My Best Friend is too blunt..?

Question

My best friend is a really blunt person,like he doesnt realize that he says thing to people,too openly,that he shouldnt,because it hurts peoples feelings,but he doesnt realize that what he says is a little too brutaly honest and blunt.

Any way I have almost had enough of it,and it is almost hard for me to invite him over to my house andymore,because he will criticize my stuff and my house,not knowing that it hurts me.

Like for example,I live in Houston,TX,and last week we all thought Gustav was gonna hit us,and he asked me if I was gonna evacuate for it,even if it was cat 3,and I said no,and he said "whooa,why not,your house is so small,it would just blow away"

And my house isnt even small,its perfect for the 4 people living in my house,and I just dont know what to do anymore,because everytime he says stuff like that,it just makes me wanna cry,because he doesnt realize what he is saying actually is kinda rude,and trust me,he has made comments worse than that to me.

I have told hime before that it was kinda mean,but I dont think he realizes that he is a little too blunt,so does anyone know what I cand do or say,because I just cant take it anymore.

Answer 1

The best thing to do is be honest with him.  Tell him that he can be too blunt, and at times it really hurts your feelings.  Tell him that you like his honesty, but sometimes you just really don't want his opinion if he is going to be hurtful.  He's smart enough to know if what he is saying will be seen as mean or hurtful.  If he's a true friend, and you've informed him that his blunt ways can be hurtful, he will try not to be so blunt in the future.  If he keeps it up, you might have to stop hanging out with him so much.  Tell him the truth again, that you asked him to stop being hurtful and you can't hang around him as much when he continues to do so.  I've had this problem with a former close friend and this was the only thing that ended up making them stop.

Answer 2

If you're going to stay friends w/him, you're just going to have to call him on every single insult he says  Don't let a one go by unnoticed or you just out & out rite tell him he hurt your feelings on that certain comment,  IF he still persists, you're going to have to tell  him you've had it & refuse to take anymore of his insults.  He can go find someone else to constantly hurt.  Do it. say it, mean it.  NO one has to put up w/c**p like that.  Stick to your guns, you do not need it nor should you take it...Best to you...:)