My 8yr old daughter & her friends..?

Question

I have a gorgeous 8yr old daughter, Sabrina.

I was picking her up from school the other day; she is in year two. &one of her friends, who is also 8yrs old said "Bye Seb babes." and they kissed on the cheek, and all her and her girlfriends did this. I dont have a problem with the kissing on the cheek, i assumed they were copying their mothers.

But then my brain went over all her friends saying "bye babe" "bye love" "see you on monday rina gorgous."

And i cant help but think, THEY ARE EIGHT!

referring to eachother as "darl, love or babe." is sort of weird isnt it? - I mean it wasnt just her friends, she was like "bye bub." to all her friends and stuff.

And at home she has been acting like a 16yr old s**t. sometimes.

What can i do?

Answer 1

Com'on mom. Were you like this at her age? Were there not anyone who used to call you by different names lovingly? Never get such fears in your brain and by doing so you might unwittingly nurture a ill feelings and might get harsh to the daughter you love and are taking care of all her movements. Such pressures are sure to be on the parents. Just keep obseving and advice her when nursing or cojolling her about the habits you are suspicous about so that she is not hurt and will take care that so one gets much closer to her that she feels physically and mentally uncomportable.OK?

Answer 2

Too much media.

Too many people commenting on their looks.

IOW, too much attention on what's outside rather than what's inside.

Not at all uncommon with today's young kids, unfortunately.

Answer 3

I think your daughter and her friends are just mimicking things they've seen on TV and in movies.   They think it's cute, and don't realize (in their innocence) how it looks to people who are seeing it.  

It might be a good idea if you start watching TV with her, and having discussions about things you see in the shows that you find inappropriate or offensive.   All little girls like to pretend they are grown up.  Sometimes this is not objectionable, but at other times it might be perceived as inappropriate.  If you talk to her about the difference, and perhaps don't let her watch shows from which she's learning the wrong thing, it will be much better.

Answer 4

probably copying off what other people do and think this is cool

Answer 5

if all the kids are acting the same way you can't really just stop your daughter and its important for her to maintain her friendships.  kids seem to start acting like grown ups much younger all the time, and its kind of hard to understand-  our parents might have thought we grew up too quickly too.

how does an 8 year old act like a s.lut at home?  you have control over what she wears, and i don't know what else describes a s.lut other than coming onto guys and sleeping around, which i doubt she does

Answer 6

does she have an older sister ?

if so she may be trying to act like her.

If not, maybe one of the kids are influencing the other to be like that.

you should sit down and talk to her and ask her about her outrageous behavior

Answer 7

Really girly girls do that kind of thing.

Answer 8

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dont worry i do this all the time but i am 16....

but i used to do this when i was younger but even my little cousins who are 7 and 8 do this 'act' as well

its not S****y as you have suggested along with another answer its kinda just what happens these days every1 does it its natural :> this is how most girls at my school greet eachother (except like the emo, depressed, nerdi, teachers pets + all the inbetweens) but this is the most common way to say hello :> if you can call your own daughter a 16 year old s;lut well then she must be pretentious at home just make sure you pull her into line and make sure that if she wants something that you dont give it to her on a silver lined cloud and she cannot just demand things just be easy on her as she sounds normal as all eight year olds go through the im the best stage....its a part of girlhood

and to someone who said they are girly girly girly girls well not tru this is how even tomboys at my school speak so yer and to someone else who said no1 in there school does it well your school sounds sad!!!! get some cool people then...

Answer 9

they're probably coping the older girls in the school

Answer 10

I went to my 8 year olds disco and was surprised to see kids dancing in a provacative way.

The disco was for grades 4-7 and parental attendance was not compulsory but as I had my 5 year old's disco  on first for prep -grade 3 age and parental attendance was compulsory  for that..I decide to stay on. The early disco had upbeat pop music and games,bubble machine and laser lights the second disco had loud heavy beat music, flashing lights and a lot of kids in groups copying each other with pelvic thrusting and jiggying about ...it was so horrible to watch.

An eight year old should act like a child..not an adult.

I think peer pressure starts a lot earlier now so be aware of what other kids are doing and check if your daughter is a leader or just following the pack. I think at that age they mimic a lot of things too...older siblings and parents are often copied in their behaviour..good or bad.

I don't think you can do much as long as your daughter is happy and not feeling forced to conform..it will phase out eventually and be replaced by another thing.

Answer 11

Sounds to me that's just the way today's kids act.  But for the acting like shes 16, have you sat her down and had the talk about the birds and the bees and the consequences of having s*x.  Kids now days now about this stuff way before you even know they do.  Kids here their parents or hear it on TV.  Its just something we are going to have to get use to ad hope our kids make the right choices.  You just got to talk to them but don't put pressure on her or she'll just want to rebel against you I seen that alot when I was younger.  Just let her know that your there for her and that she can tell you anything without you getting mad.   If you keep in the loop maybe if "It" ever happens she'll remember what you said and wont go through with it.

Answer 12

they are only 8 explain to her that girls dont do that to each other

Answer 13

They just want to grow up quicker than they are...following the acts of those they watch on tv or meet around. If she is acting like a 16 yr old S.l.u.t. then talk to her and depending on specifics in her acting control her or punish her if she goes too far.

As for the darl, love and babe business i wouldn't worry too much...she will probably ditch it soon enough, like everything when you are eight years old you will get bored with it eventually.

Good luck! xoxo

Answer 14

even though shes only 8, girls do these kinds of things when thier younger

Answer 15

Well, when these kiddies have role models like Britney Spears, Hollywood starlets, and the c**p that's on tv, mags, etc. it's not surprising that they try to emulate them.

All you can do is keep the communication lines open and talk, talk, talk to her about values, etc.

Answer 16

nope its just their age. they grow up so quickly now and with all these shows on they watch like hannah montanna and high school musical they are only going to keep growing up so fast

there is nothing to worry abou tand if you ask me it just means they are real close friends which sound great as your daughter in years to come will need them when she cant go to adults to talk

goodluck and dont panic

Answer 17

Welcome to the 21st century - where every child acts 10 years older than they are. These friends of her probably all have 14+ year old sisters - thay are just copying them. Explain to her that you don't like her behaviour (calmly) and if it gets any worse, stop her from seeing her friends

Answer 18

My lil cousin is acting exactly like that and she is 9. Its just  the age. They think there so cool now. It will fade. But dont kiss friends on the cheek and say bye hun and stuff like that cuz then mayb ur daughter wont.

Answer 19

wow..



you should sit down with your daughter and tell her how to act her age..

it is VERY weird that they are talking like that and ONLY eight YEARS old..

like what YOU said they are prob picking it up

from their mothers

try sitting down with her and tell her how a real eight yr old should act and she will have plenty of time to act 16 when she is that age...

i hope i helped

and i hope everything goes well for you

guud luck

Answer 20

they are 8?

i have never heard of this before and im going to be a high school sophmore. trew out my middle school years i have never seen girls say this eighter. i think you need to talk to her because it sounds more like a 16 s**t as you said, and i think that she thinks that she's old enuff to be saying stuff like that but she really shouldn't

Answer 21

First off you should never call your own child a s**t, period. I am still trying to get past that. I think she is fine and they are just being dramatic and calling nick names. If you do not like the behavior then tell her she cannot act like that. And exactly what is she doing at home that is so S****y? And what does the fact that she is gorgeous have to do with anything? Perhaps you are the one who is emphasizing this too much not her and her friends.

Answer 22

calling your child a s**t ..or even referring to a hypothetical 16 yr old as S****y..WTF is wrong with you? You shouldnt have kids your an idiot. She is more in danger with a mom like you than kissing every friend she has. Youre just sick I cant express this enough