My Fiance's sister hates me.?

Question

My fiance's sister hates me. We used to be very good friends, i even got her a job beside me (she has resigned now). It all changed at new year 2007. On new years day his sister and her boyfriend and i were still partying from the night before (just the three of us) Her boyfriend was being very nice to me (offering to get me drinks things) she did not like this and started makin nasty comments such as "I first realized Jamie was g*y when he brought Carrie home" I found this very strange because it was like she just switched into a different person. Since then she has been telling her mum and dad and other sisters that i use my fiance's credit card to go shopping (which i have never done) and that i take advantage of him (which i never have). When im at his parents house and i walk into a room that she is in, she walks out and says "i HATE her" She also says that i stole her brother away from her even though she used to tell him to stay at home so that she could go clubbing with me because it 'wouldn't be as fun if he was there' This all came as a huge shock to me and i was very upset and so was my fiance. My fiance has since told her that she doesn't know what she is talking about and to stop being horrible to me etc... I finally snaped a few weeks ago and told her in an email what i thought of her. This all completely back fired and my fiance's mum and dad were not happy with me (they are alright now though) His sister gets away with everything and she is getting away with this. My fiance doesn't reall spend time or talk to her anymore because she is so nasty to me. His other 2 sisters are fine with me, it's just her that has got this huge problem. Beause of all the things she has done and said about me, i don't like her now and if it was anyone else i wouldn't see them ever again but it's my fiance's sister so i can't not see her. I really am so angry at her and i'm starting to hate her for everything that she has done. What can i do to make things right? or can anyone tell me what they would do if you were in my shoes? Thanks.

Answer 1

ignore her, the harder you try to patch tings up the more she will 'remember' you doing to antagonise her. my FSIL is the same we use to b friends. we were both youngand said/did dumb things and she still wont let anything go and smehow the stories have changed ALOT. now FH and i have bought our own house and she isnt welcome here. he will retrn her msgs and be civil when they see each other but she is no longer a constant fixture in his life (shes said alot of hurtful things) and she has nothing to do ith me. she isnt coming to ouyr wedding and whn we have children she will not meet them...they certainly wont need her negativity