My 9Yr old Daughter?

Question

My 9 year old daughter is very early devopler and she got her period and shes only 9 i got mine when i was 12 and im not so sure what to do, and im scared if girls and boys at her school find out and she will be teased, do i get her to use tampons or pads?? i really dont knwo what to do

Answer 1

use a pad. I really don't think she going to feel compterble with a tampon.

Answer 2

I was only 9 when I started too. It is OK 9 is on the younger side but not so young you need to worry. I would start with pads, tell her about tampons and let her choose when she wants to try them. So many people get mad over tampons, it has nothing to do with your virginity. I have always flowed very heavy and pads were not an option for me for very long. It was either tampons, or leak all over. No one needs to know and if they find out then they find out, soon enough most of them will be there as well. Just reassure her she is not abnormal and answer any questions she has.

Just wanted to add that I am 35 and started at 9, also my mother in law who is 72 and my sister in law who is 53 and my oldest sister who is 39 all started at 9 & 10. Each person is different, it is not all just hormones in food, we have a range from 35 to 72 and we all started early. She is fine.

Answer 3

I would not let her use tampons for a while.  There are some safety and sanitary issues with using tampons that she may not be ready to face.

I believe that nine is very young to start mentruating, but it probably is the effect of many hormones in our food.  Can you switch to organic food and especially dairy products?

Answer 4

Your daughter should be using pads. She is to young to use tampons, they may not fit properly, she won't be able to insert them properly, and she would be at a very high risk of Toxic Shock Syndrome. Make sure you walk her through what is going on with her body, how to use the pads and dispose of them properly and how to keep clean. Also I would have a discussion with her pediatrician about this. While it is not unheard of for a 9 year old to get her period it is uncommon. I would just see what her dr thinks, he may want to test her hormone levels just to make sure everything is as it should be. As far as kids at school, unless she makes a big deal about it how are they going to know? As long as she knows how to wear the pad properly and when to change it no one should find out unless she tells them. Just explain to her that there is no need for her to tell everyone about a personal matter. If she wants to confide in her close friends that's fine but as long as she doesn't announce it to the schoolyard no one will know.

Answer 5

Let her try both and see what she is more comfortable with. I used tampons when I was younger but now they hurt me so I can't. Send her a little makeup bag with some pads/tampons in her booksac so she can bring that to the bathroom with her when she is on her period. Maybe inform the teacher so she will know why she is bringing the bag with her to the bathroom.

Answer 6

most people dont know but you arent suppose to use a tampon until you hhave lost your virginity becuase you can bust your himen also with her being so young i would assum she would be at higher risk for tss get her pads and let her come to you when she is ready to move up. 9 years old is young but  actually very common

Answer 7

Get her pads, I don't think tampons would be suitable for her. And about her age, these days kids get their periods really early. My daughter got her periods at age 10.

Answer 8

Let her try both. I was also 12 when I got mine, but I used a pad once. I hated it.  Feel like everyone knew I was wearing, it I couldn't swim or dance with it. It really depends on the child. Don't restrict her either way. Just let pick the one she's most comfortable with. I know it is hard for you, but your little girl is becoming a woman. Take her out and buy her ice cream to make her feel better. If you haven't already, buy her a book about growing up. Congrats :)

Answer 9

You should get her pads, and if she dosn't tell anyone then she wont be teased.

Answer 10

I got my period right before I started fifth grade my mom started my out with pads and when i got more comfortable she got me tampons but try to get her like slim fits Or Junior tampons they are more comfortable for younger girls

Answer 11

Sit down with her and talk about it. Tell her not to tell anyone her personal things like that. I'm sure no one will find out unless she has her period during class, which I'm sure she won't. But if they find out, and she gets teased and she tells you, you need to talk to her teacher or nurse and they might check in with her if you're nervous about her. Or, you could talk with her doctor and I'm sure her doctor will have some suggestions. Don't wait to talk about it because she needs to know what's going on. Good Luck!!!

Answer 12

I would have her use pads, and just make sure she wears pants while she's on her period.  I'm not sure what age I started, but I think I was around 11.  I know I had started by 6th grade, but I didn't use tampons until I was 13-14 years old.  They might freak her out a little at this age.

Answer 13

I would start her off on pads for a while. I also didn't get my period til I was 12 or 13, but my friend got hers when she was 10. There's no reason for kids at school to find out, unless she's going around telling people. But I wouldn't push for her to be using tampons til she's ready. Even when I was 13, it took me a good year before I felt comfortable using tampons.

Answer 14

Relax!  I was the same age!  You get her pads for now (tampons can be dangerous with that age with TSS and everything).  Talk to her openly and let her ask questions.  Explain to her what she needs to do and why.  You can use tampons if she finds it easier but be sure she is changing it frequently.

And talk to her DR.  I'm sure they have advice as well.

Answer 15

I have seen this happen before when I was teaching.  And my sister got hers at 10.  Just be there for her, be open, and talk about yours -- just that you have it.  I think I would do pads, just because I could not or would not want my 9 year old to be doing tampons just yet.  There are a lot of websites out there on early menstruation.  ALWAYS pads also has a good site.  Preview it and go over what you deem appropriate with her.

HOPEFULLY it will be irregular for the first few years.  

On a side note, if her bathroom is still in the classroom (as my sisters was in 4th grade when she got hers).  You could talk to the teacher and maybe find a place for the pads, so your daughter won't have to carry a purse from her desk to the bathroom which feels so "embarrassing".

Good luck on this.

Beth

Answer 16

use the pads. 9 is pretty young, but not un heard of. tell her that she can tell her friends, but people may not know what it is. (at 9, the boys probably wont know, and about 3/4 of the girls will know)