My DAD walked in on my boyfriend and me?

Question

My boyfriend and I were watching a movie in the TV room and he started touching me down there when we thought everyone was upstairs. My dad walked in and saw what we were doing and asked my boyfriend to leave. He wanted me to talk to him afterwards and said he was in the exact same situation when he was our age. I was too embarrassed to really talk to him back. He doesn't seem angry, but I can tell he's hurt, and he wants to talk to the both of us soon.

How should I act around him till then? What should we say to him when he speaks to us?

And please don't say we're too young to do this, we're both mature young people and we've been together for over a year.

Answer 1

well first make sure your boy friend want talk with your

dad if he doesn't and u make him then it will make things worse

also try to take control when u talk

with your dad don't let him be the leader

say why u think it is fine to do that and that there is nothing worng with it

cause its there isn't and don't let him make u fell bad  

hope it goes well

Answer 2

if your dad wants to talk, then talk to him.

it'll make you both feel better.

promise.

Answer 3

just wait till your dad talks to the both of you.

he seems to be gathering his thoughts and preparing the talk with his daughter. listen to him and ask him questions regarding when he was your age and what he did.

in the meantime, i think he'd be avoiding u as well.. but if he isn't , then just talk to him like usual~ but don't look too hyper or happy otherwise he might think that you have no shame/ remorse~~

and try HARD to rebuild the trust btw ur dad and u and ur bf as well... there's nth worst that ur dad not trusting u and ur bf anymore. hang around the house with them AROUND and don't be intimate anymore. at least wait till the situation has be calmed down.

Answer 4

sounds like ur dad wants to have an honest open adult conversation with you.

congrats. youve grown up enough to reach this milestone!

just be open and honest and dont hold back.

yes. you will need to answer some tough questions but thats ok because if you act like an adult now then you should expect to be treated like one from this day forward.

Answer 5

it sounds like your dad is a pretty awesome dad.. and you should be thankful! some dads would have burst in and preventing the guy from ever seeing you again! and trust me, he is WAY more nervous than you are! he doesnt seem to be mad, just have you and your guy sit down and listen to what he has to say (its prolly gonna be a safe s*x talk) parents aren't idiots, they know that their kids are prolly having s*x, but they arent forced to talk about it until a situation like this occurs.. just relax and know that you'll laugh about it with each other some day. Good Luck! and be safe

Answer 6

WOW, if that was my daughter, the guy wouldnt be leaving under his own power. Thats for SURE.

Answer 7

this is like when i was in the car with my dad and he was talking to me about having a boyfriend thats 4 years older

i just had to suck it up

even though he talked about s*x and all that

dont act weird but dont act nervous

just act as normal and rational as you can

Answer 8

Well, rest assured it was not the worst that could have happened! Me and my boyfriend, when we were living with our parents, were walked on in the act of having s*x TWICE! Once by his father, once by my sister. It was horrifying both times, that's about all I can say about that..

They also both freaked out, worse than your dad did I think. At least your dad does not seem to want to keep you two apart, like my older sister did! So I would say try to be honest with him, that you have been thinking about being sexually active and such. He will probably want to talk about you two being safe for the most part - like birth control or condoms. It is embarassing, I know, but it will ease his tension about it to talk about it, and you two will know where your boundaries lie with him. One benefit is that he probably will be cautious about walking in on you two again without knocking.. unless he does the opposite, checking on you all the time (but it sounds like he wants to be understanding).

No matter what, just be honest and try not to be too embarassed, and tell your dad that it's embarassing and you're nervous talking to him about it. That way it's out in the open and he at least knows it's hard for you to talk about it.

Good luck!