My BF just moved in w/me but I'm not ready for the big commitment. How do I tell him w/o hurting his feelings?

Question

We've been dating for about 10 months, but I'm not ready for that type of commitment. I love my freedom and my space. I do love him a lot and I don't want to loose him. What do I do?

Answer 1

y would u let him move in if u werent ready for it? thats pretty silly.  

Answer 2

I hate to say it, but it's a little late for that.  You should've been up front and honest before he ever moved in.  That's a huge step for most couples!  You need to get honest now, before he gets too settled and be prepared for him to leave -- both your home and the relationship.

Good luck!

Answer 3

yes, I agree with Superdooper man.  You should have discussed your commitment situation before your bf moved in.  As as now, tell him your feelings about your situation.  Best of luck!  

Answer 4

Chalk this up to a learning experience for the next guy after you dump this one.  

Answer 5

If you are not ready for the commitment yet than you need to first think about what you are going to say to him.  Because you do not need to lead him on.  Sit down, tell him how much he means to you and how much you love him and don't want to lose him but maybe that we are moving too fast?  Or that you are not ready for such a big commitment.  If he is the one for you and if he really loves you when he will respect your wish and wait until the time is right.  Trust me when I say he might be the right thing but just at the wrong time.  Hope I could help out a little!  Good luck!

Answer 6

Honestly and truly you should not have let him move in with you, because now you will not be able to get rid of him or have a life of your own...You can ask him to move??? which I doubt he will do...or you can move.....if not you are stuck until the lease is up...

Answer 7

sooo he moved in and you are at a loss

send him home and be firm with him or you will end up doing as he wants and dot what you want

Answer 8

That is really crappy of you to let him move in and then make this decision.  There is no "good" way to tell him.  Just sit down with him and apologize that you let it go that far but that you are not ready for a serious commitment yet.

Answer 9

If you are major and your b/f too, immediately get married and avoid all commotions.

Otherwise, keep him in a distance, till the time comes. There is no question of hurting, feeling bad, so on and so forth.

Men never face problems. But women are.

Be careful and think ten times before committing your self in the matter of s*x.

Answer 10

Uh might've had that conversation before you two moved in together.