My EX is Confused what should i do and think?

Question

Basically, about 2 months ago me and my gf broke up, the reason being is because we were in a rut and wanted to get a bit more exciting, now instead of saying "lets get out of this rut" i broke it off....i spent the next month and a half regreting that!

Recently we made contact again....i still love her and have learn't from all my mistakes and would NEVER be taht rash or immature again. We have started to see each other but she she says shes confused as to what she wants, what does this mean?

She tells me what it was like for her when we broke up and said she didn't stop crying, didn't eat didn't sleep for 2 weeks. I feel for her and never meant to cause that much pain.

She doesn't come accross as loving as she used to be now we're seeing each other....is this normal?

The reason i'm asking this is cause i want to know what to do, i've told her that i still love her and never stopped loving her....she says that shes confused! What would you do?

How does she feel really (froma girls point of view)

I'm much more thoughtful and romantic (i actually like my self this way) she says its weird me being around saying and acting the way she wanted me to be when we were together....i say that i've learnt by my mistakes and have missed her!

she still says shes confused. what do i say and do? leave her to think about what she wants, what? I would never hurt her again!

Answer 1

She is just defensive and doesn't want to let her guard down too soon and get hurt again. Give her time and lots of love and care.

Answer 2

it was probably a mistake going back.  she doesn't trust you and now you are suffering the consequences.  things change after an event such as a break up.  you both may have learned a few things about yourself and maybe it might take time to get used to, or you need to call it quits again.

Answer 3

tell her you will carry the load until she recovers from whatever scar is healing in her heart and mind.  learning from your mistakes...carrying the greater burden of loving someone, giving instead of receiving for awhile is a form of penance for causing her pain.  it's the lesson.  continue to make good and happy experiences with her.  

Answer 4

You need to start from the scratch and see how things develope.

Answer 5

were u in the same condition as she was those 2 weeks....do u realy lv her............

i think

she is scared to lv u the same way now she is more conservative now...

make her feel dat u wont do dat again...........n u can be trusted.....

its dificult not impossible...................

so try ur best help her out from her confusion.............

Answer 6

she's scared it will happen again basically.

she doesn't want to be hurt and even though you say you won't she didn't think you would last time but you did.

just give her time, keep showing her that you want to be with her and eventually she will realise that this is how you feel and what you want.

Answer 7

Well, I do Understand where the both of you are coming from.  I understand why you may have broken things off.  When things get in a rut, its hard to re kindle that.  But usually what needs to be done is just try new things, and communicate.  Every relationship goes through their ruts, its how you handle them, and how you come out of them that stregnthens your bond.  Communication is a major key to any good strong relationship!  

As for her, She is probably feeling hurt because if all the pain she went through when you broke up.  It sounds like she had a really tough time.  Putting myself in her shoes, I would have this guard up afraid you may do that again.  

In conclusion, What I would say to do is just stick by her, love her every moment you can, show her your not going anywhere, and communicate with her. Talk to her about both of your feelings.  I can already tell you are a sensitive guy who cares alot about her, because if you arent, you wouldnt be here writing asking for advice!  Goodluck with it sweetie!