My Friends are Morbidly Obese?

Question

and I am skinny. They ask me where I want to go out and eat, and I say Sam's, Then they go there, and i see that they can't fit in the chairs and say let's go somewhere else. Then they say let's go to a coffee shop, and they again same thing they don't fit in the chairs and say let's leave. Then after all this time we find seats that suit THEM.

Since I eat less and cut back on dessert which is my diet regimen, I still order something sweet but they practically say eat eat, get some more.

Should I reconsider my friendship? I mean really don't mind being a friend, and all, but if I have to cater to them and their ways and eating, am I being left OUT? Or do I have to make friends that are like minded?

Answer 1

My wife has the opposite problem she is morbidly obese and her three closest friends are slim gym bunny types. Whenever they go out to eat her friends purposely request a table as not to embarrass my wife. This is common courtesy on their part and my wife is grateful for it. The only problem is that all her skinny friend’s order desert and then complain that they are too full to eat it and then proceed to feed it to my wife or send it home with her. They work together and they are also always bringing my wife home baked cakes, cookies and pies because they know my wife can’t resist that stuff. They’ve doing it for years now and my wife is getting bigger and bigger while her friends are staying slim. I’m beginning to think that my wife’s friends are doing it purposely so that when they go out for girl’s night my wife (who by the way is very pretty) won’t be a threat or competition. A while back I actually overheard two of them remarking on how fat my wife was getting and how they thought it was kind of interesting, disgusting and funny all at the same time. This suggests to me that they have a morbid fascination with feeding my wife. Even though I like a large woman I keep trying to tell my wife to ditch them as friends because I think their intention toward her are unhealthy. The problem is, my wife doesn’t want to hear it and she just thinks I’m being paranoid.

I think many times friends try to influence or sabotage each other in ways that are not exactly good for a healthy relationship. Because of deep seated petty jealousies or envious attitudes they may not even know they are doing it. My advice to you when dealing with your friends is to try and remove yourself from situations where food may be involved. That way they can’t influence you and you can still consider them as friends