My 9 Year old Sister always Sits on the Couch Naked after her Baths!!?

Question

Do you have a speech so I can convince her this is in-decent!! She just gets mad at me and she is also scared to sleep in her own bed for a whole night, it's been like half a year since she has, and she is scared to take showers!!!

Any things to back me up against the rest of my family to prove these things are wrong!!

Like, wouldn't it be gross to sit on a couch someone sat on naked?

I think so!

Thanks,

Shannon

Answer 1

Make her wear at least a towel and give her a night light

Answer 2

UH, why are the parents letting her do this??

It is THEIR job to stop this, not YOURS.

Don't worry yourself over things you can't control.

Answer 3

Don't discourage her from being comfortable with her own body...she'll get enough of that come puberty. She's only 9! My sister and I took showers together until our early teens. My little brother slept in my parents' room some nights until he was about 11. It all depends on who you are. I would just talk to her and tell her to at least put some underwear on if she's going to sit anywhere in the house. She doesn't understand that most everyone thinks this is inappropriate behavior. Instead of getting mad and/or yelling, try to explain it to her so she understands. She'll be more receptive to you talking with her than arguing with her. If talking doesn't help, she'll grow out of it eventually. She's still a kid...let her be one.

Answer 4

it's not gross to sit on a couch if it's in her bedroom

but in the living room!? that's indecent. She needs to learn that her body is private.

Answer 5

It sounds like she just needs someone to talk to her about the meaning of modesty and why it is important.  My 9yo daughter is not yet developed, but it would be totally inappropriate for her to walk around naked because she needs to respoect her body and privacy now and learn it's importance before she has developed.  

In reference to sitting on the couch naked, that is just unsanitary.  If she is in a towel that is one thing, otherwise, the above conversation should cover that problem as well.  

This would be a good conversation for your parents (both of them if possible) to have with her.  If not, this is a great opportunity for you to lovingly mentor her towards self respect and modesty.

Answer 6

No offense but I think your sister needs to see a therapist. 9 years old is too old to be walking around naked.  And if she cant even sleep in her bed the whole night then something is wrong.

Answer 7

I don't think it would be gross to sit on a couch that someone else sat naked on. I do agree that she shouldnt be sitting naked on the couch espically if it's in a main area of the house, it's really indecent for others to see her naked, she needs to learn privacy. The fact she's unwilling to sleep in her own bed, and take showers indicates that she has either seen something traumatic on tv or has had something like sexual abuse doen to her. Keep an eye on her and on the look out for any symptoms:

- bed wetting

- sudden outburst of anger

- depression

- anxiety (fear of sleeping alone, fear of being alone)

- a drop in grades at school

- acting out sexually

- too much knowledge about s*x

any one/combination of these could be a sign she's being sexually abused. Instead of judging her, sit her down and find out what is troubling her. She could be in serious trouble and is crying out for help.

Answer 8

How comes its onli just been the past half of a year shes scared to sleep in her own bed.....Have you moved house? Anything dramatic happend to her? maybe shes unsettled having nightmares? Talk to her.... It might help both of you

Answer 9

Shes Just A 9 Year Old.

Kids Are Alwayz Scared Of Something

Answer 10

dont be so uptight about it. shes not doing for any sexual reasons she 9! i remember when i was 9 i used to share the bath with my sister and we would then go out in to the lounge and sit in front of the fire to warm up and get dressed and we never gave a **** who was there.maybe if shes still doing it when shes older you could say something about it,but yeah just get over it

Answer 11

Sit on the couch naked after your baths/showers and see what she says.

Answer 12

ummmmmmmmmmm i am 10 and wow

i dont do that

Answer 13

My 6 year old daughter already knows about privacy, so I think a 9 year old definitely should! She gets embarassed if I walk by and she's going to the bathroom. And if a friend is over spending the night, she'll turn around while she's changing into her clothes, and she doesn't even have b***s yet!

She sleeps in bed with us sometimes, but not because she's scared.

She likes to take showers because they're quick.

As for the couch thing, she should not be doing that! My daughter used to run around the house naked too, but that was a couple of years ago.

I'm glad that she's so free about her body, but she needs to learn that her privates are just that, PRIVATE. If she wants to be naked, she can sometimes,  just in her room with the door closed and the curtains closed.

Answer 14

My sis is the same age and has the same problems.. scared to sleep in her own bed, scared to flush the toilet. (i know..ewwww.) lol... she likes to sit on my bed naked too!!! i just tell her that it looks gross and that she kinda looks like a stripper. and i tell her about the bed situation that she needs to grow up and stop acting like a baby.. What, is she still gunna b sleeping in the same bed wif my mom when shes 16???... lol.. just break it down to her, thats all.. Hope this helped. =]