My Dad Has A Girlfriend

Question

I have no problem with my dad's girlfriend. In fact, I'm glad he found someone that he can be with when I'm at my mom's house. The problem is her four kids, that i like to call the little monsters. The oldest girl is 15 ( a year younger than me) and she just thinks she knows everything and could leave the house, get a job, and support herself on her own right now. the next girl is 12 and she is just plain mean. She insults everyone, laughs at people's pain, refuses to help with the simplest things, and gets a kick out of pissing everyone off. Then there are the twins, who are ten, one boy and one girl. one who talks and talks and talks and talks (shes the dominant twin, and a bit of a bully) and the other just ignores everyone and does whatever he wants. and every weekend I spend with my dad we go over there and it is total chaos. i always end up entertaining the monsters and i hate it. i've talked to my dad about it and he said hed try to make it so we have some time together, but when we do he is always texting or talking to his girlfriend. what should i do?

Answer 1

Go see Dr. Phil. lol

Answer 2

There are many issues there.  But, I'd say the most important one is that you need "alone" time with your Dad.  There should be NO excuse why your Dad can't hang out with you One-on-one.

Sit down with him and talk to him about it.  And this time say something like: "Dad I want some alone time for us.  I understand you have a girlfriend and that you guys have strong feelings for each other.  But, you see her all the time.  You see me on the WEEKENDS.  I can't be made to "entertain" the other kids while you and her are enjoying each others time when it's supposed to be OUR time.  I don't think that a couple hours a day would kill you for us to spend time together."  And when you guys go out make him turn off his cell phone or have him tell his gf not to call or txt.

He may go for the idea he may not.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

legally do you have to see your dad every weekend?

confront him and tell him how you feel that you've been replaced with a new family and that you don't enjoy coming to his house on weekend when you don't get a chance to spend quality time just with him. surely he will understand and accommodate for your feelings.

good luck.

Answer 4

talk to your dad if possible, about coming the weekends that her children are off with their father, I hope for your sake this is a possibility. If he has it set up so that you are both there on the same weekend point out to your dad that you are old enough that if him and his gf want to go out you are able to fend for yourself. I hope this is an option for you it might give you a little more time and a little more peaceful time with your father. If that isn't an option I'd consider talking to you mom about shorting your visits for a while, and explain to your dad unless you start getting time with him there is no point in coming over. Might make him open his eyes to what is really going on. Hope it works out for you