My BF and I both decided to break up. As soon as I started dating someone else, he went berzerk! ?

Question

Why? He's acting like he's in love with me. He never made any commitment to me in years. There are so many reasons that we shouldn't be together - too many to mention. Yet, he's acting all hurt and upset that I abandoned him. I asked him if he's in love with me and he said I don't deserve his answer. He also said he would give me another chance with our relationship, but I never asked for another chance!

What is his problem?

Please help.

Answer 1

is it really and truly this hard to understand?

you and your boyfriend are...

young minded...

not true to yourself and own feelings

not making yourselves vulnerable one to another

have mentioned nothing about praying together

going to church

reading the bible

or even anything about a creator.

have you asked your creator about this?

its simple really

you guys tried or he or you wont fully commit yourselves to each other

one or both of you guys want to talk about everything and everyone else except your own feelings and emotions.

also if one of you smokes or drinks or basically something that's different this can keep you from connecting on a similar level.

no non smoker wants to kiss an ashtray , however sometimes the person is able to tolerate it or not even notice it.  other times it will bother a person after the other person cheats.

have you been faith full to each other? all along?

you only give a little and he only gave what you gave and now that your going hes upset because you didn't give anymore and one day he thought you'd bee head over heels if you stayed together long enough?

This is why it is always best to know yourself and be true to yourself.

no matter what the other person thinks just come out with everything. this way in the end at least you did your part and you feel good cuz you tried all that you could.

you ladies always want to be swept of your feet and you want attention and you want all this c**p! we want to give it to you!

most of the time when you get it instead of letting it go to your heart you let it go to your head!!!

instead of walking around feeling loved you walk around feeling good!!!

someone boosted your ego and you keep taking and taking. mean while some poor sap is in love with you and you wont make the connection. sometimes you just want to be selfish and sometimes you feel your soo pretty you deserve to be treated like this. sometimes you think your so hot a guy should be lucky to have you.

a guy puts a little pressure on you and your not sure you want to work that hard and work does not look like fun to you so you bail. just oh well go to a new guy and get some more fun!

hard work and preseverance is the key to building a strong house and foundation if you dont have that you dont have anything.

your man might be upset you got someone first you would feel the same its part of who we are as people. no one wants to think hey look at that guy hes getting along with my girl and i failed I couldnt do that.

about the whole chance thing he is holding back how he feels. he is to immature to tell you hes in love with you. or what ever he feels. hes scared that by telling oyu he might get hurt.

heres the kicker... by not telling you he get hurt so whats the differance?

at least he is hurting himself by holding it back and not being vunerable to you. if both of you dont stop holding back then all you will have is 2 one sided realtionships. 2 will never become one.

if you think about it this way.........................

long before we had rings and paper and ink.......................

s*x is what consamated the marriage............

meaning first you meet

then you date

then you have s*x and wa la your married just by having s*x

now if you think that mankind added all this extra stuff

then think the first time you had s*x with this guy

well

thats how long you been married to this guy!

sure maybe not in your eyes or mine or his or your families

but if god is real then that is what he said and your married to him.

as soon as you put a different persons stuff in yours you broke the connection between you and your husband and you started a new with this other guy.

your exhubby now has a connection that is broken. unfullfilled.

or if he cheated on you and took you forgranted ... now he knows how it feels.

either way do you really think its the power of a ring that bonds people together? or the same power that gives life the power that bonds 2 lives together?

im not saying the bible is real im not saying its not but if you did follow it you would not be in this position right now.

you need to spend some time with yourself and get to know yourself again and what you want and who you want.

dont even give an oppertuinity for you to get pregnant (dont have s*x at all!) cuz your kid will be stuck in this mess.

and you must care a lot about this boyfriend or you would not be on here asking about this.

you 2 have got a lot of growing up to do.

look at yourself and always tell the truth unless it would really hurt you or someone and then still think about telling the truth. find yourself.

telling the truth all the time will show you who you are and what you like and dislike quickly but it will not always help you make friends.

also use I statements and recipracol communaction. effective communaction. look tat up on internet.

Answer 2

How old is he? If he is in his twenties, this is actually common behavior, as men don't quite know what they want at this age and are often ambivalent with their feelings. If he is older than twenties, he just sounds like a weirdo.    

Answer 3

He still sees you as "his". You were together for years you said? Maybe he feels like the next guy doesnt deserve to know you or be with you like he has. If hes willing to give it a second chance thats a redflag he probably still loves you. theres a difference between loving someone and BEING in love with someone. Try explaining that to him???