My 9 year son keeps hitting his sisters, yells, screams. What do I do??? Tried everything I can think of?

Question

My 9 year son keeps hitting his sisters, yells, screams. What do I do??? Tried everything I can think of?

Answer 1

personally if that was my son i would try timeout and sitting in room.if that didnt work then i would spank him. nothing to serious. with your hand. let him know that hitting is wrong especially to girls. he needs to learn respect. if he still continues i would suggest spanking him harder. then stick him in timeout afterwards.

Answer 2

Time Out!!

He needs to be taken out of the situation. Take away some thing he enjoys like videos games, TV, you know what he likes. Don't give up, you are the parent it's your job to make this right.  Be consistent and follow through with your threats.  

Answer 3

Between the ages of 2 and 12, spanking is still allowed, so I'd do it.  Or take away his privileges, i.e. TV, video games, computer, etc.  And do it until he stops.  Not just for a set period of time, but say 'You cannot have the TV or computer until you do not hit your sisters for one full week.'

You could also put him in time out.  Designate a spot in the corner of every room in your house, and make him sit there for ten minutes.  If he gets up or talks, the ten minutes starts over again.

Also, be sure he knows why what he's doing is wrong.  Don't just say, 'You're grounded from your Wii because you yelled.'  Say something more along the lines of 'I asked you not to yell at daddy or I at dinner tonight, and you did.  We were trying to have a conversation, and it is disrespectful to interrupt like that.  Because of you yelled, you are grounded from your Wii for one week.'

I hope you find this helpful! :)

Answer 4

watch this one, its a nine year old doing exactly that, and how her parents was thougth how to comunicate with her and gain back control

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ef1r5C7R_...

your the adult, you got superior inteligence, use it to teach your kid to start using his own brain to think about consequenses and realise his own mistaces

its not that hard really, using such methods of understanding motivates the kid to grow up and learn to think before speaking and acting...learn to reason first, and it pays out because it reflects back on other things like school, and later on allowing them to make wise descisions when you are not around to guide him

Answer 5

I WENT THROUGH THIS WITH A BOY I BABYSAT FOR HE WAS 9 AT THE TIME, HE WOULD SLAP GIRLS AND LAUGH ABOUT IT, SOOO WHAT I DID, WAS SIMPLY ASKEWD HIS FATHER FOR PERMISSION TO REALLY SLAP HIM BACK REALLY HARD, HIS FATHER SAID YES DEFINATLY, SOO WHEN HE TRIED TO SLAP ME AGAIN, I WAS 16, I TURNED AROUND AND SLAPPED HIM SOO HARD ACROSS THE FACE, AND I LAUGHED, HE CRIED, I SAID SEE , SEE WHAT HAPPENDS, NOW ONE OF THESE DAYS, YOU ARE GOING TO SLAP THE WRONG PERSON, AND IT WOULD NOT BE SOO FUNNY THEN, AND SENT HIM TO HIS ROOM, OH HE TOLD HIS MOM AND DAD, AND HIS PARENTS SAID GOOD, AND DO YOU KNOW WHO HE IS TODAY, HE IS A FBI  AGENT FOR CHILD ABUSE, NOW HE IS OVER 21 AND HE REMEMBERS WHAT I DID AND HE TOLD ME THAT IT WAS THE BEST THING IN THE WORLD THAT I DID THAT, I KNOW YOU MIGHT THINK THATS CHILD ABUSE, BUT ITS A CURE A GOOD ONE, SLAP HIM REAL HARD, THEN AFTER THAT, HUG THE **** OUT OF HIM

Answer 6

I know people aren't going to like this but I would spank him.

Answer 7

He's going to be a wifebeater. lol. If you dont want, beat that brat's @ss, and make him beg for mercy, that he will never do it again.

Answer 8

Time out! Give him 9 minutes (not in his room) in a chair where he is not to move at all unless it is to scratch an itch. if he moves or talks then his time will start over. Every time he does it he will go back into time out.

If he doesn't seem to care about whether or not he gets time out then you can send him to bed early, take away TV or video game time or stop him from doing whatever he may enjoy that day.

Just make sure you are consistent and don't change things after you tell him that it will be that way.

Answer 9

spank him, yell at him, scream at him.

Answer 10

He needs to be punished, stand up and draw the line hitting

is painful and wrong.

Answer 11

Yes. Make sure he is getting enough sleep at night and enough vitamins. Next time his outburst happens, take him out of the room, get on his level and very sternly say "I will not tolerate this behavior". Be consistent and maintain eye contact. Do not smile or smirk. Keep a stern face. Then say, "Do you understand me?" If he turns away just firmly grip his arms/hands. Stay there without changing your expression until you get an answer.

He is either learning this behavior somewhere or something is upsetting him and he doesn't know how to share it with you. You can follow up with asking him to share how he feels with you. Encourage him to talk about his feelings. He may also need some attention from you and planning a special "outing" might be nice with just the two of you. Good luck!