My Dad wont let me date until he gets a shotgun, but he said that he will NEVER own a shotgun in his life. ?

Question

Is he being paranoid? Cuz he's really bothering me, I have been secretly going out with guys but been breaking up with them incase he finds out.I dont want any nasty comments please. And Iam 13y/o .

Answer 1

lol I think my husband and your dad would get along great! He says the same thing about my 3 month old daughter! Your dad is obviously not being serious, but he wants you to be afraid to date, which seems to be working! Don't worry, whether you are 3 months, or 30 years old, you will always be your daddy's little girl and he only wants what is best for you.

Answer 2

Your Dad will find out. Rest assured..he will find out. Your dad is teasing you about getting a shot gun - but I can guarantee you this - if you break his trust by going behind his back he will NEVER trust you when it is time for you to start dating.  13 years old is WAY too young.  If i knew your dad, I'd tell him myself.

Answer 3

Be happy that he's protective...my dad didn't care about anything I did and still doesn't...but your dad will probably come around.  I'm sure he's joking about the shotgun thing.  

Answer 4

he is just being a protective dad. i',m 13 and my mom says that i can start dating when i'm out of college. yeah right i'm gonna  ask a guy out sometime this year

Answer 5

He is being dramatic to scare you. Sneaking around is only going to get you into trouble. You need to talk to him, tell him you would like to start dating but you don't want to sneak around. tell him you will always keep him informed of what you are doing & who you will be with. The most important thing is to never lie to him, you need to earn his trust, and by being responsible & never lieing is the best way to.

Answer 6

I think he's just trying to scare you into not going out with boys. You should just invite a guy over as a friend and let him get used to having guys in the house. He just doesn't want his baby to do dirty things with boys but I'm sure you have more sense than that :]

STORY TIMEEE :D

One time I invited my boyfriend [at the time] over for the first time and my dad got my brother's airsoft gun and started messing with it before the guy got here. When he came in my dad was holding the gun and went to shake the guys hand and he was like "Oh, um sorry about that" and put down the gun to shake his hand. The guy was like O_O

hehehe :P

Answer 7

Fathers can be very protective, but as a mother I think 13 is still to young to "date" Kids are in such a hurry to grow up in this day and age. Does your father let you do things with groups of people? That is the safest thing to do. When I was your age I wasnt allowed to date either.  Matter of fact I didn't go on my first date until I was 16. I might have been upset at the idea then but now that Im a parent as well.... I could brightly see where my parents were coming from. Have fun with your friends, get involved with school activities.... the time will come for dating soon enough  enjoy being a kid.  

Answer 8

He is teasing you. Dad's don't want their little girls get hurt.

My dad says next time I have a guy at the house he'll be loading his gun next to the door and sharpening his knife.

Answer 9

Your dad isn't letting you date for one simple reason, pal. YOU ARE WAY TOO YOUNG !!!! At your age, you need to be concentrating on SCHOOL, and on getting the best education you can, NOT on planning how to get laid and get pregnant, which is what's going to happen if you keep this up. You are just lucky your dad hasn't caught you sneaking out until now- I guarantee you, he WILL, sooner or later, and whoever you happen to be with at the time will probably end up in JAIL, pal. THINK WITH YOUR HEAD, NOT WITH YOUR HORMONES. This is NOT a smart thing to be doing- and if you get pregnant out of this, then be warned there's a good chance you'll either be thrown out of the house on your butt, forced to have an abortion, or BOTH. Your dad's threats to get a shotgun are NOT A JOKE- you need to take them seriously.

You have all the rest of your life in front of you- there will be plenty of time for dating, marriage, s*x, and a family once you are out of high school and college, and have a good job. DON'T WRECK your life by getting pregnant now- it isn't worth it, and you'll regret it for the rest of your life.

I agree with what your dad is doing- he's right, and you need to listen to him. He knows more than you do.  Enough said.  

Answer 10

Obviously I don't know your dad, but I suspect he is being sarcastic. What he means is that he doesn't like the thought of you dating.  No doubt he worries about you. Sarcasm is often used to cover up a person's discomfort with discussing a topic seriously.  I would guess that the two of you haven't really talked about dating except in this "joking" (but not funny) manner.

Going out with boys behind his back is not going to help the situation.  If he finds out, he will be even less likely to trust you in the future and he will crack down even harder.  I suggest you remind him that you're growing up and getting to the age where girls and boys socialize together.  He may be more open to the idea of a mixed gender group or to having boys at your house when he is home.  Ask if you could invite a few people (boys and girls) to watch movies or play games while he is around.  Maybe if he knows your friends, he would eventually let you go out in a group.

Try to get him to talk to you seriously about what is an appropriate age to go out alone with boys.  Thirteen is very young, even to me, and I'm a pretty liberal parent.  If you can show him that you're mature and responsible, he will be more likely to accept the fact that you're growing up.  And try to be patient.  I know it's hard, but you really do have lots of time.

Answer 11

It's a joke. He's not really ganna do it.

Answer 12

Honesty, your dating life usually starts to "matter" when you are 16+. For many the real relationships start at 18+.

At the age of 13, you are just dating because you want to have security or feel as if someone loves you.

Answer 13

do worry about the boys do your school work and prove to your dad that you can be responsible then one day when your a little older he should come around if not ask your mom to have a talk with him

Answer 14

haha he's got u there! sounds like your dad has a sense of humor. that's cool. he's probally just not wanting his little girl to grow up. repsect that. and when the time comes, i'm sure he and you will do just fine. my dad basiscally said the same thing, but it all worked out when i started dating

Answer 15

Lol. Your dad is just saything that as a joke. Like "you can date when the cows come home". it is just a saying. It means that you are too young to date now. Which you are. Boys at your age are Boys that is it. Plane and simple. I would wait till you are 16 years old. The boys turn into guys and are more mature.

Answer 16

that is kind of funny bc i just told my dad that i had a bf the other day and my dad always says the gun things and stuff and he said i am ok with that and the best part is that i am only 13. just tell him

Answer 17

You're 13. You'll have plenty of time to date. Get on with being a kid.

Answer 18

Not paranoid, he just knows how boys are and wants to keep you safe and clean.

My mom was the same way and now that I have a daughter I understand why.

Mentally I wasn't ready to deal with the emotions that come along with dating even though I thought I was. If I could go back to your age I would change how caught up in boys I was and focused more on things that were better and more fun than getting hurt feelings because of a boy.

I'm sure as you get older your dad will loosen up a bit, but just remember not to let your heart think that one boy is the world and you'll die if you can't be together.

Answer 19

He says that now..give a few years and he will come around right now hes having a hard time realizing. Daddies little girl isn't really daddies little girl any more. Don't be in such a hurry to date your time will come.

My dad really did meet every guy that ever took me with a gun in his hand. I just got used to it. Some guys didn't stick around or call the next day. But I realized that is just how my dad is and I found a great guy he couldn't scare off. Now my dad and boyfriend at very close. I didn't date til I was almost 16.