My 8year old cat passed on and i am cryin most nights, how do i get over him? I love him heaps!! ?

Question

My 8year old cat passed on and i am cryin most nights, how do i get over him? I love him heaps!! ?

Answer 1

it will be ok...losing a beloved pet is always hard...my moms cat died at 3 years old and she cried for weeks...the other user is right crying helps...think of the happy times that you had with him and the best thing to do is to get another cat because your late cat has taught you how much cats can make your life happier and you will always need one in your life...however do not compare the two if/when you get another one...look at the new cat is his own self as comparing him to his predecessor will only lead to unfortunate comparisons such as it doesn't rub my face like my other cat did and will make you miss your other cat more and make you not love your new one as much because of its "shortfalls"...its always hard losing a loved one/thing...look at photos of him and just think of all the good times and let it take its course...it will pass although you may never fully get over it you will learn to live with it and will be at a comfort with his death...i am so sorry for your loss...everything will be ok

Answer 2

I am very sorry to hear that. I do not think you get over him. He stays with you forever, but one day, the sadness turns into happy memory you shared with your cat. I still cry about the cats I lost sometimes and much appreciate what i have now.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear about your cat, I've had three cats all that have passed do to cancer. It's hard to get over them at first but I promise you it will get better and time progresses. It's perfectly natural to feel sad when a close pet passes and all you can do is just wait until the grieving process is over.  

Answer 4

Think about all of the fun times you had with your cat...sometimes traveling into the past can help out your future...it does take some time...keep crying as well...it helps.

Answer 5

There is a pet loss journal I found on Amazon.com. It sort of helped, but it hurt a lot too. My 4 1/2 year old kitty passed last month, I miss him. I haven't slept since he died. So I think it just takes time to heal. Just think how much you love him that you are this sad without him. Hope you feel better!

Answer 6

When you find out let me know. It's been 8 years since I lost three dogs on the same day. Up until today I still cry for them, especially my good girl Shilka, a beautiful Belgian Shepherd Malinois.

One of the things that has helped out a lot is after some time I got a kitten and named him Abby. He is my precious treasure and I would do anything for him in a second. He makes me laugh. I suggest you do the same. Get another cat when you feel ready. Even though that new arrival will never replace your beloved pet, she/he will certainly make your days a lot happier.

I'm sorry about your loss.

Answer 7

Let yourself feel the feelings you have for your kitty. Have faith that your feelings will not last forever, but that you need to go through these feelings and honor them to process what has happened.

Try to see yourself the way you would see a friend who is going through a hard time and nurture yourself. Make a little alter of remembrance for your kitty with photos, toys or a drawings, whatever you can do to honor his life. Think of a special way you can say goodbye. Keep remembering that bad feelings like this will heal someday. Don't be afraid of someday letting go of your grief, but honor it for now. Realize that there are many people who are grieving lost loved ones just like you, and that your feelings are normal.

Answer 8

Theres a website just for that its called rainbow bridge

Rainbows Bridge is a virtual memorial home for your departed baby. Whether furry, feathered or scaled, all are welcome.

In loving tribute to all of God's special little creatures who filled our lives with joy, happiness and love...

Answer 9

i know exactly how you are feeling.

after loosing a 14 week pregnancy in december 07, and my pet ducks to the neighbour's dog end april 08 (they left the gate open).

i was looking at my beautiful Mau outside, she was fretting for the ducks as she was a mum (who had had 4 kittens prior to being desexed) and we got the ducks as ducklings and she actually took to them and sunbaked with them outside.....

she loved catching and torturing the mice around here, brang a few inside for mummy too, slightly chewed up and usually with a leg missing

i said to her as she gave me a big face rub. I don't know what i'd do if i ever lost you Mau. we got some nice photos of her in the week following. and one morning like usual we let her outside, and i called her at 8 in the morning to come in with the biscuit box. She never came.

about a hour later my parents arrived and my mum was bawling Where's ya F*****G cat !!! i said she didn't come in thismorning. my mum got her off the road, practly nothing left of her. my beautiful Mau was gone but so so damaged.

i originally got her off my sister at roughly 5 months old she had been found in the gutter skinny and the lace where she had been staying, a man had been kicking her and throwing her and any other nasty thing he could do.

when i got mau she was so afraid of humans i'd have to look for her and drag her out from under the bed and pat her until she calmed down. in the 2 1/2 yeas i had her she turned into the most beautiful personality that any cat could ever have. from following me into the toilet at 3 in the morning giving me these kitty calls. to coming outside with me and guarding me like a dog when i was preggers (when she was most protective of me) i'd take her to the window and she'd growl at anything that moved cuse i'd whisper in her ear "where are they don't let them get mumy"

The big thing is you never get over them and i stil think about her every day. You never realise how much they mean to your life until they are gone and people can never understand if they have never owned a pet and had that connection....

so in the days following we didn't know what to do with ourselves no Mau to call silly names to, no lump at the end of the bed at night...

no bed buddy when my partner satayed at his dad's for the night.

i was going insane with sadness and disbelief that she went on the road but was afraid of the cars.

well 6 days after losing Mau i went to the local petshop and there it was a lil tabby like my mau well 2 but the other got sold b4 i got back with the $$ the one that was left looked very similar to my mau, but was a male, well i couldn't resist and he was mine!!

he hugged me and gave me those face rubs i was used to. and Purr can this cat purr!!!

i knew he wouldn't replace Mau but he filled the void and some i called him Mr Mau but it's turned into moomi mau, juat something he responds to..

he is turning out to be just as good as Mau in many ways but will never replace my Mau.

Not to mention it's so different having a young cat around again!

I hope your heart heals with time and hopefully when you least expect it you will find a lost soul to save. GOOD LUCK

Answer 10

im stilling dieing of sorrow my hampster died 4 years old *sniffle* and i loved him so much he was always loving me so many examples befor he died he w8ed for me to open my easter basket then passed away on my lap i cant get over it it was like 2-3 years ago if not 4 i loved him so much we buried him in the garden my mom made

Answer 11

Awe..my heart is sad for you.

You will never get "over" the loss of a pet. It does get easier over time though. When our kittie died I told my daughter it was ok to cry, but being sad all the time takes away from remembering the good times with our kitty (clyde) .

One thing that might make it a little easier is knowing that you gave that kitty the best life it could possibly have.