My Friend needs me,I dont know what to do please help ?

Question

Please anyone help me to help my best friend,he use to take drugs(that is a long time ago, before even we have met), now he has stopped... but when ever he feels nervous...or depressed,he just takes intoxicateing medicines to remain calm...,I always ask him not to do so... he agrees but again he does that whenever things gets worse.... we work in same place(we are 23 years old), meet every day , talk a lot... last month he got marreid, I asked him not to marry this early because I thought that it will give gime more tension & worries...as we have poor financial status... now he is faceing more hurdles in his life than before due to house hold matters .... I am really worried that if he cant cope with this he will turn back to drugs... I dont want this to happen.. i love him so much.. what should I do to keep him happy all the time.... ? Please suggest some thing...

Answer 1

I'd try hanging out with him more so he can forget about his stress and just have some fun with his friend.

You could try asking him if he wants to hang out after work every now and then. If he says he can't, than you could arrange for another day.

There isn't very much you can just say to him that will really help when you're not around. So hanging out more often will make your words start to affect him more in the long run.

Answer 2

first of all no offence but his marriage is his problem

on the other hand i think you should sit down with his wife and discuss these things because telling someone they have a problem is the hardest thing to do.

he seems to trying to solve the problem with drugs or thast what made him depressed in the first place, first maybe try rehab see where it goes and some cbt on top of that or at least self therapy.  

Answer 3

Sorry but I sincerely think that there is no help for him and he is headed all down hill till he completely hits bottom. I don't think there is anythiing you can do because he has refused all help you have suggested to him. When an adult does that he has to do it on his own. He considers himself the boss of what he does and will take no outside interferrence. All you can do as a friend is to just be there if he needs someone. Otherwise stay a safe distance and be the one looking in from the outside. Don't let him pull you in with him.

Answer 4

Maybe go to a counsellor and get some professional help, so that he can learn how better to deal with the stressful situations that life throws at us constantly, he is using alchol or drugs as a crutch to help him through, but that doesn't solve the problem ut only numbs it for a time, but the problem is still there, so he needs to learn how to deal with the problem instead of hiding from it or opting out, its not going to be easy but he really needs to do it now before things get out of control, hope this helps you, goodluck! :)

Answer 5

I know you are trying to be supportive but you are overstepping the boundaries of friendship. Marriage does present hurdles and issues when it starts because two people are trying to learn to work as one, you cant interfere with that if you do you risk losing your friendship altogether....even the poor can be happy if they are allowed to sort through things for themselves but aside from that the thing that concerns me most is that you want to know what to do to keep him happy all the time....no one is happy all the time that is unrealistic and you are only responsible for your own happiness not his, he is responsible for his own happiness. He, according to you, has been clean for a long time that in itself shows his inner strength however if he chooses to take drugs nothing you say or do will change things for him. So be a good friend, be supportive but be aware of the boundaries.