My Friend Is Having Parent Trouble

Question

He and his parents don't get along well

AT ALL

His parents have been abusive all of his life and if he doesn't get a job or go to college by October 2008 he will be sent into the army.

I didnt think you could force an 18 year old into the Army, but that's not stopping his parents from forging his signature. His parents say that he has to listen to them and that they can do whatever they want.

He cant even move away because he lives in the city and the streets are rough. He has no friends that have room for him and cant save up money to go to West Virginia to live with his girlfriend because his mom will literally go into his room, go in his wallet, and take his money.

His dad also does some kind of drug and committed murder and was in jail before. His family is no better than his parents so he wont be living with another relative instead. What should he do! What should me and his girlfriend do?

Should we just let this happen? Or should we call some kind of child abuse hot line to help him out? He IS 18 so we dont know if that would work. HELP!

Answer 1

I would say to call some sort of authority, this sounds really bad.

Answer 2

give him a room to stay in. you seem rather concerned

Answer 3

Call for help

Answer 4

Well he's 18 now. The law and police are on his side. They don't have to play favor to the parents. He currently resides at his home address, he has mail sent there, he has his bills sent there. His parents can't "throw him out on the streets." They have to go through civil court and get him evicted. I doubt they're too intelligent to pull that off. Afterall they want to forge his name on army contracts. If parents open his mail. That automatic fine/jail time! REPORT IT. If his parents go through his things. That's breaking and entering. He has tenant RIGHTS and his room is HIS. If his parents steal form him, I think that requires legal action. Quickly call the police. Especially if it's stealing money. If his parents forge his name on an army contract. They will be charged heavily and could be jailed if he reports it. If his parents really do "abuse" him physically, then call the police!

Call your local, non-emergency, police department. Tell them this story and they will ensure the parents never steal from him again so he can save up. Stealing form your child so he can't move out is incredibly ILLEGAL. This adult has civil human rights that are protected if he asks for help.

Answer 5

The answer is he's 18. Child protective services won't help anymore, he's legally an adult. He has to stand up to the abuse now. This is something that he has to do. Technically, the taking his money thing is stealing but I don't know if anything can actually be done about that, it sounds like he lives in a big city where the police have to worry about a lot more than a little stealing.If the father has already done jail time for the drugs and murder theres not much you can do about that either. He's just got to stand up to them,  you guys can help by encouraging him. Help him open a bank account where his parents won't have access so instead of having all his cash on him he can save his money to move out.  

Answer 6

Contact the police. Immidiatly. they may be his parents but this has to stop. God bless your friend <33333

Answer 7

tell everything you just told us to the cops. and they will take care of the rest. i guarantee it

Answer 8

His parents cannot forge his signature.  They can throw him out of the house though.  I completely agree with the parents.  If he's not in school then he should be working.

If things are that bad then he should want to get a job so that he can move out of the house.

Answer 9

I sure hope that you don't bellieve all of this. Nobody can forge your name on a military enlistment contract for beginners.

All of the other things are so unbelievable also. If he is 18 he can make lots of choices, and he is actully giving you a line of BS. Sorry you fell for any of it.

Answer 10

well that does seem like a really bad situation lets see ...... well if he runs away he wouldn't be hidden eventually they'll  find him bu its not just the parents fault but I'm not blaming the kid but he also has to get a job. maybe the parents are like that because the parents aren't financially good status i think if your friend gets a job and does some help around the house his parents wouldn't treat him like that i think if he does that he can have a little respect from his parents. And does you friend know why his mom takes his money. has he asked her and is he sure it was his mom

Answer 11

why doesn't he get a job and go to college?

" cant save up money to go to West Virginia to live with his girlfriend because his mom will literally go into his room, go in his wallet, and take his money."

he can't save anyway if he doesn't have a job....

his parents may be abusive but at least they are makin him get a job and go to college