My 9 & 7 year old's dosen't like the idea of me having another baby!?

Question

This will be my 6th. aged (9,7,4,3,and 2)

They said they hate the idea and want him to find another family

Answer 1

Pay alot of attention to the 9 and 7 year olds get them icecream or something. If you aren't with them as much as they when they were little this may be why... promise them you'll do things with them more.

Answer 2

Your child is feeling left out after all he is the oldest and probably takes the edge of your anger wether you notice it or not you take some frustrations out on him. You need to spend some  special time with your oldest child and make sure that he knows that you haven't  forgotten to love him.

Answer 3

Are they currently thriving and getting sufficient attention from you? If not, I'd figure out how to manage your time as well as possible to give all the kids the attention they need (and consider getting some help when the baby is born so that you can occasionally leave the baby in good hands and spend devoted one-on-one time with the older kids).  If you're already hard-pressed to give people individual time and aren't yet pregnant, I'd seriously consider if it's the right time for another (I'm not saying it's not ... for many people it would be overload but obviously some people manage large families with no problem so if that's you, go for it!).  

If the kids are getting plenty of attention as things stand right now, then I think it's just a question of kids not wanting what they're not used to.  I'd reassure them that I'll still have love and time for them, let them express their concerns and doubts, and not worry about it too much.

Answer 4

Sounds like they are scared that they will be paid even less attention to than now. They are probably thinking here we go again, all the attention will be on the baby and I will get nothing. Sit down and talk to them and try to set aside some time that is just for them indiviidually. This is hard when you have so many kids but all kids need there own individual time. Good luck!!

Answer 5

They probably feel like built in babysitters. don't force them to watch the younger ones all the time. They need time to just be kids and have fun. It is not their responsibility to raise their siblings.Just make sure that you take time out to spend time with each child everyday.

Answer 6

.. well thats a bit too bad isnt it..But maybe they just feel a little left out with all the young ones..Maybe try to include them in the pregnancy and stuff..