My Dad Really Annoys Me...

Question

Okay, so, my dad really annoys me. I mean, I know I'm supposed to love my dad, and put up with it all to prevent hurting his feelings or something. But its just.. its really hard. When I'm obviously listening to music, or watching the END of a movie [thats not on a dvd, its non-rewindable on a television show], or reading, or just busy-- he talks over whatever I'm doing! And not to tell me something interesting, he'll tell me things that make me feel bad. Like, you know the Breaking Dawn Midnight Masquerade? Well, I didnt go. I heard about it too late, didnt have a costume, and the twilight-hype had sort of worn off me. I'm not obsessed anymore. And plus, I already met Steph at a book signing, and it wasnt like she was going to be there. So, I didnt go. But today, he talks over my music (he's got a hearing problem, he's not deaf, just has really bad hearing. so not only does he yell everything he says, I also have to repeat myself multiple times whenever I talk...) and keeps asking me about the book I bought today. It went a little something like this:

Dad: You bought the book?

Me: Yeah. Dont touch it. (I'll admit, that sounds a little rude. But I've been losing my patience with him)

Dad: So, where'd you get it?

Me: Indigo.

Dad: Which one?

Me: The one at the mall.

Dad: Oh, yeah? Which mall? (Stupid question.. we live like, 10 minutes from the eaton center and were only gone for like, half an hour.)

Me: The Eaton Center.

Dad: So, what kind of braceletes were they giving out at midnight?

Me: I dont know.. I wasnt there!! (And now I'm starting to feel bad about not going. But I looked it up, and its just those paper braceletes for if you pre-ordered)

-all the while, my music is playing under his insanely loud voice-

Me (again): Arg. I'm trying to listen to my music! Just leave me alone, okay?!

Dad: Okay, okay. No need to get all mad.

Me: ...

Dad: So, where's Mom? (please notice how he ignores my pleas to leave me alone)

Me: Out.

Dad: Out like where?

Me: She’s at a reunion!!

Dad: A reunion?

Me: YES! I said she’s at a reunion, what else could that mean?!

Dad: Well, I’m just asking. I wish she would tell me these things.

Me: Well, she didn’t, and she’s gone, so there’s nothing you can do about it now!!!

Dad: What?

Me: NOTHING!

Dad: Jeez, I thawed out the steaks already…

Me: I DON’T CARE!! Just leave me alone!!

Dad: Well, I’m just saying--

Me: AHHH!!!

Okay, as I write this, he has started talking again…

Anyways, these are how the majority of our forced conversations go. And I just snap, I cant take it. Please don’t call me an ungrateful angsty teenager, I’m asking for help, aren’t I? And please don’t say something like, ‘Talk it out with him’ because that just doesn’t work. Even my mom says he’s not smart. He just doesn’t have social skills, around anyone. Like, he never goes out with friends, because he has none. His side of the family like my mom better… Oh, and please don’t say for me to leave the room. Not only have I tried that (he follows me…), but its also my house. I don’t want to have to run, in my own home.

I just don’t know what to do. We’ll never, ever get along. What should I do? I appreciate answers, because this was an insanely super long question.

Thankyou,

x Caroline

Answer 1

He's trying to keep up with you. You should feel guilty for being so bratty to him. He's only trying to talk to you because from what I can tell, you obviously don't talk to him very much. He's your father, and as your father he just wants to talk to you. Trust me, once he's gone....you'll look back and feel selfish for all the "leave me alone!"s you said to him.  

Answer 2

both my parents are like that thats why i cant wait to move out they are so annoying

Answer 3

seems like your mom doesnt talk to him so maybe he just really wants someone to talk to..you should be more respectful and try to give more attention to your dad because even though you dont need anymore more (school,friends,etc.) at your dads point in life, he has a lot less opportunities so thats why he turns to you, his family.

Answer 4

Oh, Caroline, how lucky you are to have a father who loves you enough to want to know about your life!  You are blessed to be annoyed by a parent who loves you!  And, one day, your father will have passed, and you would give all the silly bracelets in all the malls to have just one conversation with him again!  And, you will have a child, and your child will be annoyed by you, and you will become your father.

You should realize that your father is probably lonely and misses his little girl that has grown into an alien.

:-)

Answer 5

yeah, it seems like he just wants to be a dad and talk to his daughter, and even tho he's annoying you should probably try to be a little nicer.

maybe cars are just his thing, or he can go to the car when your mom is gone and you dont want to talk to him

he probably yells because he cant hear very well

1, 4, and 5 are too bad, but i guess thats just how he is.

... or it could be something else....

I agree with what Jenny and The Ex Factor said