My Best Friend's Confession?

Question

My best guy friend, who already has a girlfriend, confessed to me a couple of weeks ago that he was in love with me, wanted to marry me, and have kids with me.

He's the womanizer type, swore he'd never marry or have kids. But told me I was different and I grounded him. He's happy with me even when we're not doing anything...it hurts him when we go a few hours without talking, and all the other melodramatic confessions.

He asked me if I loved him, saw myself loving him in the future, told me I could grow to love him, etc. etc. etc. I very bluntly said "I care about you as my friend, but the other love you're asking me for...No."

I'm not the type to get in between other people's relationships or steal another girl's man, because I would not like it if someone did that to me. But, I feel the change in our friendship already. Did I make a mistake? What should I have said/done? Should I have reacted differently? I couldn't stop laughing, because I didn't know to take him seriously or not.

Answer 1

No, you were right to keep it simple. He sounds like he cares for you but the fact that he has a girlfriend takes away from that. You were right to tell him the straight forward truth from the beginning instead of leading him on and making him think he had hope. Maybe you could have done away with the laughing bit, as that might have hurt his feelings when he was trying to open up to you and you were laughing in response. And it's not surprising that your friendship has become a little awkward, that happens to most friendships in which one person confesses their love for the other only to get rejected, things should go back to normal soon.

Answer 2

As long as you told him how you really felt, that was good. he won't be confused there. But, laughing, he's probably wondering what was funny, he might have been serious.But, if you know you are not interested in him, then he'll be ok, I hope.

Answer 3

There are two things you said that caught my attention. 1) He's a womanizer and 2) he already has a girlfriend.  So let's think this through.  

First of all, immature guys will often tell you they love you so they can sleep with you.  He totally fits that profile because you already know that he's a womanizer and here he is supposedly in a committed relationship telling you how much he loves you.  Does that sound like a guy who values faithfulness and can be trusted? No.  If I had to make a guess, I think he's told a lot of girls the same thing (he'll never admit that to you).  He's also probably telling his girlfriend that he is also really in love with her.  

Second of all, when someone really loves you they will always back it up with action.  That's how you can discover what someone's true intentions are towards you.  A guy who wants to spend the rest of his life with you would not flirt with other girls or be in a relationship with another woman.  He would love you too much to jeopardize the relationship he has with you.  So always look to see if someone's words are backed up by their actions and their past history.

My conclusion is that he just wanted to see if you would catch his bait and fall for it.  Your response was not a mistake and you handled it just fine.  Don't let this womanizing two-faced cheater get anywhere close to your heart, body or mind.  Continue to laugh at him because the only thing he's thinking to himself is, "Dang she didn't fall for it!!"

Answer 4

shouldves dont matter, its what you said and oobviously what you felt. If your feelings change you can behonest about that too just like youwere honest in the first place

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Answer 5

if you told him the truth then thats about it

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