My Dad is now looking after me but he doesn't think to buy tampons?

Question

My Mum died three months ago and I have found it hard to get over the grief and adjust to life without her. My Dad has done a brilliant job coping with having to bring me and my disabled brother up but there is one problem. He never thinks about the fact I have periods. He will buy the usual groceries when he goes to do the weekly shop but never thinks of buying tampons or pads. Surely he must know I need them! He never gives me my own money to buy "women's things" and I haven't got a job at the moment because I had to leave my last job because the boss kept trying to hit on me.My Dad has control of my money (my idea) so I can't buy them myself. Also I have very heavy periods and always seem to stain my bedsheets. My Mum used to wash them but my I'm too embarrassed to ask my Dad because he's a man. At the moment I have stained sheets and have been using loads of toilet paper to absorb the folw of blood but it's really uncomfortable. What should I do?

Answer 1

I live with my dad, i just tell him i need 'female stuff' and he just chucks money at me.

Answer 2

tell him

he has to know

ALL GIRLS GET IT

but otherwise

ask a friend or a friends mom

Answer 3

Sorry to hear about your mum ! . You should talk to your dad or just quite simply explain that you need tampons and could he give you some money. Also try to stock up to get you through a few months. Don't be embarrassed after all men do know about these things.

As for washing your bedding ask your dad on how to use the washing machine so you can wash your sheets yourself. You didn't say how old you was but it would be a bit awkward at any age to speak about this. Men wouldn't put tampons on their shopping list so just ask.

Good luck

Answer 4

theres no need to be embarased he prob knows you need them but just doesnt think bout it when shopping. remember he is a mature adult.

Answer 5

leave him a note if you are too embarrassed to tell him; he won't make a big deal about it, all girls get it

Answer 6

fo shopping with him and just add some to the shopping or ask him for money to buy some

Answer 7

i feel for u really do just go and talk to him and tell him that u have periods and that u need things and if he dont listen then borrow some from mates they should undertstand

Answer 8

just tell him you need money to buy woman things or ask him to buy them for you or ask another adult that you are close with to buy them

Answer 9

It maybe uncomfortable to him about, but does he know you've started your periods? If he's just lost his wife, he's probably still trying to find his feet with the new situation.

Perhaps you should start going shopping with him, and slipping what you need into the cart. I doubt he'll ask why your putting them in there (my dad never did).

PS. I'm sorry for your loss

Answer 10

Oh sweetie you need to talk to your dad about this.  Its only because he isnt conscious of these facts that he hasnt bought these things for you.  If you really cant talk to him - is there another family member that can?  If not, go and see your doctor and perhaps they will be able to have a quiet word with him.  You also need to be open with each other - there's a few more years left yet when you are going to need a parent to talk to - so you must start trying now.  Do try and talk to your dad - he may be embarrassed as might you be - but this is not something that can be ignored.  Try and be lighthearted about it.  And if he is too embarrassed to buy them either ask a relative too or ask if he will make available to you the money so that you can.

Youre going to have to be brave on this one.

So sad to hear of your plight.

Keep your chin up and hope it all works out for you.

Answer 11

Try going shopping with him and casually slip in some tampons, if he asks just say "mum always ussed to buy them for me."

You should also have a look at your washing machine, and try washing the sheets yourself, to avoid any embarassing situations.

Answer 12

Give you father the credit he deserves

he understands more than you think

tell him you have grown up and need things big girls need

Answer 13

As he's your dad, and your in a difficult Position, Why dont you ask a close relative like a auntie? Or a cousin who could help out.. if not..

Tell your dad that your finding Money alot of trouble for you and you need to get yourself some ladies equipt.. dont tell him what you mean if u dont want to..

Good luck. :)

Answer 14

Lol you nut nut,,,, just uncontrol your money from your dad  a fiver of it will do n go buy some... or get some cotton wool some string n roll your own.

Answer 15

First off - so sorry for your loss.  Tell him that you need women things that your mom always used to buy for you.  This may be embarassing for him also, so just say "dad  - I am growing up and there are things mum used to buy for me but I have been too embarrassed to talk to you.  Could you please give me some money to buy what I need?"  He will understand.  I am sure with everything that has been going on he just does not realize that you have started your periods.  Men are oblivious to their little girls growing up.  Just be honest with him.  Good Luck!

Answer 16

sorry to hear about you mum, if its really that bad asking your dad for these thing try your local family planning clinic as they will give you them for free, also ask at school if u have a school nurse they will help to, if not have you got an aunty or someone that can help? Just dont suffer in scilence

Best of luck

Answer 17

Just tell him you need 'x' amount of money each month to buy personal supplies.  If you just tell him to buy tampons he won't have a clue what to buy as there are 50 billion choices on the shelf.  Also, If you're old enough to have your period, you're probably old enough to throw your own sheets in the wash when you overflow.

Sorry about your mom.  I can't imagine what you must be going through.

Answer 18

just say to your dad, 'dad can i have some money for girl things'. something along those lines he should understand

Answer 19

I think he just forgets about it because he never really bought them for you before. You can always ask to do some chores like the laundry. So you can wash the sheets yourself and earn money to buy pads or tampons. You can even go shopping with him and pick them up yourself. Or just always tell him that you need them and ask for money so you can buy it yourself.

Answer 20

You need to talk to your Dad, don't be shy as he knew your Mum had periods, I doubt if he's thought about it. Tell him you need a small allowance each month for personal things. As for the sheets put them in the washing machine yourself with some stain remover. At night wear pads  maybe 2 as well as a tampon.

Good Luck.

Answer 21

well now your dad is taking responsibility for you he is going to have to learn about these girl problems, i'm sure he will be as embarresed as you when you tell him your problem but he will definatly understand or just ask him for some money and if he asks what its for tell him women problems and then he might understand and take it as a hint. but i'm sure if you just talk to him he will understand you will probably laugh about it later on

Answer 22

I live with my dad and when i first started i didn't want to tell him.

Just take him to one side or TEXT HIM.

i always text my dad to get me some, and be like dad can you get me some tampons or give me the money please?

I am very sorry to hear about your loss and hope that you and our family get over this tragic time. Well done to your dad.

x*x

Answer 23

i am so sorry to hear about your mum hun. take it easy and be strong for your family. i know its not easy *hugs*. Btw, you cant live like this sweet. Its bad and unhealthy. You're dad knows women have periods but forgotten as it prob was your mum in charge of that department. It hasnt hit him yet. You need to ask for money to buy lady things. No need to be shy or emabaresed. He needs to be made aware of it. Please dont be shy. its nothing to be shy of. Men know these things anyway. please wash your sheets and stuff. Its not good to be living in that condition. it will make you open up a bit more too. please please talk to your dad. if not, then an auntie or gran or friends mum but please dont suffer in silence like this. you wont be able to keep it up forever. Hugs from me x

Answer 24

It may be uncomfortable, but you need to let him know what you need.  There's a good chance that he may not think about it.  Or you could tell him that you need a certain amount of money to buy the products that he might be too embarrassed to buy himself.

Answer 25

your dad will understand!!

its perfectley natural because i was in exactley the same position but once i told my dad it was fine ,so dont worry because your dad will understand!! And i am so sorry to hear about your mom.

tell him!! good luck! xx

Answer 26

Why don't you ask a friends mum to get them for you? Or maybe you could ask for money to buy a top, and then spend a bit less on the top and buy them.

Answer 27

When i go shopping with my dad, i just say i need to go get something, then i put it in the cart. When he sees what it is, he doesn't say anything, just pays for it. Just ask to come with when shopping sometimes.

Answer 28

tell him you need some tampons girl...if your that embarassed talk to a friends mother about the situation..

Answer 29

aw my friend went thru the same thing... she started her periods a few months before her mom died, and she was always saying to my mom "can u drive me to get some pads?" or if she was unable to go out she would call me and ask me to go get her some.

ask a close friend, for now, but you are going to have to talk to ur dad about it eventually. this september will mark 2 years that her mom has been gone, and her dad knows exactly what kind of pads she uses. :]

im so sorry about your loss, i hope everything gets better.

Answer 30

Just ask for a certain amount of money to buy "womans things"

Im sure he will undertstand.

Answer 31

just when your at the grocery store pick them up adn put them in the cart. it not a big deal. if your too scraed ask a friend