My Dog doesn't love me please help!!?

Question

my poodle is 4 and i just feel like she doesn't like me as much she gets way shaky when i hold her and she was been like running away from me when i go up to her. I'm almost about to cry. this is my baby i love her so much i just don't know what to do to get closer to her again. ive never laid a hand on her. She never does any thing wrong. she is so sweet and i love her. How can i get closer to her???

Answer 1

Start off with picking up your puppy and touch him with love and care. You can start by carrying him like carrying babies where his back is facing your lap and touch him thoroughly ( Make sure he is in comfortable position). Initially he might be struggling and trying to get away does not get panic and pushing him too hard. Try to reassure and comfort his by rubbing his tummy and talk to him gently (say something that praising and rewarding) until he feel comfortable and relax when you carrying, wrapping and touching him.

Try to reach every part of your puppies, from his tummy to his legs and toes. Primarily he might not feel comfortable for you to do so, but as time goes by he will slowly start to enjoy by nipping your finger in playing and squirming around when you are touching him. Besides you, make sure everyone in the family get the time to play around of massaging him. Practice this until your puppies will stay there calmly and willingly for you to touch around without hesitation.

Try this and see whether it can help!

Answer 2

put bacon in your pocket. jUst kidding.  Did you color your hair?  have a new boyfriend? Is her eyesight bad?  If all of those are no then get her fave treat or toy and sit on the ground next to her and let her come to you....

Answer 3

the key is to go slow with her. dont approach her let her come to you. she will come when shes ready it may take a while but be patient! poodles are usually a one person dog they like their own and no one else. when she does come to you give her her favorite toy or treat but dont get to excited it will make her nervous. baby step! she will come around!!

Answer 4

I don't know if you had her her whole life or not. If not there is a chance she could have been abused previously. You just need to hold her or if she runs away, sit down on the floor as close as you can get to her without her running. Talk in a slow soft voice almost a whisper. Cheer her on. Use words like " good girl, i love you, its okay." give her extra attention and don't get your self worked up. Animals science those things and it causing them to get extra nervous. Constantly reassure her. Give her treats to let her be spoiled. Also, do not take her to the same place to be groomed. The next place let them know what happened previously and explain how mandatory it is for her to have a good treatment with no harm at all to her for any reason.

Answer 5

Dont pry and use food and overtime they will come to like you

Answer 6

show it some love? i lay on the ground with my dog and it plays and couldn't be happier. Dogs dont like to be picked up usually.

Answer 7

she proberly is trying to play x

Answer 8

It surprises me that this behaviour has only just started - in which case you need to consider whether or not she may be ill, and a vet visit may be in order.

If the cause is not medical you need to remember that your dogs does like you but that she may be trying to express to you her dislike of something else.  A likely cause of this is actually ...being picked up.

Dogs do not pick each other up and although many small dogs do have to put up with this from their human companions and some even come to enjoy being held a good many do not actually like the 'feeling' of being picked up.  



Typically a dog that doesn't like being picked up will avoid you as you bend over - moving further away, may lower their own body to the ground in a manner similar to a submissive crouch and will start avoiding the 'come' command if they feel that they are going to be picked up.

If you think this may possibly be her problem you could try not picking her up but instead encouraging her over to you whilst you are on the floor and allowing her to climb onto your lap for cuddles.  Some dogs can even be taught to jump into their owners arms.

In regards to grooming - if your dog has been getting clipped or groomed on a regular basis it is likely that she knows how to behave (and would not therefore behave in a way that would induce rough handling from the groomer).  

Because dogs do not hold onto issues it is unlikely that she would still be reacting to a bad grooming experience after a few hours back at home.

Hope this gives you a few more ideas to consider.

All the best

  

Answer 9

If prior to the haircut she was loving to you, then that is probably what happened...she was upset because of that.  She somehow sees you as responsible for whatever she went through.  Probably is afraid that you will take her again for another hair cut.  

What I would do is gently win her over again.  Give her treats, lots of love, and give her time.  She will come around.  

I am wishing you both a happy life together.  

Answer 10

I would say the haircut was the issue.  If you have a change in your pets behavior, you should take them to a vet, but since you figured it out, I would say it is a haircut issue.

Answer 11

I would have to guess that you are doing something your dog doesn't like.  Do you pick her up as a dog should be lifted or do you lift her up by her front legs (OUCH)?  Do you insist on smothering her with hugs and kisses?  This means a lot to people but dogs may be very uncomfortable with it.  Do you force her into clothing when she'd rather be left to her nap?

Do you play dog games with her, like fetch?  Have you trained her to do anything?  Do you walk her and groom her? Do you treat her like a real dog or like a baby?  Do you know where dogs like to be petted/scratched?  

Enrolling in some classes with her could help, as long as they are not the old jerk and pop choke collar kind.  Look for clicker classes or get a book/dvd and learn to do it yourself.

Another thing to think about is whether you are in some way rewarding her "I'm shaking" and her running from you.

Answer 12

I think that dogs are a lot like people in many ways. They don't like to be smothered and if they feel you are overwhelming them with affection, they are going to retract. My advice would be to let her come to you more. Give her her space and offer her treats often to help her associate you with positive things. Good luck!