn to choose better people as he gets older.

Answer 4

Oh no!, you must have been mortified! - lets hope his upset reaction shows that he will never do such a horrible thing again!. If he had laughed or shrugged his shoulders - then I would agree it is cause to worry for his future, but he sounds remorseful.

Answer 5

This is a stage that everyone (exspecially boys) go through.what grade is your your son in????if he he is in 5 and up then yes throughout middle school he will have it even worse b/c of peer pressure.then high school......lemme not get started on that one it is worse.try to keep him in an environment in which he can cope with (school)