My 9-Year-Old Is Being Punished For Misbehaving In School.?

Question

I took away his Nintendo Wii, his PSP, he can't play with his toys, and he can't watch T.V. Now my son is bored and he keeps interrupting me and my company because of it. Besides reading, what can I tell him to do, to occupy his time constructively?

Answer 1

clean his room, do some chores, draw, paint, write.

there are a ton of things to do. :)

Answer 2

tell him to go and clean his room,and if it is done properly,you may  shorten his punishment.

Answer 3

if he keeps interrupting you make him sit in the room with you and tell him he cant say or do anything he will probably get so tired of all the adult talk he will want to go to his room and leave you alone

Answer 4

First of all video game systems and television (why  he has three game systems is beyond me, obviously the boy is spoiled), should be PRIVLEGES he should EARN rather than have them handed to him as if he had a right to them, and time using them should be supervised as well as monitored.  My kids get 1 hour a day, otherwise they are reading, playing outside or helping me around the house.  I suggest next time he whines about being bored you put a dust rag in his hands and tell him to get to work.

Answer 5

chores and play outside

Answer 6

It's his problem, not yours.  Make it his.  Who is it that is being punished?

Answer 7

I assume he is grounded? Make him stay in his room or read a book or something, or if he still whines ask him what he would rather do, chores or quietly read a book.

Answer 8

Keep sending him to day-care.

Answer 9

I would just send him to his room and let him be in there. Tell him to draw or write or read. Or think.

Answer 10

If he is in trouble, make him clean his room or go outside and play.

Answer 11

Have him write down what he did wrong, and what should he have done differently. This will make him think and acknowledge his mistake. Then maybe let him do something for like an hour.

Answer 12

what did he do? i would make him rake the yard. or some sort of outside activity.



Hey i thought of something... make him fold laundry. moms hate to do that.

Answer 13

I would on ly take away one thing .. like if he got in trouble once.. I would take away the nintendo wii..  for a week.. stick to it.. and then if he got in trouble again I would take away the playstation ... you can't take away everything at once..

Answer 14

At this point, it's not a boredom issue, it is a respect and boundaries issue. He is pushing you to see how far he can contrl the situation, and disrespecting you in the process.

My son is also 9 and this happens with my son, as well. At one point he was constantly acting up and we had to use a point system to modify his behavior. Good deeds were worth 10 points, as were bad choices. Each bad choice deducted points from his daily total, and resulted in losses of certain priveledges. Once he plateaued and displayed good behavior, he asked that we no longer use the system.

We have a backup system for setbacks, called 1-2-3 Magic, and it really works. Sit him down and explain that each time he interrupts you (or any other negative choice he makes) you will say "That's one." If it happens a second time, say "That's two." If it persists a third time, say "That's three. Go sit for ten." He should then go to his room for ten mintues. At the end, explain that you sent him to his room for repeatedly interrupting you (or whatever the action was) and leave it at that.

After a while he will catch on and find ways to amuse himself. With my son, we rarely need to get to two anymore.

There will be setbacks, so don't get discouraged.

Answer 15

Drawing, painting, bat and ball, football, ride a bike, go on a nature hunt and create a collage of what he can find.  The fresh air will do him good and he'll have fun (whilst learning-sneeky!)

Best of luck

Kez x

Answer 16

Tell him if he can't find anything constructive to do then he can sit in his room quietly. Tell him to write down, what he thinks his bad behavior was and how he can change it.