My Dad died from cancer a year ago and I live far away from my very lonely mother. How can I help her?

Question

My Dad died from cancer a year ago and I live far away from my very lonely mother. How can I help her?

Answer 1

Have her move to the town or city you live in.

Answer 2

Maybe you can save up some money and take some time to go spend with her, or save up some money and fly her to see you and stay with you a couple weeks.

I just went through the same thing with my mother, and she paid for me and my son to take a plane and we stayed with her for a couple weeks.

I am so sorry for your loss, and I hope that you are able to spend sometime with your mom soon.

Answer 3

I am sorry for you and your family.  The loss we feel over a loved one is devistating to all involved.  My father lost my mother 10 years ago. He has never been the same I live only 30 minutes from him and we see him but the loneliness he feels he has never lost and nothing we do fills the void by her loss.  My father couldnt not move on past my moms death.  We all miss her very much but his life stopped the second she died.  I would encourage you to stay in touch with your mother, drop her letters and cards call her.  Have her come visit with you, visit with her when you can.  I think one of the best things you can do is get her to get involved with something.  Anything to get her out of the house and be active.  Volunteer her time somewhere helping other people.  Going places with her friends, anything that will get her involved in life and living.  I know how hard it is for them i see it in my father, I did try to get him involved in different things. He just didnt want any part of it without my mom.   Good luck to you I think if you can get her active in something it will be very helpful to her  God Bless You.

Answer 4

I am so sorry about your loss.

Can you have your Mum come and stay for a while? or maybe she can move closer to you, I know it sounds old fashioned but in these day of computer tech, but maybe writing her letters or sending cards to help her feel better, this is something she has got to try and cope with,the loneliness, and only she can come to terms with it, but do be there for her and give her all the support you can.

Answer 5

You can help her by being the best you can be in your career or school or whatever it is you do. That will carry on your father's and her legacy in the best possible way. I am sorry your father died but I know he would want you to live your own life now. We all die so live while you can