My 9month old has become very fussy and flails his arms and slaps me in the face when he doesn't get his way ?

Question

is this normal and if so what can I do to control it? My family says he is spoiled but I don't think he can be at such a young age.

Answer 1

He is old enough to know what's going on and old enough to be spoiled. Do not give him the opportunity to slap you in the face. Pick him up with his body facing out so he can't slap you. When he throws a fit, put him in his room/crib/toddler bed and shut the door until he is finished. Whatever you do, do NOT give in when he throws these fits because that will only cause more fits in the future. Whatever it is that he wants, make sure he doesn't get it. If possible do the opposite.

Answer 2

hes not spoiled but it seems like youre forcing him to do things somehow,babies react like this when they face with being forced to do things,let him do it his own way.

Answer 3

in fact it is possible for him to get spoiled at that age but you can stop it you have to show him who'ss boss when he gets violent but thatdoesn'tt mean you have to get violent backsometimess when he gets fussy you have to pretend like you can hear him or if all else fails talk to his pediatrician and they will tell you what you can do

Answer 4

Your son is old enough for you to start establishing appropriate behavior.  You need to show him that this behavior will not be tolerated CONSISTENTLY!  Every time he does it you need to put him down, walk away, and not give him attention for a minute until he clams down.  He will eventually learn that this behavior will not get attention and he will stop.  The key is to do it every time he does it and not engage with him verbally.  If you want to see this in action and see it work every time, watch SuperNanny.  This is one of her staples and it always works and it works quickly if you follow the pattern every time... one slip up and you'll have to start all over.  Remember you're not hurting him and he needs boundaries...

Answer 5

this can be normal but you want to make sure you tell him that he should not do that because its naughty or he will carry on doing it or even get worse. kids at this age always try and push the boundaries you need to stand firm and don't let him get away with things that are naughty. im sure he'll carry on pushing you for a while. hold in there i know its hard! good luck

Answer 6

It's normal.  Spoiled or not.  You'll have to learn to deal with the crabbiness now or else you'll never make it through the terrible twos and twice as bad threes.

Answer 7

That is normal.  Hope you are not getting mad and hitting him back at 9 months. Now if he's 3 4 or five then he needs to be hit back.  HE not spoiled.  They dont know they are doing something wrong.  They get annoyed and aggravated just like adults.  

Answer 8

whatever you do don't smack your child..gently put his arms down and say no no (whatever his name is ) that's not nice.You have alot of answers and the only thing that is going to work is being consistent with whatever method you choose that works best for you..Good luck..My son is 14 months and when he was around that age he would smack my face but not because he was upset..Most of the time was when  i was rocking him and he would be so tired but i just kept saying no no lennon that's not nice and i would put his hand down..He doesn't do that anymore..Now he likes to smack my belly when i am laying down (out of play)..Like i said before good luck...

Answer 9

It's very normal. My daughter started about that time. She is 19 months and I still can't brake her from it. It only got worse. He's not spoiled. When my daughter was doing it I asked her doctor. She said an infant under 1 year of age can not be spoiled. They don't even understand what that means. I wouldn't tell him no though. I did it and now my daughter says "no" and hits me when she doesn't like something I do. lol

So I have been reading the answers after me and some are just dumb. How can giving a 9 month old attention be spoiling them. I bet that person just lets their kid do what ever and says "I don't want them spoiled". You can not give a baby too much attention. You shouldn't do what the baby wants on command but you should give him lots of love and attention.

Answer 10

It's somewhat normal but just be sure to never reward negative behavior in anyway and hopefully he'll figure out that it pays to be good.

Answer 11

they can't communicate.  Remember the story of Helen Keller?

I've heard of teaching sign language for simple needs for, more, water, food, hungry and it allows the brain to express itself.

I know several mothers that did this.  get some reading material and see if it helps.

your child probably is very intelligent and can't express itself without language

Answer 12

hmmm well i can tell you all my son does this and i have always put it down to a temper, you cant correct a baby but rather distract them! for all those that say the child is spoilt that is ridicolous! how can a baby be spoilt and i can say my daughter never did this and she was the spoilt one until she had a new baby brother and i can tell you neither are spoilt!  i think hunny your son has a temper! boys are boys and thats how we have looked at it anyway, we put him down say no and get something else for him to distract him, I am hoping it is a phase with mine also!

Answer 13

just stop him and tell him no and that mom does not like that. its never too early to learn the meaning of no. its pretty normal at this stage. i just cut my hair to my chin because my baby girl like to wrap her fingers in my long hair and yank! ouch!

Answer 14

It's kind of normal. Being spoiled is different for ever age. For a baby, being spoiled is getting too much attention, getting too many toys, and always getting their way.

A lot of parent spoil babies by letting them do whatever they want, giving too many toys, and not setting them straight.  

Answer 15

Yes kids can be spoiled rotten.. at any age...

It's normal for a kid to slap you when they are mad. but letting them will ruin their life.

Make sure you take action. use a firm but not scary voice letting them know your boss. Place your kid in a crib and let him cry every time he do the hitting and fussing. You cannot let it happen to long or he'll know he can do it forever.

Hope that helps.

I had a lot of experience with kids like this. Got to let him know, he isnt getting anything he wants when he acts bad.

Answer 16

This is normal.  This is an important moment where you need to assert yourself as a Mother.  This is important to get your child to learn that when Mommy says No she means No.  This is important because if you are teaching your baby something that will keep him/her safe such as don't touch the stove, or don't put your finger in the electrical socket your baby needs to know that you mean business for their safety sake.   Back up your commands with your voice and your feelings, just as if you were teaching a dog to sit.  If they don't think you are serious or mean it, they won't respect it.  

So, if they baby is slapping you in the face.  Gently take the hand hold it and hold it down on the baby's lap as you tell the baby no (or no hit, or no not nice).  Keep the command simple to one or two words. Not a whole sentence (such as no baby don't hit mommy in the face because that's not nice and I don't like it).  

If the baby still needs to learn, when the baby does this, gently and without much commotion, turn the baby away from you, and wrap your arms around the baby (like a hug) so that they can't move.  This is like a time out.  The baby will not like facing away from the mommy, and will associate the fact that if the baby hits mommy then the baby loses mommies attention.  

The bottom line is the baby is doing this to get attention or as a game to get attention.  Do NOT draw attention to the behavior as this is exactly what the baby wants.  But show attention without making a big deal over the hitting.  

Answer 17

No you better get that under control or he's just going to be "my way or the high way" kind of person for the rest of his life.  Try talking too the pediatrician or ask a local children sycoligest to see if there is anything you can do to stop this kind of behavior.

Answer 18

This is very normal however, it is very possible to be spoiled at 9 months old. It is also the perfect age to start learning NO-NO! When he does these types of things you should tell him no no in a very stern voice. He will learn alot quicker than you'd think that this is not ok.  

Answer 19

Your family is correct. I've seen lots of infants and small children throughout my life and I've learned that there's no age too young for a child to be spoiled. My brother was a spoiled 9 month old. My neighbor's kid was not. It's different for each kid and family.

Obviously you can't hit the little one back or anything but you need to be more stern with him. When he flails his arms around and slaps you in the face, you say with a very loud, stern voice, "NO!" and point your finger in his face.

If he cries, you might feel bad for a few minutes but you're causing the child NO harm and will help to reverse the process, which can get worse if he learns that this sort of behavior is tolerated by you.

Answer 20

He is starting to assert himself, and yes it is very normal. Try not to jump to his demands as much as you did when he was younger. It will start to get better eventually.

Answer 21

Oh yes children can be very spoiled at that age, if you have held him the majority of the time or anytime he gestures for something you give it to him, he knows he can get it. As for the hitting you, nip it in the bud now. Put his hands down and firmly tell him NO STOP. Not please stop, stop it baby etc. Just NO. STOP. Its gonna be hard especially cause you will need to be consistent with it.

Answer 22

if you give him everything he wants than yes he can be spoiled. try not picking him up every time he crys as long as he is ok he doesn't have to be picked up all the time  

Answer 23

Very Very normal... many babies do that just like they get the habit of sucking thumbs... now everytime he slaps u... u gotta work on his psychology... like only at the time he slaps u, tie a rubberband losely on both his hands' fingers.. n he'll go mad trying to get his hands rid, (make sure its somethng that does NOT injure him)...lol he'll get the idea that everytime he does one particular action (SLAPPING), he's in trouble... n he'll try never to do it! Try it... :) Works... Goodluck!!!  

Answer 24

normal

Answer 25

This is when you say he is his fathers son. I think it is normal.

Answer 26

Yes he can be spoiled as his age. They are probably right about that being what is wrong with him. I don't know what to tell you to do except maybe put him arms back down and tell him "no." He has to know that he can't do that or he will continue to do it.  

Answer 27

look at him in the eyes with a serious face and tell him in a stern voice "no" repeatedly, and flick his hand with your finger a couple times.  eventually he will get the message though he will still test you once in a while.

Answer 28

you don't deserve to be slapped.

you just need to let him know you are in charge and don't baby him so much.  

Answer 29

Well, at nine months even though he kind of knows what he is doing he doesn't really-he isn't doing it to hurt you but that is just how he is dealing with anger. Don't give  him what he wants or this will only get worse.  

Answer 30

yes it's normal for them to fuss but you should still grab his arms (not forcefully or to the point where you could hurt him) and say no, we do not hit.

Answer 31

completely normal, hes trying to test you, every baby goes through this wether its earlier or later, my son did this early also, just dont give in and start with time outs, he may not stay on them but eventually he will get the point just keep putting him in one spot and tell him that hitting is very sassy and is not allowed. good luck to you he will also do this with biting as well