My Ex is threatening to get me fired. What can I do ? ?

Question

A few months ago I was seeing this girl. It wasn't anything serious but things didn't end that great but instead of being honest and telling me that she didn't want to see me again, she made up some story about moving to another country. Recently I got a new job at this great company but it turns out that she also works there albeit in another department. I never knew this because she never told me where she worked but when she found out that I was working there she accused me of stalking her and said the only reason I applied there was because I knew she was working there even though she told me she was moving out of the country, she said if I didn't quit she would get me fired. It took me a long time to find a job so I don't want to quit but then again I don't want her to ruin my reputation. What should I do ?

Answer 1

Just do your job and ignore her.  Management will figure out who the flake is if she pushes it.

Answer 2

Have no contact with her whatsoever. If you can, block all of her numbers, email addresses, etc. If you have a human resources department, tell them upfront about the situation, with as little emotion as possible- tell them that you want no contact with this woman and inform them that it is SHE who is harassing YOU. She might very well be the one who ends up being fired.

Answer 3

First, go to your supervisor and tell exactly the facts you used above. Avoid "naming names." Tell the supervisor that you think it might be appropriate to proactively explain the issue to Human Resources, but want his/her approval before you take that step.

That shows the supervisor you understand the chain of command, and you're willing to be candid about a potentially explosive issue.

If the supervisor agrees, go to HR and tell the same story without offering her name. If HR asks you to give up her name, give it.

This shows HR that you understand the value of discretion, and are being mature, not vengeful.

If the supervisor doesn't want you to take the issue to HR, you've still notified SOMEONE of the issue, and if things go nuts, HR will want to know why you didn't go to them first. Then you can say that you were ordered not to, and your supervisor will be on the hot seat.

Most importantly, avoid drama, be mature and discrete. If anyone (outside your bosses or HR) inquires about the situation, just say something like, "remember, there are always two sides to every story, and although I've done nothing wrong, I'd rather not discuss my personal life at work."

Good luck.

Answer 4

HAVE NO FURTHER CONTACT WITH HER

Go to your boss today and tell them exactly what has transpired.  This is workplace harassment.  You have legal rights and you need to protect them.  Tell your boss that she is harassing you and that you want to protect your job.  They are required by law to act to protect you from this.

HAVE NO FURTHER CONTACT WITH HER

Answer 5

I think you need to talk to your supervisor.  Let them know that you love your new job, but you are also being harassed by a former partner who works there. Tell them you do not want any trouble but you are also wondering how to deal with this since she seems upset that you are there and has promised to cause you trouble.  This way you go on the books as being the victim before she can stir up anything damaging and it reduces any accusations she makes to the catagory of "domestic issues" which workplaces will not get involved in.

If they ask about the nature of the break-up, be sure to mention that "it was apparently you, since she said she was leaving the country but a simple goodbye I am not interested would have been fine".  That makes her sound like the nut-job.  Now, you do need to steer clear of her, because if she did beark up with you because you were a little too close or too controlling or too into things when she was not - she could have a basis to call this stalking.  But if you only hired on there by accident, talk to your supervisor and then just stay away from her - if she is not seeing you constantly, she will forget about you in time and things will cool off.

Answer 6

talk to your supervisor ASAP and let him/her know what is going on.  If possible set up a meeting, you, her and both of your supervisors and tell her in front of them that she lied to you when she said that she was leaving the country, you did not know that she worked for this company and and that you are not interested in her so back off.

Answer 7

Keep your job... don't quit.  Have as little contact with her as possible.  Document any contacts.