My B/F has not been home for 7 months...

Question

My B/F hasn't been home for 7 months now. He say we are still a couple and he claims to love and the blah blah things you men say. If I tell I have a friend(which is a guy) he gets very jealous and combative. At this point I don't see a future in this relationship. I love him very much and he claims the same. When I ask him when he coming home, he says "soon" but this is the longest soon Ive ever seen in my life. Should I just give up on us and move on. My friend say I should and move to Delaware with hom and we can start our life. I don't know what to do. Any advise. We do have one child together. I don't know.

Answer 1

if you love him you have to stay with him. think of what it would do to your child if he didnt have a father figure. do whatever you can to be with him

Answer 2

mate he go goes move on  

Answer 3

why did he go away.?

i mean you should talk to him about moving to delaware with him and if he says no, i would end it or put the relationship on hold for a while. i can understand you dont want to raise your child as a single mother but him being away for seven months is almost like being a single mother. what i would do is talk to him and tell him that you want to either move to delaware or set a date for him to be home by, otherwise your ending it and see where that takes you.

best of luck =]

Answer 4

stop asking him when he's coming home. its putting pressure on him. i dont think, after 7 months, he's coming back. do you have a relationship with him and he just lives else where? he may not come back but doesnt want to for fear youd keep him from his child. dont make him come see you or the child. it has to be his idea. nothing else you can do, except move on. but thats up to you

Answer 5

i am not much of a man but i realy think you should move on give him up and get a life of your own you know in your heart he is not the one for you but you are blinded buy the fact that you think you love him ah ah  go for someone you can trust sorry im so negative but would hate for you to get hurt even though i dont know you

Answer 6

This is your life.  You value your time, right???  Is he in jail?  'Cause, I can't see any reason for him not seeing you and your child, not unless he is on the moon and is stranded.  It is time for an ultimatum.  You have waited around 7 months without him returning home...

HMMM!!!!  Let's read between the lines, he has moved on.  He does not want to hurt your feelings.  He doesn't want you to move on with anyone else because he wants to control your life.  He feels he can pull on your heart strings, mainly because you have a love child together.  

Hope!  You have hoped enough.  Now, it is time for you to think of your future and how to be happy for the rest of your life.  He has put you on hold.  And while you are holding the phone, he is on the other end talking to someone else.  One thing about men, when they move on they move on and most times they are too cowardly to tell you that they are seeing someone else.  

He is in Delaware and you have not been to his place.  Something, something, just is not right.  Who is he living with?  Why hasn't he invited you to see his humble abode?  What are the excuses he has not come to visit you and your child?  Only you can get these answers, baby girl.  Don't be naive, any more.  Find out and go on with your life and be happy.  Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

You didnt state the reason he left.

Could he be in any danger?

If not then tell him you love him but you cant live like this, tell him he has a week to return home and if he doesnt then move on. You dont deserve to be treated like that.  

Answer 8

Depends where he is. If he is in the Military or anything like that then he has to wait to return.It should be remembered he is also neglecting both you and your child. If their is no real reason he is avoiding you then give him an ultimatum of a month to make up his mind. You both need to communicate before decisions made but he has to support his child financially regardless.

Answer 9

You need to get if he dont wanna

Love you the right way

He aint gonna

It aint where he's at it's

Where he wanna be.

You can't keep sitting at home, waiting for him to come home like he say he is. Cause I'm pretty sure he don' got him another tenderoni. You need to get out there and find you a man that's gon' wanna be with you and yo' baby.

Answer 10

I believe that 7mos its long enough...if he loves you he wont dare to spend that much time without you....go ahead move away and move on...if he loves you he will do whatever it takes to get you back

good luck

Answer 11

You should move in with him if you have a kid together, but if things aren't working out, maybe live closer for your child to be able to go to each house so he could at least visit both of you.

Answer 12

he's not your bf anymore he broke up with you he left you he's not tapping your *** anymore the bird has left your nest now he's tapping you mom

Answer 13

seems like he doesn't want part in the relationship, if he really "loves" you he would've came home a lot sooner. moving in with him wouldn't help. just give him up and move on.

Answer 14

7 months is a long time for him to be so indecisive. You really dont have a boyfriend at all, u need to move on n get your life back on track, socialize and busy yourself, You need to remain strong and positive for your child. You need to separate the fact that your ex will always be a part of your childs life but your ex doesnt need to be a part of yours. It would be best not to tell him about friends youve made now hes gone. I think its a case of him not wanting u but he doesnt want any 1 else to have you. Sorry but I think hes being prety selfish

Answer 15

hummmm tuff one!   The only person that is going to be able to answer this is you.    

Answer 16

if you and your b/f have a child together i would stay together until he gets back. then somehow find out what he did while he was there.

hope i helped.

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Answer 17

You will have to really think this one over.If your not being treated like as you should be,do not waste your time.Many other people including me would  yes move on.Your alone,unhappy etc.If you write down all the good and all the bad things about this ,the one with the most generally rules.Best of Luck.

Answer 18

You men?

You women are nuts. If you don't want to be with him, break up. Ask him what he wants to do and then decide if it's right for you.

Answer 19

I guess it depends how you really feel...and probably why he's gone..

I don't think anyone can tell you exactly what to do without experiencing the same thing on their own..

Just follow what you think is best for you and your child:]

Answer 20

this is very tricky but i would talk about it and say "listen, if you dont hang around here more maybe we shouldnt betogetther" if things start changing thats good, if not i would move on...you have been presents a very genirous offer!!!